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tboy72 -> connfused for sure (4/3/2010 7:47:05 PM)

I sent a Mistress a proper letter of introduction with a face pic. I offerd myself mind and body to her service, she sennt me a reply fabulous. That has left me confused..ok she did like the proper introduction and mybe the pic...but as far as serving her in r/t where does that leve me? I need to know how to respond to this or what should I take from this. Is she impressed but not interasted or what?



LadyPact -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 7:48:17 PM)

What did she write you in return?  If she's interested, she must have said something.



Rochsub2009 -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 7:50:11 PM)

i appreciate your confusion, but i am afraid that without more specific information, you are going to find that we are unable to offer you much concrete advice.  Would you care to offer more details on what she said? 

BTW, none of us is going to be able to tell you whether she is impressed or interested.  Only she will know that.



Lockit -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 7:52:36 PM)

If I send an email that said only fabulous, I would mean it as a good thing or a sarcastic thing. Someone emailing and offering all of himself in a first email... it would be the sarcastic fabulous.

He doesn't know me. It makes it seem like he would send this to anyone and maybe everyone and is just waiting for someone to say... yes you will... on your knee's.

A woman, any woman, wants to feel special and if you don't know them and offer your all, that isn't special.



domiguy -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 7:54:49 PM)

The public education situation in South Carolina is obviously in shambles.



RealSub58 -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 8:03:37 PM)

Just a question ~~  how can you say this in your profile

". . . be able to sahare with one another in all aspects of the relationship. Have a vanila job and contribute not someone who seeks like a leach. I would like to find the one and build on a relationship that can go the distance,that has substance and desire as I will always know my place."

and then pour your guts and life at someone's cyber feet having never spoken to them or built some sort of relationship as you say above.

Your introduction was rather "doormatish," dont you even agree?



VampiresLair -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 8:06:05 PM)

Chances are, that was sarcasm and she isnt interested. When I get very thoughtful yet self centered emails that I am not particularly interested in I respond with "Good for you" or something similar. If you got a one word reply, then she wrote back to let you know she read it, but lack of any attempt at conversation usually means she doesnt want one. 



PeonForHer -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 8:12:18 PM)

I really wouldn't advise writing anything heavy in the first instance, tboy.  Start with something just polite, friendly and vanilla.



OrpheusAgonistes -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 8:28:42 PM)

Well, for God's sake make sure you don't actually ask her for clarification.  This is definitely a question best left up to a haphazard tribunal of internet strangers to decide.



LadyPact -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 8:39:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

The public education situation in South Carolina is obviously in shambles.

And you think this is unique to the state of South Carolina? 



CarrieO -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 9:17:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tboy72

I sent a Mistress a proper letter of introduction with a face pic. I offerd myself mind and body to her service, she sennt me a reply fabulous. That has left me confused..ok she did like the proper introduction and mybe the pic...but as far as serving her in r/t where does that leve me? I need to know how to respond to this or what should I take from this. Is she impressed but not interasted or what?


So, do you make it a habit of randomly offering yourself, mind and body, to strangers?  Have you done this in real life or is this something you do only online?

What should you take from this exchange and how should you respond?  Those aren't questions anyone here can answer...unless one of the ladies here is the one you wrote to.

Was she impressed?  Why not ask her? 



DrkJourney -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 9:33:52 PM)

Actually, I've had this happen a lot.  Proper letter or no proper letter, when someone offers themselves to me on the very first email I am totally not interested.

I would think you just want any thing to submit to, and hole will do...as others have said you offer yourself, mind, body and soul to someone you've never spoken to before?  How could she take you seriously?  Do you walk up to a woman on the street, say "hello", introduce yourself, then ask her to marry you right then and there?

Did that really make sense to you?

Just because it's D/s it's still a relationship, actually even more so than vanilla...there is a whole other level of knowing and trusting someone

Please think about what you want and what you are doing...if some stranger does take you up on what you offer on the first email...you could get seriously injured. 

I tell people this and the first thing they say is I can take care of myself.  How are you going to take care of yourself when you are tied up?  You are at their mercy, which is why you need to know someone well enough to trust them.



GraciousLady -> RE: connfused for sure (4/3/2010 9:41:32 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: tboy72

I sent a Mistress a proper letter of introduction with a face pic. I offerd myself mind and body to her service, she sennt me a reply fabulous. That has left me confused..ok she did like the proper introduction and mybe the pic...but as far as serving her in r/t where does that leve me? I need to know how to respond to this or what should I take from this. Is she impressed but not interasted or what?


Why on earth would you offer yourself mind and body to a total stranger? Why would she want a total stranger mind and body? Why do you need to know how to respond? She is the Dominant and has given you no further instructions so there is likely nothing further for you to do.



tboy72 -> RE: connfused for sure (4/4/2010 7:15:23 PM)

PeonForHer,
  Thanks for the advice..



dreamerdreaming -> RE: connfused for sure (4/4/2010 7:19:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OrpheusAgonistes

Well, for God's sake make sure you don't actually ask her for clarification.  This is definitely a question best left up to a haphazard tribunal of internet strangers to decide.


Agreed. [:D]



tboy72 -> RE: connfused for sure (4/4/2010 7:24:22 PM)

Thanks for all the graet advice...domiguy I have no use for you. I have meet people like you...somebody with such low selfesteem that you have to put others down for any reason to hide your own. You were the bully in school and the one who always thinks there s--t dont stink.But in reality you are a shallow hole of a person.
    I will take the advice of all the others and I do relize my mistake. But that is human and we learn from them. Thanks again for those that had real advice and are willing to help and guide others.



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