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RavenMuse -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/5/2006 1:42:14 AM)
When I was sending intro mails first thing was usualy a comment about what in particular it was that caught my eye about them, which could be anything from a particularly good photo (I'm a photography geek g), the sense of humour sown in their journal, the wording of their profile. Cover any specific points raised in their profile, a few comments about myself, what I am looking for and any points of obvious common ground ending with an invitation to read through my profile with a view to descussing things further. Funnily enough I respond best to mails that took a similar format to my own. I don't think there is any particular 'line' that would work on me nor one I would use, but showing that you've been interested enough to read the profile is a definate plus in the good start column.

FirmhandKY -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/5/2006 5:23:35 AM)
I've never really, in my gut, understood why this is so hard a question. Oh, yeah, intellectually I could write a book on "how to do it", but the very question is based on a view of people that is foreign to me. If you are writing an email to someone who has caught your attention - tell them how they caught your attention and why, and show them a little of yourself. Talk to them like they were standing next to you. If they like it enough and have the time/patience/desire, they will respond. If they don't, it just means, for some reason, they chose not to. Sigh, and move on. I don't ascribe to the "numbers" game, but not everyone is a match for you, but there is someone, or there are some who are. Of course, if you are just shot-gunning every person who meets your basic qualifications (breathing and female?), then there isn't really much of your individuality that comes across (other than horny?), and most people prefer to be treated as a unique individual in the beginning of a relationship, no matter what their kink desire says in their profile.

BitaTruble -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/5/2006 10:01:58 AM)
quote: so please, share. what tickled your fancy? I saw your picture and got lost in your eyes, then read your profile and want to get lost in the mind which wrote it. That got a response. :) Celeste

MasterRenegade77 -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/5/2006 10:45:14 AM)
I truly don't think it matters on sites like this a sub/slave is instantly so inundated with mail from wouldbes, wannabes & HNGs that there's little chance she'll answer... I've also heard that people don't like what's called a form letter but I think what the hell if it's straight forward & informative it don't get much better than that... What I hadn't thought of was adding something unique about the person that's to recieve this email I'll surely use it in the future... I know that even being in the Lifestyle as long as I have, One can always learn something new!!! I was told once that even a fool can teach you something if you'll only listen!!!

primeslave -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/5/2006 8:33:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble quote: so please, share. what tickled your fancy? I saw your picture and got lost in your eyes, then read your profile and want to get lost in the mind which wrote it. That got a response. :) Celeste wow!!! i love that one. i can see exactly why you responded!!!! that was awesome and unique. primeSlave ~

slaveladyj -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/6/2006 7:03:55 PM)
I had to comment on the recent email I received here. A male dominate emailed me to preach about God. I replied I didn't come here to find religion, if I was seeking that, I would go to a religious site. He actually emailed me back still preaching, that one I ignored.

QuietDom -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/6/2006 9:43:47 PM)
Even if the guy was a pushy jackass, I think the term 'dominate' [sic] is misapplied here. I find it more likely that this guy was a born-again bible-thumper, here on a personal mission from God to convert all the sinners and perverts before the Day of Judgement. (..and yea, for they shall burn in the lake of eternal fire! Can I get an 'Amen?') He probably set up his profile as a Dominant because he had to choose something before the site would let him in to preach, and Dominant status seemed least offensive to him. He might also have heard the popular myth that all subs mindlessly obey any self-proclaimed Dominant, and thought it would make his mission easier.

primeslave -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/6/2006 11:12:07 PM)
quite frankly, i learned the meaning of submission when i was married to my first husband. i had no idea that this lifestyle existed. i always thought everyone looked at me funny when i said that. i was always referring to biblical submission ....... not that i ever thought i would put that into an email and announce it from the street corner. never did have much patience for those who cannot live by example but insist they must live by shoving their beliefs on me. i would not have been as polite as you. hhhhhmmmmm, maybe the next thread should be funny rejection lines???? or would that be 'witty' rejection lines? primeSlave ~

