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BoyBlue1986 -> Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 2:59:43 PM)
I must admit that I do enjoy putting on a show, and taking orders from perfect strangers online. It is a combination fetish of mystery, control, humiliation, and voyeurism. However, It is very rare to find somebody on the dominant side that gets anything from this. After reading many profiles, the general consensus I find is that it is mostly a way from subs to top from the bottom in demanding to go and cam and masturbate (my shows include lights dancing, special effect the likes that would put James Cameron to shame lol). Is this just a fetish that services the person on cam, or does the person viewing the cam get anything out of it? If I ask myself the same question it might be kind of fun to order somebody around on cam to do whatever I wanted them to but for the most part I think the "actors" get all the joy from this. Any thoughts??

Lockit -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 3:27:40 PM)
I ordered someone to give oral to the monitor and went and did my dishes. That about sum's it up for me. Funny, he never asked again. Come to think of it, I never heard from him again. [;)] I do believe he got more out of it than I did.

BoiJen -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 3:32:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit I ordered someone to give oral to the monitor and went and did my dishes. That about sum's it up for me. Funny, he never asked again. Come to think of it, I never heard from him again. [;)] I do believe he got more out of it than I did. This entertained me greatly. :-) boi

BoyBlue1986 -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 3:38:54 PM)
lol I thought i smelled Palmolive while I was licking my screen.....er...Crap.... J/k Funny post though. Thanks for the response :) Boy Blue

Lockit -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 3:39:42 PM)
ROFL!

GraciousLady -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 3:53:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit I ordered someone to give oral to the monitor and went and did my dishes. That about sum's it up for me. Funny, he never asked again. Come to think of it, I never heard from him again. [;)] I do believe he got more out of it than I did. This absolutly made my day!

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 4:00:08 PM)
I think you may be providing hours of fun for bored 14 year-old boys.

BoyBlue1986 -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 4:17:27 PM)
So to answer my question, no the pleasure from this is only in the hands of the person on cam?

LadyPact -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 4:39:06 PM)
Pretty much. I have no desire to order folks to pleasure themselves. People masturbate every day. It doesn't matter to Me on way or the other. Watching someone that I find desirable because I'm involved with that person is a different story. Some random stranger? It wouldn't do a thing for Me. (This may be exactly why you find so few people that are interested. Someone doing things on cam is never going to compare to someone who's in My life and is in My physical world.)

PeonForHer -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 5:04:06 PM)
Watching someone that I find desirable because I'm involved with that person is a different story. That connection does seem to make such a vast difference. At one point it's 'Oh no, don't say that or send her that pic. She'll freak and it'll all be blown'. But after that connection's been made, it can become 'What?! She can't want to read that / see that image, surely? It's disgusting!' Women are odd. Odder than I am, in fact - which takes some fecken doing.

AlexandraLynch -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 5:25:34 PM)
If there's already a relationship that's different, but even then it's not very satisfying; a piece of hard candy when you want steak. Otherwise....he has to be here for me to beat him, he has to be here to serve me, and he has to be here to give me an orgasm. Sorry, guys.

CarrieO -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 6:49:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AlexandraLynch a piece of hard candy when you want steak. Ohhh, let's play with this food analogy. OP, have a look at this LINK from the latest Saveur magazine. The photo is mouth-wateringly tempting and I can imagine the taste of the honey/balsamic glaze coating those succulent Berkshire pork chops. But...I can't sink my teeth into them. It's just food porn...a tease. I like to have my tastebuds zinging with the sweet and sour goodness of the actual dish...why would I settle for just a picture? Looking at that photo and the recipe makes me want to get into the kitchen and get down to business because I know I can. Watching some random guy jerk off or perform stupid human tricks online does nothing for me because there's no connection and the understanding there probably never will be. Tease and denial...It may get the guy off but it won't work for me. Give me meat I can taste..touch...smell...see...enjoy! BTW... I made the pork chops last week and they were delicious!

Andalusite -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 6:54:16 PM)
I don't really think it's a Dominant vs. submissive or performer vs. watcher thing, but more the disjunct in male vs. female responses to voyeurism and webcams. There are plenty of male dominants who enjoy/get off on watching, but most women aren't going to be into it unless they have an emotional connection established already.

AAkasha -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 7:30:53 PM)
Sometimes I think I am wired like a guy in that I am super, super visual. I could watch male performers on cam for hours so long as they are hot, and they are doing what I want. Now it might not be a turn on to them, and it might not even be sexual or require nudity. I get turned off the moment they start wanting to call the shots (which is most of the time) or are pretentious about what it is they are going to do. No thanks! Akasha

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 7:33:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Andalusite I don't really think it's a Dominant vs. submissive or performer vs. watcher thing, but more the disjunct in male vs. female responses to voyeurism and webcams. There are plenty of male dominants who enjoy/get off on watching, but most women aren't going to be into it unless they have an emotional connection established already. Exactly, thank you.

