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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/17/2010 8:00:06 PM

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The profanity I use has nothing to do with helping or hindering the exercise of my control. Its just the best suited use for dirty language is when I am talking dirty... isnt that what its for? I dont need it, nor do I use it every time we play, but it certainly does enhance certain scenes. I am not going to drain the electricity of a scene because I am worried about having a foul mouth.

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 5:03:54 AM

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Sort of looking like all the "Real Dommes" don't need foul language. Not using course language is somewhat akin to not dropping back to "Kneel worm!" When I get heated or emotional, I try to use "Frell" instead of more conventional words. I find it amusing, it indicates that I'm a SciFi/Fantasy nut and a touch geeky. If boys understand the reference, they get Brownie points in my book. But if I get wound up, yeah, those words start to flow.

Once upon a long time ago, I used to work for a female boss who's language would make a sailor blush. It was my dream job as the Art Director for an advertising agency. Her whirl wind, raging temper tantrums and appalling vocabulary were the main reasons that I left that position. When I turned in my resignation, she sat down and had a nice chat with me trying to get me to stay. But I explained that I couldn't work under the conditions created by her foul mouth. She said that I needed to grow a tougher skin and that everyone in the business spoke that way to get things done. That's when I decided that Advertising was not for me.

When Sceneing, my favorite loves humiliation. I find it really difficult to call him a "fucking slut" with any conviction considering the fact that No Sex is HIS hard limit. *doh* How can I say "I'm going to fuck you like a cheap cunt" when he doesn't even like ass play. It just doesn't WORK!

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 5:07:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

eh...isn't that ball gag ?

Only when I'm feeling nice ;-)

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 5:17:24 AM

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Mike, you're balls reach your mouth? Cool. Didn't know you were that flexible.

*penciling Mike in for Mid-May*

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 7:35:02 AM

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Sorry Ms.Starlett mid -May just won't work for me http://www.collarchat.com/m_3154468/mpage_1/tm.htm ....but perhaps we could work something out for June ?

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 9:19:47 AM

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I work in construction, I grew up in and around construction workers, guess what? I cuss and though I do try and keep it to a minimum that doesn't always happen. When I play with my sub, yep I curse and he loves it. In fact the dirtier I talk the hotter we both get so as long as we are enjoying it, we really don't give a fuck what others think.

You don't want to hear cussing? Make it a limit and search for a Domme who doesn't cuss, its that easy.

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 10:21:15 AM

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Absolutely fucking not.

All joking aside, I've no interest in humiliating or degrading the men in my life. If you're part of my life, it's because I think you're pretty special. I don't have time to waste on those who aren't.

Yeah, what she said.

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 3:25:04 PM

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Ooooooh! Congrats Mike! That's just awesome!

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 3:29:29 PM

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Did You stop and post...I'm trying to keep it on the first page till he graduates...lol

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 4:58:19 PM

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I tend to think those who put vulgarity in their profiles are trying to play into the typical male fantasy where a dominant woman has to be bitchy and mean. When in reality that could not be farther from the truth anybody can put on a act and be a bitch but I truly superior woman commands the respect of their submissive imo.

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 6:18:14 PM

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" When I get heated or emotional, I try to use "Frell" instead of more conventional words.

I always thought it was "Frill" ... lol

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/18/2010 6:59:10 PM

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If you use vulgarity for a purpose or a particular response...that is ok. I am not against that. The thing I was referring to is just plain sailor talk all the time... I just wanted to clear up my OP so there was no misunderstanding.

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/19/2010 3:44:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: Steponme73

If you use vulgarity for a purpose or a particular response...that is ok. I am not against that. The thing I was referring to is just plain sailor talk all the time... I just wanted to clear up my OP so there was no misunderstanding.

Hmm. I know what you mean. Such 'sailor talk' has certainly become common in American D/s porn. (Or so I'm led to believe. ;-)) Perhaps the directors of said flicks think a femdom sounds more "assertive" if she swears a lot.

"Stick your fucking tongue in there. Stick it fucking in. All the fucking way fucking in".

Jeez. I tend to end up thinking, "Oh shut up, you silly tart". Or at least I would if I watched such material.

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RE: Controlling your sub - 4/19/2010 6:33:01 AM

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"Stick your fucking tongue in there. Stick it fucking in. All the fucking way fucking in".

Jeez. I tend to end up thinking, "Oh shut up, you silly tart". Or at least I would if I watched such material.

Hehehe Peon, for someone who doesn't watch porn, you sure do have a fairly good grasp on what goes on in it... me thinks thou doth protest too much.

And to the OP,
I don't believe my profile has swear words in it, and as a general rule of thumb I do not swear in every day conversation, though of course it does occasionally slip in.
I am not big on dirty\nasty talk during a scene\sex but I have no compunction about calling my sub a dirty little slut or some such, if I feel the scene warrants it ... in other words, if it feels right I do it.

And similar to MsStarlett I use 'other' words often
frack it, fugger it, I will call someone a ferengi although admittedly that is usually a 'fucking ferengi'
and my current favourite non swearer is thunder humper ... from one of my ferals xbox games.

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