foxnotinsox -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/7/2006 4:41:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: primeslave before the internet, a guy or gal introducing themselves to a member of the opposite sex was called a 'come-on line' or a 'pick-up line'. Pick-up lines that do NOT work > have you ever thought of having a strict black Master.. [perhaps, yet He would have to be more than strict or black or a master] > HELLO SLAVE... I AM IN SEARCH OF A SLAVE FOR FRIENDSHIP AND POSSIBLY MORE... TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF... WHAT DO YOU DESIRE?..EXPERIENCE... LIMITS? [stop yelling! and who are you to call me a slave without my permission? especially since I term myself a submissive] > Hi Fox! Im [insert name here]. write soon! [write about what?] > VERY IMPRESSIVE PROFILE, TELL ME MORE. [good grief, this guy's profile was empty .. he should have told me more] > Hi, you're so pretty. Would you like to talk? [third time this guy has contacted me, same type of line.. and I refuse him every time] > wish i can own you...can I? [no you may not] > hello delicious lady [goodbye bland gentleman] > Do you crave the darker side fox? [ummmm hello .. I'm on this site, aren't I?] > I want you to see my scent! [heheh I wrote back to this guy saying .. "see your scent? good lord man, isn't it about time you took a shower??"] Something that does work [a gentleman from 12 time zones away!] the heat of the day the chill of the evening are all beyond our total control but the warmth of the heart knowing one is respected allowing the other to devour them with care and humility passion and pain only one can give willingly take care and be safe ... pity the ditch is between

HalloweenWhite -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/7/2006 6:04:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NakedOnMyChain If you want to be taken seriously, none of them should work. An honest, detailed message that shows who you really are is best. It shows that you put some time and effort into it instead of sending the same tired pick-up line to fifty people. One of the only things that work is a picture of someone who is physically attractive, at least in a conventional way. Everything else is pot luck. HalloweenWhite

LittleKitten1986 -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/7/2006 9:11:15 AM)
Honestly when i get e-mails of oh your hot or any stupid thing such as that it is trash. when i get one telling me they are looking for a sub even though my profile says friends only... no response.. What gets a response is honesty. an introduction. "hello, how are you?.. i am so and so, i was looking for friends." and listing some interests, but other than it's all phoney crap.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/7/2006 11:38:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LittleKitten1986 Honestly when i get e-mails of oh your hot or any stupid thing such as that it is trash. when i get one telling me they are looking for a sub even though my profile says friends only... no response.. What gets a response is honesty. an introduction. "hello, how are you?.. i am so and so, i was looking for friends." and listing some interests, but other than it's all phoney crap. Im just being bitter I expect lol, I tried exactly that yesterday-honesty. Guess what......no answer. Im sure that if Id been a strapping six footer though the response would have been different i.e, Id have got one. But like I said Im just bitter lol.

ladychatterley -> RE: Email Intros -- getting a response (4/7/2006 4:07:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterRenegade77 I truly don't think it matters on sites like this a sub/slave is instantly so inundated with mail from wouldbes, wannabes & HNGs that there's little chance she'll answer... I've also heard that people don't like what's called a form letter but I think what the hell if it's straight forward & informative it don't get much better than that... What I hadn't thought of was adding something unique about the person that's to recieve this email I'll surely use it in the future... I know that even being in the Lifestyle as long as I have, One can always learn something new!!! I was told once that even a fool can teach you something if you'll only listen!!! Well, I'm a new sub, and I've responded to every e-mail but one. Most of them I just ask them about their political or spiritual views, and they don't reply. The ones that really catch my eye are the ones that A) make it clear they've read my profile and are actually interested in what I think--the guy who recently quoted something that I had written in my journal really made an impression; B) talk about something other than sex, preferably that is linked to my profile. For example, under "lives for" I say "Liberal Politics" and "Political Action." It isn't very hart to trash the POTUS, but it will invariably get me to reply in a very positive way. And C) are well written and proofread. The only one I didn't respond to was someone who seemed to have not read my profile at all as he clearly said he didn't want people like me in his profile. Off-topic (sort of) but I thought http://www.google.com/romance/ (google's april fool's day joke this year) was hilarious! They even had a "Post multiple profiles with a bulk upload file, you sleaze" function and an "I'm feeling lucky" function. "When you do a Soulmate Search, your deeply personal and potentially life-altering search results are produced solely by computer algorithm, without human intervention of any kind. Note: depending on your personality, you may or may not find this reassuring."

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