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What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 10:09:37 AM   
PetiteBlonde


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Status: offline 		my Dom has said he would like me talk more to him, in our scene i hardly said a word due to being nervous.

Can anyone suggest some things for me to say?

thanks for your advice in advance guys

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 10:41:32 AM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: PetiteBlonde

my Dom has said he would like me talk more to him, in our scene i hardly said a word due to being nervous.

Can anyone suggest some things for me to say?

thanks for your advice in advance guys




/scratches head in confusion

Well, what kind of talk is he looking for?

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 12:01:11 PM   
BrianSenior


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Status: offline 		expressions of what is going on, what you are feeling, perhaps. More oohs and ahhhs? ~BK~

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 12:06:43 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		You had your first scene on Saturday with a dom you'd met once before.  Now you're "under consideration" and calling him your dom.  Last week it was asking about humiliation scenes and now it's talking in a scene.

You were NERVOUS, it was your FIRST SCENE.  It's a highly common reaction to get quiet and hold back on a first big new experience.  More than anything- give it time.  Get to know eachother more, go slow and have fun.  Once you relax, you'll naturally get into a banter together (as long as he isn't stoic).

Now, if you've been scening every week or so and in six months still don't know how to relax and talk comfortably- then you should start actively focusing on it.  Until then- this is the least of the things you should be concerned about.

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 12:49:31 PM   
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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 12:54:04 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Don't stop...Stop.....Don't stop.....stop......Don't stop.......Don't stop.....stop   and before you know it you'll be gagged and you won't have to worry about saying a thing!

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 1:00:04 PM   
Crittersmaster


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Status: offline 		Lots of "Please Sir" and "Thank you Sir"

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 1:09:19 PM   
summerpls


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Status: offline 		PetiteB.  ... such a general question.  It really depends on what he and you are into and the role he sees himself playing and obviously how he wants for you to perceive him ... some want to hear you moan and groan and whimper ... others want to hear you beg and cry ... some want you to be inquisitive like a little girl  ... and then there's always those that want to hear you bark and whine ... everybody's scene is different ... you will have to figure it out as you get to know him.  Good Luck!   

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 4:21:22 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		Thank you Sir may I please have another?

Harder daddy harder!

This makes me want to suck your cock.

However you decide to talk during a scene, it's important to have a communication understanding so he knows if things are going to far or not far enough. He needs to know when you're bored, aroused, when the pain is becoming to much, and when you are in subspace.  

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 5:40:59 PM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		Well, most times I end up calling him an asshole and either cursing or mocking him.  In play I have no rules for my behavior, a thought enters my brain and it becomes an action.  What he wants he forces upon me.  But that is just what my Lord enjoys.  You have to know what your dominant would enjoy from you and only he can answer that.

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 5:47:11 PM   
sultryvoice


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FangsNfeet

Thank you Sir may I please have another?



This is what I was thinking until Fangs got there before me!

Respectfully,
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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 7:05:12 PM   
DelRey


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Status: offline 		want him to stop and run like hell ?

start babbling about marriage,

he'll wish "HE" would have never asked you to be more vocal

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 8:06:00 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		During one Scene I attended, a sub demonstrated that she was bored by fileing her nails while she was having leather whips poping and wooden paddles breaking over her ass. Was she trying to prove a point or trying to tell her dom something?

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RE: What do you like a sub to say to you? - 4/4/2006 8:16:41 PM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		I am still curious as to what kind of 'talk' she means.  Is he looking for feedback during the scene? Dirty talk? What?

/still confused

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