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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/7/2010 7:55:10 PM

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thanks for all of your answers....i get it.. appreciate your help....sure do wish she'd do me for free.....i have 30 yr old coming over tomorrow night and she doesn't even want dinner.....i'm a lucky guy!....i'm twice her age.

Oh to be a fly on the wall! This one doesn't know what tribute is and has a woman half his age coming over tomorrow. I'm sorry to be so cruel but it's like a train wreck.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/7/2010 8:17:34 PM

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thanks for all of your answers....i get it.. appreciate your help....sure do wish she'd do me for free.....i have 30 yr old coming over tomorrow night and she doesn't even want dinner.....i'm a lucky guy!....i'm twice her age.

Oh to be a fly on the wall! This one doesn't know what tribute is and has a woman half his age coming over tomorrow. I'm sorry to be so cruel but it's like a train wreck.

Yeah, i was thinking the same thing. i can't imagine agreeing to a "tribute session" without even knowing what it was. i sure do hope that he was smart enough to find out what the expected tribute is. If not, things could get pretty embarrassing.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/7/2010 8:38:14 PM

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thanks for all of your answers....i get it.. appreciate your help....sure do wish she'd do me for free.....i have 30 yr old coming over tomorrow night and she doesn't even want dinner.....i'm a lucky guy!....i'm twice her age.

Oh to be a fly on the wall! This one doesn't know what tribute is and has a woman half his age coming over tomorrow. I'm sorry to be so cruel but it's like a train wreck.

Yeah, i was thinking the same thing. i can't imagine agreeing to a "tribute session" without even knowing what it was. i sure do hope that he was smart enough to find out what the expected tribute is. If not, things could get pretty embarrassing.

The thing is we told him he would have to pay and all the poor guy can say is he's lucky because she's half his age, he doesn't even have to buy dinner and he wishes she would do him for free. Little does he know she likely isn't going to "do him" even if he pays her. I'm starting to be embarrased for him but just can not wait to hear how this turns out.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/7/2010 9:17:28 PM

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The thing is we told him he would have to pay and all the poor guy can say is he's lucky because she's half his age, he doesn't even have to buy dinner and he wishes she would do him for free.

Yeah, dinner would have probably been cheaper than the tribute he's going to have to pay her. But it's his money, so if he feels "lucky", then i'm happy for him.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/7/2010 10:15:24 PM

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She will do him if he pays her. Once you start down the slippery slope of selling "sex" there tends to be very little that one will not do for cash.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/8/2010 4:21:40 AM

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thanks for all of your answers....i get it.. appreciate your help....sure do wish she'd do me for free.....i have 30 yr old coming over tomorrow night and she doesn't even want dinner.....i'm a lucky guy!....i'm twice her age.

i am a little surprised she agreed to met with you before discussing the tribute first. And a little surprised she is meeting at your home.

Something may be very wrong here (then again, maybe not). I would hate to think she sees you are a vulnerable novice.
Be very careful.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/8/2010 4:42:00 AM

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To the OP - Bless you. Good luck with the lissome young thing you have coming over. I wont make any gags about not straying too far from your heart meds - I'll just wish you luck.

You may have noticed a certain "light heartedness" to some of the responses you've received - Alas, if you tee some of us up so nicely, we're kind of obliged to take a swing ;-)

I'd recommend you take Ron's (mnottertail) advice and check out the FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions - just in case) and try a quick search either here or on google if you come up against a term you're not used to. Failing that, feel free to post more of this kind of question - I really enjoy the responses ;-)

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You are a fucking artist Sir, that is one of the funniest lines I have ever read. I am already imagining Eminem singing that line.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/8/2010 7:41:15 AM

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Well, the reality is that it sounds like he's talking to a hooker with a whip not a Domme. Most of the Pro-Dommes I know will end a session immediately and give a refund of paid tribute if a guy brings up sex during the session and they won't take on the potential client at all if they seem fixated or expecting to get "done".

Sorry, Mr Domi-man, statements like "Once you start down the slippery slope of selling "sex" there tends to be very little that one will not do for cash." are more about who you are than about the person you're projecting on to.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/8/2010 7:58:32 AM

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Like others have said be very careful as she may show up with a friend...(not good) or worse! Let a friend call you in a couple of hours just to make sure you are safe, or better yet in the first hour! Good luck to you!

Oh and when she shows up tell her right out......."Oh you dont have tp pay me tribute right now!!"

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/8/2010 8:01:16 AM

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He is probably dead by now...... poor dude, he was only 60!

