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What to do... - 4/14/2010 9:26:29 PM   
daddysblondie


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when your Dominant is acting like a dick?
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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 9:27:32 PM   
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walk away till he can behave himself again?

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 9:29:00 PM   
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Ask yourself why you are around a dick?

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 9:40:38 PM   
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yeah, I was going to say pick someone who don't feel the need to behave like a dick.
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Ask yourself why you are around a dick?

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 9:45:26 PM   
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when your Dominant is acting like a dick?

Depends... is this an unusual situation? If so, you suck it up and deal with it because sure enough you'll have your days too.

If this is a common situation, then yeah, what smutmonger said.

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 9:49:20 PM   
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Kick it in the dick?

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 9:58:13 PM   
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It hasn't been a regular occurrence, though it does seem to be happening a bit more often these days. I'm amazed at what happens to a man when a cute little girl bats her eyelashes just right.

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 10:01:26 PM   
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Is there something possibly bothering him as of late?

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 10:06:00 PM   
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quote:

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It hasn't been a regular occurrence, though it does seem to be happening a bit more often these days. I'm amazed at what happens to a man when a cute little girl bats her eyelashes just right.
Ahhh, we're not talking "dick" as in "having a grumpy day".

It's you're call. If you want a monogamous relationship and he doesn't seem trustworthy to provide it, then find someone who is. Have you discussed this directly with him? (And when I say directly, I mean DIRECTLY. Us guys don't do well with hints).

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 10:13:49 PM   
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Your profile states that you are definitely poly friendly.  This is the sort of thing that will happen with poly.

Have a long discussion with him about how everyone's roles will work in the poly relationship that you envision, and the one that he envisions.


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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 10:23:08 PM   
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I've tried multiple times to have that conversation with him.... and then it all goes out the window...

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 10:26:56 PM   
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Ahah...I see.

The "D/s poly entitlement syndrome."

Because you can, doesn't always mean you SHOULD-especially the the cost of the primary walking. Leaving you with the certain knowledge of the fickle fates of "power."

I've seen "Tops disease" cost a lot of Doms girls when they get full of it like this.

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 10:29:41 PM   
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Ah...sorry for misunderstanding then. Is it possible that it isn't something as major as it seems? Or is it more than that?

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 10:34:28 PM   
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quote:

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I've tried multiple times to have that conversation with him.... and then it all goes out the window...


That would concern me more than him being attracted to other women...


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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 10:51:12 PM   
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If it is a pattern of behavior over a significant amount of time, or a one-time event that is a deal-breaker:

Vote with your feet. Dump the dick. You cannot make him act right. All you can do is control your own thoughts, feelings and actions. Lose the loser, and you'll lose the drama. You deserve peace in your life, and to be treated right. So don't accept less.

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RE: What to do... - 4/14/2010 11:43:44 PM   
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Do you really want poly if it bothers you that he is looking at other girls.

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RE: What to do... - 4/15/2010 12:39:09 AM   
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Looking at her profile, she seems to be wanting a girl of her own. But now apparently here comes a girl who likes her dom, and the OP isn't okay with that. I guess she wanted to pick the girl. Go figure.





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RE: What to do... - 4/15/2010 2:38:56 AM   
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I'm not upset that he's looking at other girls or even that he's interested in other girls.

I'm upset at what someone else so succinctly called the D/s poly entitlement syndrome.


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RE: What to do... - 4/15/2010 3:01:02 AM   
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To be brutally honest, OP, I suspect that the real problem may be communication.  Your first post was "What to do when your Dominant is acting like a dick?"  Not very enlightening, consisting on your subjective take on an unexplained behavior.  You were asking us to comment on his behavior while accepting your viewpoint.

Your second post "It hasn't been a regular occurrence, though it does seem to be happening a bit more often these days. I'm amazed at what happens to a man when a cute little girl bats her eyelashes just right." made me think that the issue was your jealousy when he looked at other women.  I was confused because your profile made it clear that you wanted a poly relationship, and you would need to address this.  When I commented that you needed to discuss this with him, you responded "I've tried multiple times to have that conversation with him.... and then it all goes out the window..." which sounded like he agreed to do things and then didn't do them.  That sent loads of red flags to me.

Your last post was "I'm not upset that he's looking at other girls or even that he's interested in other girls. ".

So you have made four posts here, and at the end of them I have no clue what behavior of his is bothering you.  You have stated that it is other women, and then it isn't other women.

I suspect that you communicate like this with him, in which case he either is agreeing to one thing while you think he's agreeing with another, or that he has no clue what you're saying and is simply agreeing with you to end the conversation.




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RE: What to do... - 4/15/2010 8:53:25 AM   
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I'm so confused!

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