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seekingOwnertoo -> Respect - Do You respect Your submissive - and Why or Why Not ??? (4/13/2010 3:31:04 PM)
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Respect - Do You respect Your submissive - and Why or Why Not?
Saw a similar question posed on another thread, perhaps, with a little different content and context; but clearly off topic. Yet it reminded me of a question, that has troubled me about Female Domination and BDSM since 1999.
To preface this, i am asking the question from three different perspectives.
First, i do have a deep background in a certain type of classical philosophical thinking that says Dominance and submission are basically unfulfilling for both the "Master" and the "slave"; and thus can only be reconciled with equal "recognition".
This same philosophical argument, has also been used intellectually in numerous other contexts, including: Woman's Rights and Civil Rights. So it is argued quite freely today, at least among "intellectuals".
Second, i grew up in a city where a young man needed a certain, "street savvy" to survive, and honestly, this background implies the concept of Female Domination must be inherently unfulfilling to the Domme, because the Domme cannot possibly have a man she respects.
And unfortunately, this line of thinking makes sense to me, because of the first perspective, above. (But if it is true, than it also theoretically applies to the male Dom, equally.)
And Third, because i was involved in a long term relationship with a Domme during the 1990's, Her lack of respect for me because i did what She wanted was discussed numerous times. And although this was CLEARLY NOT the reason this one relationship ended, the respect aspect of Female Domination has always troubled me.
Now for additional background:
i am a male, heterosexual, submissive man, so i am personally interested in, the Dominant Woman perspective. And i must add i am speaking specifically about Dominant Female/submissive male dynamics.
That said, i do not mean to be inherently unfair, so every one is welcome to share there experience. Plus i also know that the Dominant/submissive relationship dynamic ... should apply equally regardless of gender.
So here You go ... Do You respect Your submissive/slave ... and why or why not?
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