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What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 2:17:43 PM   
artglfr


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Status: offline 		What makes you wanna reply to a Dom/mes profile? Is there something that just rings a bell or do you respond to bunches hoping for a reply?

What are definitely turn offs/ warning signals in a Profile? Things that no way in hell would you ever respond to?

If a Dom/me contacts you from your profile do you respond?

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 2:48:53 PM   
texguy98


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Status: offline 		I respond to every email I get. Then again, I don't get many emails :) Even if I'm not interested in a person, I still respond and let them know. Better to hear back from someone with a "no" than not hear anything.

Warning signs in a profile? I tend to look out for Pro Dommes as that's not my thing. Things like "Financial Domination" are a big turn off for me. I also tend to look out for profiles that say, "Must be succesfull in their career" or "Must make good money". I also look out for profiles that sound more like a porn ad as they probably are :) Either that or it's most likely someone lying about themselves.

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 2:55:40 PM   
sublace


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Status: offline 		I respond all the time.  I just wish I would get much more reasons to respond.

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 4:39:16 PM   
cutelinygurl84


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Status: offline 		I respond to everyone who mails me even if I am not compatable with them.  I find it rude when someone mails you and you dont respond back .  I hate when I mail someone and they dont reply back its so rude in my opinion.  They could at least reply back saying no thank you or thank you but we dont click.  I rather the person be polite then rude. 

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 4:46:38 PM   
sweetpleaser


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Status: offline 		When I was looking, I was drawn to warm profiles of Doms.  If they sounded harsh I stayed away.  I (not speaking for others) like a Dom who is firm but warm.  Someone who projects a genuine appreciation for subs/slaves.  A sub wants to feel safe, IMO.   I definitely ignored emails from Doms who wanted to dominate me right away.  I would respond to emails that were general, getting to know you types.    Hope this helps   PS:  you seem safe to me.

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 6:35:56 PM   
slaveladyj


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Status: offline 		I try to respond to all emails, if they are friendly and polite I respond in kind. Most are just hello, again I respond in kind. If the message is crude, rude and downright nasty, then again I respond politely, saying not interested. only when the persist, and email again and again do I not respond.

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 6:44:09 PM   
Merritt27


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Status: offline 		When i was looking i responded to any email i received....even if it was the "Thanks, but no thanks".  The ones that got a more detailed response were the ones that came across as warm and actually interested in getting to know me...not just what i was willing to do in bed. 

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 6:45:25 PM   
MHOO314


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perhaps this will help

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 6:48:53 PM   
primeslave


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Status: offline 		there are several things that will cause me to respond.

1) if it is obvious that he has read my profile.
2) if he includes a nice facial picture (hopefully of him smiling) or there are pictures posted on his profile.
3) if he says something that shows that it took a little bit more time to write then "I CLAIM YOU".  doesn't have to be much, just a couple of sentences.  they can be funny, witty, expressing himself or commenting to me on something i posted somewhere.

what REALLY turns me off
1) one line emails ... HELLO
2) it is obvious he did not read my profile (i.e. i am not interested in a 5 foot tall man)
3) he does not send me a picture within the first two or three emails that he sends to me.  or if he does and they are blurry, at a distance or in some way i cannot see his face.  i want to see what the guy looks like -- if he can't share that with me then i am NOT interested as i figure there is something seriously wrong with him.
4) if he starts out yelling at me because i dont wish to give him my phone number right away or send him naked pictures of myself.

sums it up pretty much in a nutshell.  i am pretty open to just about anything else.  hopefully there is enough in my profile and journel so that a Master/Dominant who is interested in me is given something that he can comment on when he sends me an introductory email. 

did i answer you with what you were looking for?




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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 8:08:13 PM   
artglfr


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Status: offline 		Wow, there are some very good replies here, I am learning a lot and I want to say "Thank YOU" to all who have replied.

I was thinking to ask this because I enjoy reading and responding to Profiles myself. I read so often that people do not answer but I seem to be fortunate and write to those that do.  I also always respond to people writing me as I agree it is rude not to.



