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No mention of financial slavery? - 4/3/2006 10:32:06 PM

texturedshroom

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I notice that the profile page says "No references to financial slavery." However, half of the domme profiles I see for my area are about financial slavery.

Is this an actual rule? Personally I find it a bit unsettling that people are on a personals site just looking to take people's money away. It's quite annoying for a novice just looking to wade the waters seeing profile after profile of dommes right around his age all mentioning financial domination.

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RE: No mention of financial slavery? - 4/3/2006 10:43:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: texturedshroom

I notice that the profile page says "No references to financial slavery." However, half of the domme profiles I see for my area are about financial slavery.

Is this an actual rule? Personally I find it a bit unsettling that people are on a personals site just looking to take people's money away. It's quite annoying for a novice just looking to wade the waters seeing profile after profile of dommes right around his age all mentioning financial domination.

Only half? We seem to be improving!
They'll grow out of it. I am guessing in about 10 years or so.
You say in your profile that you want to get into the lifestyle. Best advice is not to try to do that online. This is a great community, and you might even meet someone here. But it is best used to learn and interact. Get to some local munches, demos and events.
It is also My experience that the girls your age are mostly just that. Girls. With the rare exception, they haven't even figured out how to be dominant yet. They have figured out that maybe some boy will be frenzied enough to give them money in exchange for some online chat and web cam. And, ya know, it just really isn't about that.
Good luck and welcome to the boards.

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RE: No mention of financial slavery? - 4/4/2006 6:27:51 AM

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Yes, it's actually a rule. And it's a rule for a reason.

It's no surprise that you find many profiles of women around your age looking for finacial control of a submissive male. Those I would classify as the lazy ones that wish nothing more then to get money for nothing. Those will most likely be the bossy, pushy girlfriend that is just looking for some idiot to drain the life out of. It's good that you're smarter then that.

This being said, financial dominantion isn't about taking the money out of your pockets to line anothers. I have financial dominantion in my home but all of my girls keep the money in their own accounts and I in mine. For me and mine, it's just another form of authority over another.

All in all, I agree with Dusty Gold. Get out into your local community and don't just hang out online. And look for those that are older and have been in the lifestyle for a while. Talk to everyone and read all that you can before you decide to be someones boy. Good luck.

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RE: No mention of financial slavery? - 4/6/2006 10:53:10 AM

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Thanks for the advice. And I also realize financial domination isn't always about that, but people seem to abuse the term to mean "pay me lots of money."

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RE: No mention of financial slavery? - 4/6/2006 11:03:56 AM

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If you look at many sites online it is actually no different. For the lazy ones they see it as money for nothing.

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RE: No mention of financial slavery? - 4/6/2006 11:09:42 AM

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So since this subject has come up in its own thread, I'd like to ask.. how do you define financial slavery?

If a pro Domme charges you $250 for an hour's session on the cross, is that financial slavery? or a fee paid for a service?

If a Dom/me wishes you to contribute your share of the combined household budget, is that financial slavery?

Or are people out there actually expecting to be supported by their sub/slave and say so in their profiles?

In short... what is it that you are reading, that you are calling financial slavery? Inquiring minds want to know :)

<I swear I should start browsing the Domme profiles and see what all the bitching is about>

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I notice that the profile page says "No references to financial slavery." However, half of the domme profiles I see for my area are about financial slavery.

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RE: No mention of financial slavery? - 4/6/2006 11:12:13 AM

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Welcome shroom...I second the get out an meet folks in real life advice. And I also heartily agree that the plethora of pro dommes seems odd considering that the rules seem to state against it.

Look up the "Whats with all the pro Dom's?" thread, there a 7 pages of all the differing sides of the coin, very insightful, from all perspectives.

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RE: No mention of financial slavery? - 4/6/2006 11:14:44 AM

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yes, plus you get to see a real Domme having a temper tantrum

heheheh.

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Look up the "Whats with all the pro Dom's?" thread, there a 7 pages of all the differing sides of the coin, very insightful, from all perspectives.

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RE: No mention of financial slavery? - 4/7/2006 1:49:36 AM

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Hmmm I am actually a pro domme AND I live the lifestyle with my personal slave...I often find myself in the pro scene NOT taking money but rather receiving new toys (i just was given a cage instead for instance) I do not really Pro Domme for monetary personal gain though I enjoy what I do and wanted to actually eventually take what I earn and give it to submissives who were finding themselves in trouble and in need. It was my intention starting out as a pro to have fun learn grow meet new people and find a way to give to the community..The submissives who come to me also know I do not watch the clock and am more interested in fulfilling their fantasies than I am in making a profit off them. As for my personal slaves, well IF they are to live with me as I am far from rich, I ask they help share normal expences like for their part of the phone bill kind of a thing as household expenses that we incur together I feel should be paid together equally like any other set of roomates. Anything after that I do not expect nor desire. I am odd however because I do not really enjoy receiving material gifts either, I prefer a gift of the heart instead. Like tonight when my boy called me from work because he knew I had a tough week just to cheer me up and take my mind off things. that gift to me was priceless and more meaningful than if he were to have bought me a new car....eventually the car would get old and stop working but the memory of my boy being there for me will never cease existing.

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