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DarkSteven -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 5:08:25 AM)

OP, learn to accept the fact that diapers are not mainstream.  We're tolerant of your kink but we don't want to share it.  You have three strikes against you:

1. You're a male sub wanting a Mistress.  Odds are not that good.
2. You have a diaper fetish.  That's uncommon and reduces your odds.
3. You are pissed off that your desires are not mainstream and that Dommes are not jumping at the chance to be with your kink.  That completely kills any chances you may have had.

You have three choices.  You can pay a Dominatrix for a session (and good luck finding one into your kink) or you can learn that women will want to come first as a person, not as a kink fulfillment system.

Or you can whine.



sunshinemiss -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 5:33:56 AM)

There you go again Steven being all practical and .... stuff.



sirsholly -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 5:40:57 AM)

quote:

You have two choices. You can pay a Dominatrix for a session (and good luck finding one into your kink) or you can learn that women will want to come first as a person, not as a kink fulfillment system.

Or you can whine.

psssst....hey Stevie...that's three.



myotherself -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 5:51:29 AM)


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ORIGINAL: bbskippy

i was wondering why it seems like so many people list diapers as one of their hard limits.  i mean we all started out in diapers. Tell me what is the problem?


Volume.

And hair.




LadyPact -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 7:16:01 AM)

I'm going to state up front for the record that I know this is wrong.  I just can't help Myself.

Years ago, there was a great comedy bit that Bill Cosby did in a show that he entitled Bill Cosby - Himself.  During which, there was a short routine about bringing a new baby home.  In it, he was talking about how cute it is to have a new baby and how everything related to a new member of the household is cute, even changing diapers.

"Oh, aren't you a cute little thing.  You made a poo poo.  Yes, you did.  You can make a poo poo when you want to poo poo."

"Six weeks later....... God put odor in the poo poo."

That's exactly when it stops being cute.



sirsholly -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 7:37:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm going to state up front for the record that I know this is wrong.  I just can't help Myself.

Years ago, there was a great comedy bit that Bill Cosby did in a show that he entitled Bill Cosby - Himself.  During which, there was a short routine about bringing a new baby home.  In it, he was talking about how cute it is to have a new baby and how everything related to a new member of the household is cute, even changing diapers.

"Oh, aren't you a cute little thing.  You made a poo poo.  Yes, you did.  You can make a poo poo when you want to poo poo."

"Six weeks later....... God put odor in the poo poo."

That's exactly when it stops being cute.

And that's also the time hubby's helpful streak has worn off.[8|]



GraciousLady -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 7:38:10 AM)

He isn't looking for a Dominamt; he's looking for a submissive. He wants someone to do what he wants and is willing to train them or pay for it. (go read his profile) He's confused about how this lifestyle works.

Excuse me bbskippy, your not submissive. Your a Dominant. Get a sub to diaper and change you. Honestly, I'm not being mean. I'm making a real suggestion about how to deal with your kink.



GraciousLady -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 7:40:29 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

OP, learn to accept the fact that diapers are not mainstream.  We're tolerant of your kink but we don't want to share it.  You have three strikes against you:

1. You're a male sub wanting a Mistress.  Odds are not that good.
2. You have a diaper fetish.  That's uncommon and reduces your odds.
3. You are pissed off that your desires are not mainstream and that Dommes are not jumping at the chance to be with your kink.  That completely kills any chances you may have had.

You have three choices.  You can pay a Dominatrix for a session (and good luck finding one into your kink) or you can learn that women will want to come first as a person, not as a kink fulfillment system.

Or you can whine.


He has the whine stuff down pat.



OttersSwim -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 8:22:29 AM)

We know a couple here in Denver - Femdom/girlie-boy submissive.  They do a bit of protocol in their dynamic and he must ask for permission to go to the bathroom when she is in his vicinity.  He was running late for an engagement, and went without asking her.  It was not a major infraction, but the sort of thing that they enjoy in their dynamic as it provided an idea for some play.  His punishment was to wear diapers for two days, and to use them, and she did change him.  The overall experience for them was good, but it was just a single experience in an overall dynamic relationship.

OP, a lot of what Steven said is true.  Having a diaper fetish is really narrowing the pool of women who are going to be interested.  And if they are, it is going to more than likely be for a one-time event like the one I described above.

If you have a "little" inside you, there are ways to explore that as part of an overall much expanded dynamic of D/s.  But if you simply make it the only thing you are -all about-, you are unlikely to attract a Lady to consider you.  No different than crossdressing, trampling, cuckholding, etc.  If you are just a one-trick-pony, what's in it for the Lady, and how many times can you do the "diaper thing" before it just gets old and trite...where then?  Diapers are just a single note in what should be a symphony.

I can only recommend to you that you really look at both the Dominant Women here and in your local community.  Study what they are looking for.  I think that what you will find is that the overwhelming majority are looking for - a relationship, possibly a dedicated relationship; a diverse D/s dynamic; an undercurrent based on service and possibly love; and various forms of bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism.  All focused on them.  Not us, but focused on them.  Sort of the point really...  [;)]

If you only present a single fetish that is totally focused on you...  [:o]

Hope that helps.  [:)]



SweetDommes -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 9:52:33 AM)

FR

Referring to another thread on the boards, we want a man, not a boy (although we probably will call him 'boy' often). So, if we want a man, why would we want one who's primary focus is acting like a baby? While neither Holly nor I have reproduced, we have multiple relatives who have, and are well aware of who is ultimately in control when it comes to diapers and potty training. We have absolutely no desire to have a "submissive" who wants to be in that position ... particularly at this point - shortly after finally getting stuck with a stinky diaper after over 2.5 years of avoiding them with my niece *gag* Nope, no desire at all for such a demanding "submissive" who has such an expensive kink ('cause I'm sure as hell not washing re-usable diapers for an adult, and buying replacement disposable ones isn't cheap).



