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LadyHugs -> RE: meaning of tribute sessions (4/8/2010 8:29:51 AM)
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Ilovestockings,
Reading through the many responses, some aren't 'that helpful' but the statements even from the most unkind to the helpful, should be taken as a serious hint that people asking for tributes are those to whom have associates that are not helpful to the reputation of a BDSM culture of a "safe, sane and consensual" mentality.
I agree with BoiJen, to whom picked up on the details as I did; that 1) Not staying for dinner; 2) Did not give details about the tribute as to present it as a service contract; 3) Did not advise you to do some research as to the many risks involved in any kind of BDSM play. 4) Did not recommend a neutral place for both of your safety.
When you invite a stranger into your home, you deminish the 'safe haven' should something happen. Your visitor may not even be 30 years old. Might be a teen that looks older than really is. Do you know if this is or is not a 'sting' operation conducted by the police. Do you have valued items that could be open and easily stolen if tied and blindfolded? Are you going to have a role-play situation of victim and she can walk away stealing with your consent -- after all if you consent to such a role-play the police can't arrest her because it was a 'game' in their eyes. Have you a friend to check on your welfare?
Most professional dominants have their own dungeons to invite clients into. They are often in a place that isn't tied into their home and sometimes they are. Have you researched this person's references and or reputation?
Tributes are a form of barter or money exchange. It boils down to pay and play; much like services escorts and prostitutes offer.
Many Internet sites give tips to beginners so they can avoid simple mistakes that can turn into a horror. Just because you are a man, that doesn't mean you cannot be hurt/injured by a woman, especially an untrained/mentored woman with a whip, rope or a vindictive and or money glazed over eyes.
You should put in as much research into BDSM as you do into Tennis. Safety on the tennis court is no different than safety in the bedroom and or in BDSM.
I hope you reconsider and seek out your local BDSM support and education group as to wise up and protect yourself, knowing all hazzards and how safe play can lead to a wonderful world of fun but, responsible adult fun.
Just some thoughts.
Lady Hugs
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