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First Public Play Party - 4/2/2006 10:20:28 PM

BrianJ

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I am attending my first public play party as a submissive in a few days. I was wondering what items I should bring with me to be prepared for the party?

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RE: First Public Play Party - 4/2/2006 10:27:48 PM

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Your open mind, would be my best advice.

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RE: First Public Play Party - 4/2/2006 10:36:40 PM

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Your open mind, would be my best advice.

Excellent Advice!!

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RE: First Public Play Party - 4/2/2006 10:43:03 PM

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Thanks, Knight.

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RE: First Public Play Party - 4/3/2006 2:17:49 AM

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Fetish wear and a collar will do, and of course best if you go with your Goddess.

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RE: First Public Play Party - 4/3/2006 3:23:50 AM

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best to make sure you are clean, [and bodily hair shaved or tidy if required].

As previously stated, an open mind ... and courage !

It can be scary attending your first play in public, be brave, keep an open mind, try to relax and soak up the atmosphere... After all, its a memory that remains.. try make it a good memory.

have fun and enjoy.

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RE: First Public Play Party - 4/3/2006 4:51:41 AM

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A sense of adventure!

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RE: First Public Play Party - 4/3/2006 6:39:20 AM

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Here are a couple of links that might help make your first play party go smoother.
Have fun!

http://fetishexchange.org/protocol-and-etiquette.shtml
http://www.evilmonk.org/A/rules.cfm
http://www.leatherfamilyonline.com/full_story.cfm?i=39
http://www.steel-door.com/dungeon_etiquette.htm

oh yeah, and if you own any toys, take them in a discreet case, such as a gym bag.

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RE: First Public Play Party - 4/4/2006 10:13:21 AM

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Fetish wear and a collar will do, and of course best if you go with your Goddess.

You can wear a collar if you wish, but be aware that there are those that will think you are someone else's property and may not interact with you.

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RE: First Public Play Party - 4/5/2006 9:51:57 AM

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Very true, I'd never approach a submissive wearing a collar. While I know it can be just a fashion statement, it isn't worth the risk of offending another Dominant.

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RE: First Public Play Party - 4/5/2006 10:00:55 AM

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He enters, dips His lid

Apoligies for not having boobies here! but regardless of the sex I feel like jumping in.

If you are not 'going' with the protection of another and feel you may be'swamped' with emotions (and eye popping- goes with the territory and is very normal ) ask the hosts to introduce you to someone who could offer their arm, introduce you around yet show people you are with someone Real time, this should stop the fuckwit wannabes and give you breathing space to take in the sights.

No-one should ever expect to hit 'home runs' without knowing the ground, and the standard of the pitchers.... stand in the stalls and observe..
BDSM is about solid hits, worthy experiences, prepare yourself to enjoy that, not have the dissappointment of being 'struck out' by conversing overly long .with wannabes

No, to my thinking, wearing a collar would signify you as being collared or alternatively as being in la la land and not understanding what you seek yourself.

All the best for an exciting day!

Paul, Sir to His Wild Child.

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