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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 8:21:19 PM   
artglfr


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Status: offline 		primeslave, Yes you did answer and your answer is appreciated very much. I read your profile and I bet you will find that tall One soon. good luck.

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/4/2006 8:27:22 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: artglfr

Wow, there are some very good replies here, I am learning a lot and I want to say "Thank YOU" to all who have replied.

I was thinking to ask this because I enjoy reading and responding to Profiles myself. I read so often that people do not answer but I seem to be fortunate and write to those that do.  I also always respond to people writing me as I agree it is rude not to.


    Well there you go then!..You get responses because you read the profiles..and enjoy them..You are writing to the person not the title so to speak..So hence you get responses back..Like you I always respond..usually politely,but then again I have with extreme rarity been approached with the obvious turn offs ie:Kneel bitch etc...and of course there are the times when I know someone has not read profile or I get form letter and this is ok too, they still get polite response,usually in the negative but polite nonetheless...be well...Tempting

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/5/2006 12:41:16 AM   
fullofgrace


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Status: offline 		i usually respond to almost every message i get, even the blatantly idiotic ones...very rarely i'll initiate a conversation, and occasionally i will send a message just to let someone know i enjoyed reading their profile.

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/5/2006 5:25:05 AM   
twicehappy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: artglfr

What makes you wanna reply to a Dom/mes profile? Is there something that just rings a bell or do you respond to bunches hoping for a reply?



A well filled out profile stating stating vanilla and bdsm interests. Reading their journals, descriptions of the normal day to day lives they lead. Matching likes and dislikes, matching limits.

Names also tend to catch my eye. Names that have sexual connotation i always ignore, as well as ones that start with Master or Lord. 

The male half of my current owners profile screen name is ScooterTrash, this caught my immediate attention as i am generally very fond of scooter trash (for the unknowing this is not a denigrating term, simply another word for biker)

quote:

What are definitely turn offs/ warning signals in a Profile? Things that no way in hell would you ever respond to? 


Words like "doormat wanted", "worthless worm", "financial worship".

quote:

If a Dom/me contacts you from your profile do you respond?  


Always, even if only to write a polite not interested. Courtesy costs little and shows much.





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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/5/2006 6:24:25 AM   
subslavemale


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Status: offline 		Firstly I consider it rude to not respond to someone who has taken the time to write me, even if we don't match or something, it's just polite to respond. Now...if they start off rude, demanding, or anything along those lines, I'll respond 'No thank you' and if they stay that way...it's a simple click of the 'Block' to ignore them.

There are many things I personally look for in a profile...listed here in no particular order:
  • Location...this is important since I'm not willing to relocate...you'd be amazed that the number of people who over look this
  • A full, well thought out profile...I personally need to know someone well before I even consider submitting to them
  • There lists of likes and don't likes...do the match mine...are they close...or completely off-base
  • Grammer, spelling errors, things like that...its the attention to details that I find important...
  • Age...sort of like the three-bears...not too old...not too young...ah...just right...
  • A feeling that they have a firm grasp of reality...
  • Relationship type...I'm only interested in 24/7 LTR...so is this someone I feel I could serve 24/7 for the rest of my life?

There are others too, but those are perhaps the biggies for me...

I almost forgot...any reference to money slavery, financial domination are immediate warning flags...

slave j

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/5/2006 6:31:12 AM   
zebra


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Status: offline 		Anyone who spends a lot of time haranging others about being "fakes" and decrying everything on the site worries me. I don't respond well to anger.

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/5/2006 6:32:06 AM   
pedpuppy


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Status: offline 		I do indeed respond to all emails that i get ... even if it is a one word email "Hello"  i will respond back. 

In sending a not to someone based on there profile .... if the person is in my area and i think i would like to get to know them better or possibly meet them in the futire i will respond.  But alot of times just seeing a profile from someone that is far away but is a very interesting profile makes me write .. just to let them know that i thoroughly enjoyed there profile and find them an intriguing individual. 