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/8/2010 8:28:48 AM

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Sorry, Mr Domi-man, statements like "Once you start down the slippery slope of selling "sex" there tends to be very little that one will not do for cash." are more about who you are than about the person you're projecting on to.

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oh Boi, I am sure that the majority of the Pro dommes have tremendous ethics. I can tell by their profiles that they are not prostitutes......If the money was right the majority of them would pounce on it like a b.l.t. at a Jenny Craig convention.

Once someone reaches the wonderful world of the "sex trade industry" as their employer, they have to acknowledge that they are relying on the lowest set of skills to make their living. They get paid better than the Hispanic woman working at McDonalds only because the Hispanic gal doesn't want to do what they do. Not everyone is cut out for that line of work. It probably isn't great on the soul.

We could have fun with this....we start pulling up pro's profiles. This is what they will have in common. The majority of these women will be somewhat attractive. They will have photos that will show off their assets. They will not be the least bit dominant but they will be willing to do whatever is "asked" as long as the dollars are there.

I want people to do well. I want people to find success on their own terms and feel somewhat rewarded in the path that they have chose. Very few of us jump up and down as we head off to work. But the majority of us feel good about the process under which we get paid.

should Pro Dommes and prostitutes exist? Sure. Knock your socks off. I just don't want to have anything to do with them.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/8/2010 8:29:51 AM

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Ilovestockings,

Reading through the many responses, some aren't 'that helpful' but the statements even from the most unkind to the helpful, should be taken as a serious hint that people asking for tributes are those to whom have associates that are not helpful to the reputation of a BDSM culture of a "safe, sane and consensual" mentality.

I agree with BoiJen, to whom picked up on the details as I did; that 1) Not staying for dinner; 2) Did not give details about the tribute as to present it as a service contract; 3) Did not advise you to do some research as to the many risks involved in any kind of BDSM play. 4) Did not recommend a neutral place for both of your safety.

When you invite a stranger into your home, you deminish the 'safe haven' should something happen. Your visitor may not even be 30 years old. Might be a teen that looks older than really is. Do you know if this is or is not a 'sting' operation conducted by the police. Do you have valued items that could be open and easily stolen if tied and blindfolded? Are you going to have a role-play situation of victim and she can walk away stealing with your consent -- after all if you consent to such a role-play the police can't arrest her because it was a 'game' in their eyes. Have you a friend to check on your welfare?

Most professional dominants have their own dungeons to invite clients into. They are often in a place that isn't tied into their home and sometimes they are. Have you researched this person's references and or reputation?

Tributes are a form of barter or money exchange. It boils down to pay and play; much like services escorts and prostitutes offer.

Many Internet sites give tips to beginners so they can avoid simple mistakes that can turn into a horror. Just because you are a man, that doesn't mean you cannot be hurt/injured by a woman, especially an untrained/mentored woman with a whip, rope or a vindictive and or money glazed over eyes.

You should put in as much research into BDSM as you do into Tennis. Safety on the tennis court is no different than safety in the bedroom and or in BDSM.

I hope you reconsider and seek out your local BDSM support and education group as to wise up and protect yourself, knowing all hazzards and how safe play can lead to a wonderful world of fun but, responsible adult fun.

Just some thoughts.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/8/2010 11:03:57 AM

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Well i just hope that this guy is careful. He seems ripe to be robbed, ripped off, or taken advantage of. In some instances, nice guys really do finish last.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/11/2010 3:55:51 PM

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Is anyone else curious how this turned out? ilovestockings, care to give us an update?

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/11/2010 4:08:43 PM

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Is anyone else curious how this turned out? ilovestockings, care to give us an update?

I have been checking to see but nothing yet.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/11/2010 4:15:14 PM

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Is anyone else curious how this turned out? ilovestockings, care to give us an update?

i think she robbed and killed him.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/11/2010 4:19:43 PM

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The N.J. sub gutter has struck again!!!

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/11/2010 5:46:59 PM

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I just noted he has the picture of a younger woman as his profile picture. I'm sure it is his attempt to show the tribute only woman "did him". I personally don't think so but it seems that is his response.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/11/2010 6:23:42 PM

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I just noted he has the picture of a younger woman as his profile picture. I'm sure it is his attempt to show the tribute only woman "did him". I personally don't think so but it seems that is his response.

....and he changed the age on his profile from 60 to 53.

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RE: meaning of tribute sessions - 4/11/2010 6:37:22 PM

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I just noted he has the picture of a younger woman as his profile picture. I'm sure it is his attempt to show the tribute only woman "did him". I personally don't think so but it seems that is his response.

....and he changed the age on his profile from 60 to 53.

Well in all fairness, if I were doing the girl in that pic, I would probably feel 13 years younger too.

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