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While dealing with someone who is as intense as you seem to be can be frightening, it can also be intoxicating. Your intensity is part of what drew her to you and what keeps her coming back for more. Being aware of the feelings between you and being sensitive to her need to remain an individual at this time are important.
When I get to your area of the country I will gladly take you up on the coffee, or if you ever amble on down to TN, coffee's on here too.
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-Tress
I revisited this OP of mine of a week ago...and I recognize the wisdom shared with me from different individuals on this board...I have been thinking about MissTress' statement of the dichotomy towards both frightening and intoxicating... I tend to be a catlyst for those I allow close to me to confront both themselves and what they believe; this is an aspect of my personality which can both invigorate and burn others. I am always in a state of processing; I need those to show my own shortness in thinking, realizing, awakening, so I can either take away those beliefs or actions which weaken or distract as well as buttress those which are constructive. I also have a tendency to drop into very dark regions of myself (yes, my physician has me on medication for this, though it took me over 20 years to accept the biological basis for some of my own personality traits...) and at times find it difficult to allow myself to walk through this...
lotus and I are still in the beginnings of constructing a relationship...she is slowly going through a lot to recognize who I am and myself, I am having to consciously slow my steps...patience is one element which seems to be brought to my attention and I realize that becoming more adept at that will allow this situation and relationship to become much more intense than originally perceived.
Thanks again to all,
C