Meeting people is why we are here .. whether that be in person meetings or just making new long distance friends :D

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/5/2006 8:31:18 AM   
Mercnbeth


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ORIGINAL: artglfr

What makes you wanna reply to a Dom/mes profile? Is there something that just rings a bell or do you respond to bunches hoping for a reply?


before this slave met Master, she tried responding to a few profiles and then changed strategy as that wasn't working out so well--she responded only to those who had responded to her profile(not on this site)---she did not initiate contact.  the bell was rung by those who were over the age of 45, intelligent and articulate, with a sense of humor, and damned decisive about what they were looking for. 

quote:

What are definitely turn offs/ warning signals in a Profile? Things that no way in hell would you ever respond to?


desperate subs posing as Doms
12 steppers in the throes of their "disease"
Missionaries looking to convert this slave to the "One True Religion"
anyone who's profession is called a "practice"
guys who look like fashion models
anyone under the age of 45

quote:

If a Dom/me contacts you from your profile do you respond?


this slave started out on Alt, contacting a couple of people and it didn't work out so well.  this slave switched to another site(BDSM personals) and this slave wrote a short paragraph--50 words or so and checked off some interest boxes--the site matched up people who shared similar interests and notified those looking.  this slave received 50 responses to her profile in a week, waded through them, narrowed it down to 10 semi-finalists, picked the top three and started by contacting #1 on the list.  After chatting briefly through IM and talking a few times on the phone we arranged to meet March 1st, 2003.  this slave became His collared slave September 19th, 2003.

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/5/2006 8:59:23 AM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		What makes me want to respond to a profile is if I would like to make friends with that person.  I respond to all emails.

The no way in hell is this one profile I read where the guy went into an entire scenario where when you met him for the first time he would take you to a restaraunt. At the restaraunt he would then pick up your glass and take it with him to the bathroom and urinate in it. Then he would put it back on the table and you (sub) would have to drink it all.  This just squicked me. I think a slave can learn to adapt and enjoy a Dom's fetishes or what not but it takes alot of time and training.

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RE: What makes you wanna - 4/5/2006 9:24:02 AM   
acctonthelook


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Status: offline 		Being new to the lifestyle, I can honestly say I look for someone real.  Someone who is not just out for sex.  Someone who shares themselves in their profile.  Anyone over the edge sadist or looking for additional subs or too far away from me are just not profiles I contact.  If a profile has very little in the way of showing themselves, I won't contact them either. 
 
I prefer profiles with pics, but realise not all persons can or want their pic upfront.  I look more to what they are showing of themselves first and foremost.  Profile names mean nothing to me.  I have mine because it's a part of who I am. 
 
When I receive emails I have to weed out the good from the bad.  Being a woman on the site I can, at times be bombarded with emails.  I don't respond to anyone who clearly has not read my profile or my posts. The ones who speak of nothing about me that intrigued them.  I want someone truly interested in me as a person and what I'm needing in a dom.  Not what they can get eg. kinky sex. 
 
I know fairly quickly when someone is true to the lifestyle, just in how they approach me, email me etc.  Their likes dislikes, etc.  After several emails you can clearly tell a person who is true to real life and the dom/sub lifestyle. 
 
To me it's not a fun game for the vanilla to "try out".  I'm not interested in being a toy.  Well only for the right master, LOL.  That I would give freely...mmm Perfection.  LOL
 
I have posted on my profile that if you are rude you will NOT get the respect of my response.  In my mind, they are just plain phoney's or disgusting pigs!  They don't get it!  This lifestyle is so much more than sex, pwr xchg, bondage.  They don't get it b/c they don't really want the dynamics that go along with all of it.
 
I'm seeking a d's relationship with a strong yet warm sided dom.  I don't care to respond to dom's looking to increase their sub counts.  I'm a person not a toy.  Right now I don't want an immediate Poly situation.  That's not to say I would not want it in the future, but for now I know it's not something I want or need. As we grow, we change, we develop.
 
I don't think its wrong to not reply to stupidity or sleeze balls.  I'm much more than that!  I want a special dom/ sub relationship geared more to a true d's dynamic.  Anyone who just doesn't get that, is not worth my time or energy.  I'm honest and upfront about that in my profile.  I expect the same in return.  Fair is fair for now.  LOL

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