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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/15/2010 5:28:11 AM

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Odd. I was curious about what you said so I did a similar search in the state of IL just now. First i looked at the dominant profiles (just the ones with photos). I gave up after 20-25 minutes, there were far too many to get through. Then I tried searching the submissive men. In less than five minutes I'd seen all the profiles with photos--they went back to "last on: 2005"). I have a great memory for faces and didn't see a single repeat of the dominant faces. Then I searched the switches, using the same method (clicking the Profile >> (next profile) button under the picture: it takes you to the next profile with a photo). Less than 30 seconds to see all of them. Again no identical photos between the switches and the doms or the subs.

I'm not sure why I got such vastly different results. Perhaps the Profile >> button skips over some profiles with photos? I don't think it does. Again, I have really good memory for faces. I don't say a lot of things about myself with absolute confidence but I can say it about this: if there had been a repeat photo between doms, subs, and switches I would have spotted it, despite having seen hundreds (most of dom men) before that. There were a couple of submissives who had more than one profile and used the same photo in each. Those were the only repetitions.

What I find most interesting about this is not that my results differ from yours but that this little experiment turned up this enormous proportion of dominant men. They outnumber the male subs and switches combined by at least five to one (and that figure is conservative: I didn't have time to scroll to the end of the doms with photos list). Does the IL water authority routinely add testosterone to the resevoirs? ;)

I clearly need to check this in another state with a large population. But based on this very prilimary scan, there seem to be a whole lot more male doms out there than the doms want us to believe or... men think acting dominant is the way to get hot sex with kinky chicks.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/15/2010 9:06:57 AM

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They're just fickle minded bastards that need to be put in their place.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/15/2010 5:57:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CaringandReal

Odd. I was curious about what you said so I did a similar search in the state of IL just now. First i looked at the dominant profiles (just the ones with photos). I gave up after 20-25 minutes, there were far too many to get through. Then I tried searching the submissive men. In less than five minutes I'd seen all the profiles with photos--they went back to "last on: 2005"). I have a great memory for faces and didn't see a single repeat of the dominant faces. Then I searched the switches, using the same method (clicking the Profile >> (next profile) button under the picture: it takes you to the next profile with a photo). Less than 30 seconds to see all of them. Again no identical photos between the switches and the doms or the subs.

I'm not sure why I got such vastly different results. Perhaps the Profile >> button skips over some profiles with photos? I don't think it does. Again, I have really good memory for faces. I don't say a lot of things about myself with absolute confidence but I can say it about this: if there had been a repeat photo between doms, subs, and switches I would have spotted it, despite having seen hundreds (most of dom men) before that. There were a couple of submissives who had more than one profile and used the same photo in each. Those were the only repetitions.

What I find most interesting about this is not that my results differ from yours but that this little experiment turned up this enormous proportion of dominant men. They outnumber the male subs and switches combined by at least five to one (and that figure is conservative: I didn't have time to scroll to the end of the doms with photos list). Does the IL water authority routinely add testosterone to the resevoirs? ;)

I clearly need to check this in another state with a large population. But based on this very prilimary scan, there seem to be a whole lot more male doms out there than the doms want us to believe or... men think acting dominant is the way to get hot sex with kinky chicks.

I should probably clarify that a few of the "submissive men" had dominant profiles within the last 3 months and do not now. I am not sure why your results were so different. Maybe try just Chicago?

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/21/2010 3:46:11 PM

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Not all men focus on sex, I do agree most do, but some want much more, great conversation, good laughs and intellgent partners that are not door mates but someone that they trust and are honest with, and then yes the adventure of the lifestyle to.

I think the greatest oppertunity for discovering someone is not when its fun but when its hard, when there is an issue and how they support you in it, how your understood and you can trust that person to give you that honest answer. Be it in words or in actions.

People that say there Doms/subs and then finally switches even if there men or women they fail the rest of us because they become the fakes that waste our time and give us less reasons to trust them.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/25/2010 1:30:21 PM

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If you are confused about what you are you are nothing... but confused.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/25/2010 2:21:54 PM

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i had a "Dom" write to me for awhile and then he got around to asking what i liked. When i told him, then he said he loves having that done to him too. Next thing i know he's writing to me still but the identical profile says "submissive." i asked him, "Are you really a switch? Because there's nothing wrong with that, i just prefer honesty," and he admitted it. i think there are switches out there that don't want to say they are because a good number of people have negative attitudes toward switches. i kind of can't blame them for feeling that way, but i still prefer honesty.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/25/2010 2:45:20 PM

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I've known guys who would claim to be rich Wall Street brokers, published authors, AAA-league sports stars about to get their big break, or anything else that would get them laid. Is it such a huge stretch to claim to be Dominant or submissive if it improves the odds of getting over?

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/25/2010 4:23:41 PM

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I think these people are being dishonest, or not telling you everything. They are not worthy of communication.

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/25/2010 4:51:49 PM

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i think there are switches out there that don't want to say they are because a good number of people have negative attitudes toward switches. i kind of can't blame them for feeling that way, but i still prefer honesty.

I get why some might do so, but it doesn't even strike me as sensible on its own terms. If someone has an issue with switches, they aren't going to be compatible with a switch.

In the same way, I have no problem with switches submitting to me. I would have a real issue with one who held back the fact she was a switch from me at the start. (If it was deliberate. I can understand that some people may not realise they enjoy switching until later on, but that's different then the kind of conscious dishonesty in question).

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RE: Be yourself and be honest - 4/27/2010 1:11:36 PM

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I had a very sweet letter from a male sub, saying how much he liked my profile etc. I wrote back and thanked him but asked "with 2 subs, who's going to be the boss?"

He apologized and said he hadn't realized he had contacted me under his sub profile and would send another cmail from his Dominant profile... with any smarts he would have waited and reintroduced himself on his Dom profile since the pictures didn't match.

Dishonest is one thing...dishonest and dumb???

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