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RE: the 'pic' exchange question - 4/4/2006 10:58:20 PM   
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RE: the 'pic' exchange question - 4/5/2006 5:42:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		If he is unwilling to exchange a pic with you after talking and getting to know each other then there is something definately wrong going on.  I dont put my pic on my profile but i certainly will send one privately after chatting with someone. 

Perhaps he is not who he says and hence wont send the pic .. IMHO your better off loosing that one.

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RE: the 'pic' exchange question - 4/5/2006 6:21:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

If a person is serious about meeting offline, they should have no problems with sharing a pic.  This is 2006, there's no reason to not have a pic unless you're not willing to meet offline.

If he doesn't want to send a pic, then it means he's not ready or desiring to go offline.  That's fine. 

If you want to court someone online, you've got to accept what that means.


I cannot agree with that LA. I am willng to meet anyone who interests me offline. I will not send a pic via the Interent. Due in large part to my profession...I do not ever want any of my clients to run across my picture on a website.

It would, in my opinion, change the dynamic and negatively affect the ability for me to be effective. I do not need anyone thinking about my lifestyle when I am working with them.

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RE: the 'pic' exchange question - 4/5/2006 1:21:29 PM   
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i disagree.  this is a red flag extraordinaire in my book.


It may be a large red flag in your book and that is fine. I lean to the yellow flag because it means be careful and  not to just blow this guy off as a fake. While he very may well be, do you know how many people do not know thing one about their computer? They know how to turn it on, type, use the mouse and that is about it. Uploading a picture or even getting one scanned would be impossible for someone like that. In this day and age of disposable cameras there certainly is less excuse to get a picture, but maybe the guy can't afford one. Who knows? Proceed with caution and see what takes place next. If the guy continues like that, then, if you are satisfied that something is wrong, tell him goodbye and move on to the next one. People are so willing to brand someone a phoney just because of the slightest thing.

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RE: the 'pic' exchange question - 4/5/2006 1:31:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cloudz
It would, in my opinion, change the dynamic and negatively affect the ability for me to be effective. I do not need anyone thinking about my lifestyle when I am working with them.

I presume if someone isn't willing to send a picture, then they aren't serious about meeting and won't meet me offline.  Once they become serious about meeting me, they will be willing to send me a picture.

Now, they might surprise me and meet me somewhere offline without a picture- but it wouldn't be a scheduled date or anything I went out of my way to plan for.

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RE: the 'pic' exchange question - 4/6/2006 12:13:15 PM   
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RE: the 'pic' exchange question - 4/6/2006 1:55:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me it raises a yellow flag, or maybe even a pink one....because, if they've had any experience with the net, they would know that the other person is in the same implied jeopardy as they are.  It's like the "they are there too" rule about the possibility of meeting someone from your r/l group at a munch.  It's a reassurance to me that they are willing to compromise themselves as much as I am...it means that they are willing to trust me, which increases my trust in them.

If they demand a photo of you, but are too high and mighty to return the courtesy, then they ain't worth the time.

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RE: the 'pic' exchange question - 4/6/2006 2:52:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: odalisqueslave

i have been conversing with a dominant who is unwilling to forward a pic.  mine is posted with my profile. his explanation 'he does not send his photo to strangers'. as i believe there is a natural progression to these exchanges on Collarme, if one is intending to meet a potential partner...a pic exchange at some point is a valid request.  i would appreciate imput on this. 

Perhaps his job stops him from sending a picture?
Perhaps he does not think that it is necessary to continue communications?
Perhaps he does not have an updated photo?
Perhaps he feels that just because you are conversing online, it does not make you any less a stranger?
 
I fail to see why this is a problem. I would start to worry only if he started making excuses about meeting offline.

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