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brainiacsub -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 11:10:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Yeah... like THAT would be the first time that has happend....:) I will be suprised if it IS My real pic couldn't fit in the avatar. Don't say you weren't warned...

Missokyst -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 12:17:21 PM)
In general assuming someone has as much to lose as you might is a dangerous premise. My children are grown and I have no grandchildren. If my family were to find out about me, for me it might be a bit liberating since if they asked why.. I would tell them and that might eliminate some of my phobias which began from childhood roots. People see me as quiet but no one I know sees me as vacant of anything in my past. Were they to discover anything I doubt it would really surprise them. So.. if I were nuts, a wacko, or a vicious bitch with an agenda you bet your life there might be a reason to fear my revealing all. I have nothing to lose. And if I were another person in my situation, counting on my keeping quiet because of my own fear would be stupid. Never underestimate someones desire to harm another regardless of whether it might bite them in the butt later. quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious FR Hang about-correct me if I'm wrong, but the hackers who fucked Goddess Mine over were anonymous strangers. She wasn't caught by people she knew, she was outed by people who had nothing to lose by outing her, and who left her no way of fighting back. What does this have to do with the OP's point that someone she knows may have as much to lose by outing her as she does?

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 12:50:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Yes and no. If she is sure she knows the other person, that still doesn't nean it is safe. The other person could always pretend to have "stumbled" across her. "So I know this weird guy who is into kinky sex. He tells me he was on this web site and saw some girl who looks just like Agnes:. "She is going by the name of VaguelyCurious" " I think we should tell her Father so he can make sure she is safe" A stretch?..... maybe.... possible?...definatly. I have nothing to hide and nothing to lose... not everyone can say the same thing Well then 'Agnes' says 'someone was using my photo?!? How dare they?!?'-not the end of the world, and definitely not conclusive proof that VaguelyCurious and 'Agnes' are the same person. Several hundred people on facebook have access to all the pictures I ever send anyone, and I get teased for being kinky by most of them (not knowing that I actually am). It's totally believable that someone would set up a profile in my name on a kinky site as a prank. Thinking about it, I'm kinda surprised it's not happened yet... (By the way, Mr Floofypoodles, I am offended that you are giving this theoretical 'me' a name like 'Agnes'. I am not secretly a member of my grandmother's generation! :P)

Aileen1968 -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 1:04:05 PM)
I can tell you from first hand experience that it is very easy to find a lot of info on someone based on very innocent things someone may say. I was very lucky that the person who found who I was, where I lived, shopped and spent my time, was not a murdering psycho. He parked in my driveway and I didn't even know he existed. People should be very aware of what they type. I've learned a valuable lesson that I'm teaching my daughters about what they do online.

belladevine -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 1:06:50 PM)
Predators are every where. The Planet Earth is a dangerous place and the world of BDSM is HUGE. There will always be some one that wants to control, dominate, and take advantage some else. It is my advice to always guard your loins. Be wise and protect yourself, because it is never a good idea to expose your private stuff to the entire world. If you came to the world of BDSM to be humiliated then go ahead and put your private stuff out there for every one to see.

Jeffff -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 2:17:17 PM)
Agnes.... all I am trying to say is that ....... and this is going to sound very sexist, but tough shit........every woman on this site should be very very careful. The men to perhaps, but you know we won't listen anyway.

pahunkboy -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 2:37:41 PM)
What if they see a fake me? then is it still me?

Jeffff -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 2:38:51 PM)
Pa?... since even you are not sure of your surroundings, I believe you are safe

pahunkboy -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 2:41:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Pa?... since even you are not sure of your surroundings, I believe you are safe So it goes like this. Most have x magazines. But are they out on the coffee table? No. Dig in the night stand see porn and then you deserve to get shocked.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 2:50:28 PM)
Hi OP, just a little perspective from someone with some experience regarding this: I met a guy from Collarme that lived 2 minutes from me, in my small town I lived in. Within minutes of our first meeting I knew I didn't want to pursue anything further with him. After telling the guy that I wasn't interested, he threatened to tell my children, friends and family "what I was up to." It was a valid threat, since as it turned out, he knew a helluva lot more about me than I knew of him. Me personally? I told him quite sincerely that for his sake, he probably shouldn't speak badly of me to my sons, that it wouldn't be a good thing. I was more worried about my boys getting into trouble for hurting him, than I was about that weirdo 'outing' me. Still, the point is, it could have been very VERY ugly. His attempt to blackmail didn't work, but I don't know how it woud have gone down for someone else. I've been to court, and spoke as a witness, in an attempt to oppose our groups illegal eviction. Another time, I've hade a map to my home posted on the front page of the city newspaper, as well as having reporters camped out in my front yard, not to mention the news coverage aired on the evening news. After all that, I wasn't terribly worried about being outed by the little worm. Even still, I did delete my pictures, changed my city of residence, and for a long time, refused to meet anyone too close to home. It was unsettling, to say the least, that someone would stoop to such behavior. You just never know. Sometimes, people suck. Seriously. WinD

pahunkboy -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 3:36:12 PM)
Win, That sucks. you deserve better then that.

marie2 -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 4:37:53 PM)
I'm not real comfortable advertising things that will give me away out here, but on the other hand, being "outed" isn't something I really worry about. Sometimes I voluntarily tell people about my "kink"...I've even shared it with a co-worker who seems to have the same bent. And my family already knows. I'm a nobody anyway; I don't work with children as a general rule, I don't work for the government or a school system or anything like that, so I won't lose my job or other employment opportunities if I get outed.

Jeffff -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 4:40:38 PM)
Love the shoes you gollywog fucker!

GoddessImaginos -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 4:41:33 PM)
Hey Jeff.. what's a gollywog? [:)]

Jeffff -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 4:43:37 PM)
I don't want to out Marie But Katylied would tell you!

marie2 -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 4:45:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Love the shoes you gollywog fucker! Stalker!

pahunkboy -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 4:46:25 PM)
....well- now that I think of it- I usually have enough to fire back- return fire. In my experience the biggest screamers have the most skeletons and that is a fact.

DarkSteven -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 4:59:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wenchwanted42 I once correctly identified a fairly prominent citizen I had talked to only online by starting with nothing more than a first name, profession, and general location. Within 15 minutes on google I knew his full name, job title and employer, home address and phone number. About knocked him over with a feather when I told him. Moral of the story - be very very careful with your personal info. I have twice identified women using only their first name and their city/town. I used zabasearch and an assumed last name. Less than ten minutes later, I had their full names and addresses, and phone numbers.

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 5:10:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: brainiacsub quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Lets see how you feel about that on the morning of the 24th! Yeah, I can't wait to see the look on your face when you realize that pic isn't really me. I knew it! The pic with the huge boobs is your real pic isn't it?

pahunkboy -> RE: Fear of being caught on here (4/14/2010 5:12:13 PM)
A word tho about such tactics. (in reference to crashing someones space) DONT. Nothing good can come of it.

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