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ServiceNTucson -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/26/2006 12:33:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Life sucks sometimes, you shouldn't let other peoples choices get you so worked up. I don't recognize you from the local scene, you should try coming out to the meetings, parties, munches and so forth and get to know people. It really is one of the best ways of staying connected and meeting up with fresh meat...I mean possible partners, who aren't just online passer bys. BESS has demo and munch every first and third Wed of the month and we are starting a TNG munch every 2nd and 4th Wed, with a monthly social- all in the Baltimore area. www.bess-md.org. I have to agree with LA here. I first started trying to get back into the lifestyle in the middle of 2000, when I finally got a computer. For four years, I searched all over the world, all over the internet for my One True Goddess. I made several connections with real people, but most of what I found were people hiding behind computers, too afraid to get out into the real world, either pretending to be something they were not, or trying to convince themselves and others that they were what they claimed to be. Of the real people I connected with and seemed, online, to be compatible with, when I travelled to meet them, the chemistry that seemed to be there online, wasn't there face to face. I'm not saying that everybody searching online is a fake or self deceivers, far from it, but a hell of a lot are. About a year and a half ago, I decided to stop searching all over the world, start searching my own back yard and joined the local club, Desert Dominion. I still haven't found "The One." But I have found a lot of real friends who are real people. And I've had a lot more fun.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/26/2006 12:35:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster Don't you think you might get more mail if you had a profile on the other side? quote: ORIGINAL: texturedshroom Here's the reverse: I've been on c-me on and off for 2 years, and have received maybe 10 emails total, 1 or 2 of which was not initiated by me. Can we get some sort of balance here? [:D] I looked too, and was going to send him a note just to increase his quota, but no profile found M

ShiftedJewel -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/26/2006 3:18:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster Don't you think you might get more mail if you had a profile on the other side? quote: ORIGINAL: texturedshroom Here's the reverse: I've been on c-me on and off for 2 years, and have received maybe 10 emails total, 1 or 2 of which was not initiated by me. Can we get some sort of balance here? [:D] I looked too, and was going to send him a note just to increase his quota, but no profile found M *LMAO... M, we think to much alike!!*

crouchingtigress -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/26/2006 6:59:31 AM)
"Perseverance is a positive, active characteristic. It is not idly, passively waiting and hoping for some good thing to happen. It gives us hope by helping us realize that the righteous suffer no failure except in giving up and no longer trying. We must never give up, regardless of temptations, frustrations, disappointments, or discouragements." Joseph B. Wirthlin "Defeat is simply a signal to press onward." Helen Keller And my personal favororite is a native american saying "turn your face to the sun and you wont see the shadows"

pissdoll -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/26/2006 8:23:00 AM)
the problem with being a woman looking for another woman online is..... the majority of "women" you come across are going to be men pretending to be women just so they can talk to what in reality is another man pretending to be a woman. do they actually GET this? do they care?? i've been on cm for about a year now. i have met five women in person. of those five, four i met in chat. none have been a match, but they are all friends. of those women, two were already in relationship with men but did not tell me right away. two others were in relationships with men and were very upfront. the last was single and just wanted a one night stand (i very happily obliged). don't lose your profile on here...you never know. but don't use this as your main source for meeting women. it just isn't.

CrappyDom -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/26/2006 8:24:50 AM)
I live near San Francisco, a place with quite a few public playspaces, many small private parties, munches every weekend, several venues for classes, etc. When I played a lot in public, I routinely only recognized about 1/3 to 1/10 of the people at any given event. So, LOTS of people and the number I connected with on the level of "yeah, I could stand to have them in my living room for an evening" was pretty small. Shrink that down to the ones that had the correct orientation and that group got even smaller, then pick out the few that I had a mutual attraction with... Finding them online is harder, but after having read your profile, you might strike some of the scene fetish stuff and concentrate more on who you two are and what sort of interests you have in the vanilla world. Make it less "sexy" and the wankers will lose interest and the make it intelligent and grounded enough and you will attract people who might interest you more.

texturedshroom -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/29/2006 11:11:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel quote: ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster Don't you think you might get more mail if you had a profile on the other side? quote: ORIGINAL: texturedshroom Here's the reverse: I've been on c-me on and off for 2 years, and have received maybe 10 emails total, 1 or 2 of which was not initiated by me. Can we get some sort of balance here? I looked too, and was going to send him a note just to increase his quota, but no profile found M *LMAO... M, we think to much alike!!* Haha, thanks to both of You. I actually just deleted my profile a week ago, which makes it funny this happens just now :) Anyway, I've met a domme so it doesn't matter much to me anymore. We're in talks and plan to play quite soon. No thanks to C-me, but thanks for trying to help! [:)]

rapture2778 -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/29/2006 11:32:43 AM)
ok it is no news flash that the single subbies get more mail than the single Dom's or couple's looking to add to their already "happy" home...interesting though because statistically speaking there are more subbies than Doms in the lifestyle...but everyone "looking" is looking for something specific (nothing wrong with that, you should know what you need to be "happy")....but the more specific your "wants" are the longer i would imagine it would take to find it....there are those out there that are probably searching for the same thing as you...just as everyone else said, be patient, and it will happen...best of luck to you!

classykindasassy -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/29/2006 12:05:11 PM)
Sorry you are getting all the crap, or bovinescat as was so eloquently put. If you have not set your filter I would recommend that - as it will send a great deal o'crap to your bulk mailbox where you never have to deal with it. I took a look at your profile - it is SMOKING! and honestly, maybe enough turn heads who might not have turned that way to begin with for poly action. Yummy! The minute you get balled up and lose your sense of humor about all this is when you start getting more of what you don't want. Just develop the strength in the finger that operated the DELETE button and keep moving. Your energy is better spent following your GUT - it will tell you who is really worth pursuing. Don't waste it getting pissed at the posers. Make it fun again and just make it a firm policy not to get mad, just hit Delete and Block!

MasterRenegade77 -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/29/2006 12:45:12 PM)
LOL Yep you've got that right... I also LMFKAO at the online collarings on several sites... Sheesh One doesn't know what's going on from one day to the next W/out a scorecard!!!

MichMasochist -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/30/2006 1:20:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Scarlettred78 to me this lifestyle is about unconditional love, respect, trust, integrity, discipline, devotion, honor, and self sacrifice qualities NOT found ;D What you are looking for is next to impossible to find in the vanilla world. To expect to find it in the rocky road world of BDSM is even more so. Just look at it as a percentage basis of population. Better than eighty percent of the world, admittedly my guess, is vanilla with the remainder rocky road. Reduce the probabilty of success even farther for looking for an individual of same sex orientaion. Which is in itself another statistical minority of the whole. good luck

JoeBlack -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (4/30/2006 5:34:45 PM)
Here's the reverse: I've been on c-me on and off for 2 years, and have received maybe 10 emails total, 1 or 2 of which was not initiated by me. Can we get some sort of balance here? [:D] Just FYI,I did a search for your profile and found none,perhaps it isn't working.

texturedshroom -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (5/23/2006 12:48:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JoeBlack Here's the reverse: I've been on c-me on and off for 2 years, and have received maybe 10 emails total, 1 or 2 of which was not initiated by me. Can we get some sort of balance here? [:D] Just FYI,I did a search for your profile and found none,perhaps it isn't working. No, as I said earlier in the thread I deleted it... I'm back now as shroomypainslu7. I have a domme now so it's not as big of a deal anymore.

RiotGirl -> RE: I am truly getting discouraged...Any advice? (5/23/2006 1:08:03 PM)
quote: Any advice or imput would be appreciated best regards...Erika Run

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