Andalusite -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 7:49:43 PM)
Aakasha, that's why I said most, not all. [;)] There are obviously exceptions, for both men and women. What the person is doing, and how attractive they are, can certainly feed into it, and I'm not trying to force anyone into a stereotype. Personally, I can sometimes enjoy certain kinds of visual things, whether porn or more vanilla, but the kinds of things I like aren't likely to be showing up on a random web-cam, and I wouldn't necessarily want to interact with the performer(s).

MISTRESSREE -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/5/2010 10:42:07 PM)
Hmmn well to be honest I get sooo many letters from subs/slaves.... They go something like this: Ohhh usually they do not have a salutation because they are mass-produced and sent to every Domme... I am a slave and willing to submit to you I have a webcam and am willing to cum on cam and lick it up... Ohhh one actually asked if he could print off a pic from My profile and jerk-off on it and then lick it all up... WTF???? Are you for real shitting Me???? You want to jerk-off.... Great have at it???? Why in your deluded Universe do you think I would actually want to see this???? I have no idea who you are.... This is the first time I have received a letter from you..... I don't know you from the hole in the ground you are crawling up from..... You would repulse Me with your demands from a total stranger..... Now another scenario.... I enjoy watching a man jerk-off.... It turns Me on see this in person.... To feel that I have control on when he can cum.... Tease and Denial is Sexy to Me.... Also knowing he can not have release unless I command it..... That is Fkinggg Hot for Me..... It makes Me feel My Power over him.... Some stranger jerking off on cam???? Means nothing to Me except that he is getting off... I am not!!!! Sooo what's the attraction for Me???? Well that is just My thoughts.... Hmmmn if I may I would like to make a suggestion on your Profile Pic???? Yessss you are hot!!!! And have the body of a Greek God!!!! I'm sure it takes a lot of work to stay that way..... To be honest speaking for Myself(not for other Dommes) I find a picture of a guy maybe wearing a suit.... Taken from the neck down..... about a thousand times hotter..... It speaks of class and intelligence to Me and I find that attractive.... Maybe it is My age and I am old school.... I am actually offended by pics of guys showing Me their asses.... As lovely as they are.... That is not My focus.... Perhaps if I was a Gay Male Dom. I would be attracted by this.... If you are looking to attract a female.... They are much more interested in your mind, heart and soul.... If they find common ground... The hot package is a bonus.... But to Me not a necessity..... I am more attracted to brains to be honest..... To me expecting a Domme to play your on-line games without establishing any kind of foundation... Is sort of like a one night-stand... Means nothing in the morning when you wake up and are just trying to get the fk out of there.... Also to me it means you are just looking to jerk-off and move on.... Men and Women are hard-wired very different when it comes to this type of thing.... Women are more emotional and seek a connection to make it fufilling..... Well I do at least and I suppose I cannot speak for all women.... Maybe I am just old-school... I wonder I would appreciate hearing thoughts from other Female Domme's about this!!!!

LadyNTrainer -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/6/2010 10:41:04 AM)
It depends. If the guy is hot, and willing to knowingly entertain both myself and my bisexual male parrtner, then definitely yes. If he won't play on those terms, then I don't get a whole lot out of it unless we've made a nonsexual connection based in mutual attraction and common interests first. I could be an unethical jerk and let guys do their thing for us on cam without telling them that most of the fun on my end is all about watching my bisexual partner get off on it, but that isn't cool. Everybody gets warned ahead of time. It also doesn't trip my triggers as much as participating in a voluntary (or "forced") exchange between two males. That's my kink, and if some random stranger doesn't share it, then we're not compatible and he needs to move on because I'm not interested in catering to his kink while not getting mine satisfied. I have other kinks, but they can't really be done very well over webcam. Watching someone on cam works either when it caters to my specific kink of watching men do sexual stuff with other men, or when I've worked with them long enough to establish a personal connection that makes me interested in their emotions, their vulnerability, their pain and their sexual arousal. I can't feel that for a stranger.

PeonForHer -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/6/2010 11:00:59 AM)
So, I'd be correct in saying that two males who are regular users of this forum, doing cocksucking under your direction in front of a cam, wouldn't be remotely of interest to you, LadyN? Just wondering.

Lockit -> RE: Online play fun for just the Performer? (4/6/2010 11:02:56 AM)
Oh Peon, you know that is different! We like you! lol

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