Voodali -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 10:17:10 AM)

Unfortunately, OP, I count myself among the people who don't care for diapers.  In my case, I find adult babies to have a fascinating fetish, and would happily befriend one, or even be involved in some sort of group scene where I was not the Mommy, but as I am repelled by actual human babies (as opposed to adorable animal babies), the sounds they make, their gestures, the smells they emanate, the last thing I want to engage in play with is a larger version of one.
Having read your profile, though, I commend you for being realistic enough to offer compensation, and I truly hope you find what you're looking for !



CdnExplorer -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 10:21:52 AM)

There are dommes out there who are into this, but like others have said they're not very common. The best advice is to develop a relationship with a woman first and not make it all about the diapers. Sometimes people just need to be exposed to a kink in a positive way before they realize they're into it. I'm a prime example of that. The mere mention of chastity play used to send me running. After getting to know a Domme who was really into it I started to find enjoyment in it too, after a few months of just talking about it.

For another example I have a Domme friend here who was never into diaper play. At least, nothing in the years that I had known her had indicated the slightest interest in it. Then she met an AB who introduced her to his kink. She gave it a chance because she cared about him, and now they're engaged. Even people that are at first put off by mention of a kink can grow to like it. It's all about the presentation and not going straight from 0 to 100.



LadyConstanze -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 11:34:58 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: bbskippy

i was wondering why it seems like so many people list diapers as one of their hard limits.  i mean we all started out in diapers. Tell me what is the problem?


Personally, I am glad that I was potty trained, I am very happy that most people are potty trained, I'm glad that my pets are house trained - why would I want to deal with shit?



diaperedbaby -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 12:58:16 PM)

I always find it odd that the same people that are against this kink feel a need to respond every time it is brought up.
Not sure why that is?
If it isn't your thing, no problem.
But anyway, I would recommend a search using the search functions on this site to look up and find the people that are into that particular fetish.
I have that same interest and have found no problem finding folks that are interested. Several right from this very site.
They are out there so fill out your profile better and then be a little patient.
I just did a search using the words diaper, diapers, mommy ect. Quite a few hits came back both male and female.
There is more into that type of fetish than one would think.



myotherself -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 1:02:03 PM)


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ORIGINAL: diaperedbaby

I always find it odd that the same people that are against this kink feel a need to respond every time it is brought up.
Not sure why that is?



because in this case the OP specifically asked for feedback from people who have a problem with it.



LadyConstanze -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 1:10:13 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: diaperedbaby

I always find it odd that the same people that are against this kink feel a need to respond every time it is brought up.
Not sure why that is?
If it isn't your thing, no problem.
But anyway, I would recommend a search using the search functions on this site to look up and find the people that are into that particular fetish.
I have that same interest and have found no problem finding folks that are interested. Several right from this very site.
They are out there so fill out your profile better and then be a little patient.
I just did a search using the words diaper, diapers, mommy ect. Quite a few hits came back both male and female.
There is more into that type of fetish than one would think.


I'm not into this kink, and I couldn't care less about it, but you brought it up on a message board asking why it is a hard limit - so I gave you mine, what are you going to do? Complain that I answered your question?

Well enjoy your fetish then, but stop trying to make people feel bad who aren't into it! End of story!



LadyPact -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 1:24:29 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: diaperedbaby

I always find it odd that the same people that are against this kink feel a need to respond every time it is brought up.
Not sure why that is?


It might have everything to do with the fact that this is a discussion board.  That doesn't mean it is an 'only people who like this kink can answer' board.

Since you've had such wonderful success finding those who are willing to participate in this, why don't you write the OP on the other side and save him some trouble searching?  I'm sure that would be of some assistance, since there are droves of us who aren't into it.



diaperedbaby -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 1:27:34 PM)

I didn't ask the question, but did offer to help the op. Outside of that, it is your choice to feel bad about something.
Good point from the other post. If he wants some help, he can read my repsonse and feel free to contact me if he needs help beyond the basic searches.
As for droves of people not into it, possibly, but just a small group that are the same that repond negatively.



LadyConstanze -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 1:40:23 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: diaperedbaby

I didn't ask the question, but did offer to help the op. Outside of that, it is your choice to feel bad about something.
Good point from the other post. If he wants some help, he can read my repsonse and feel free to contact me if he needs help beyond the basic searches.
As for droves of people not into it, possibly, but just a small group that are the same that repond negatively.



I don't feel bad about not being into a fetish, it was asked on an open forum, he wanted opinions, you don't like them, well tough titty...

And he wanted to know why people are not into it, so sue me for answering, or go and play with your diapers, all the same to me.



OttersSwim -> RE: what do you think about diapers (4/3/2010 1:47:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: diaperedbaby

I didn't ask the question, but did offer to help the op. Outside of that, it is your choice to feel bad about something.
Good point from the other post. If he wants some help, he can read my repsonse and feel free to contact me if he needs help beyond the basic searches.
As for droves of people not into it, possibly, but just a small group that are the same that repond negatively.


What they are responding negatively to is the Single-Threaded-sub-Focused-Kink (STsFK).  You pick it - diapers, crossdressing, trampling, etc.  Same shit, different day:

Day 684: 

Subguy: "Hey, I have an idea!  Why don't you dress me in diapers again and humiliate me!  Then we can fill the whole house with poop smell as you change me again!  I'll go get on the table!"

Dommegal:  "sigh..."

Pick your single-threaded-sub-focused fetish and apply the above.  Turns into a yawn-fest for the Lady.  Sorry, but girls just don't work that way...especially dominant ones.

Deeper thought required...



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