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lizi -> RE: mentoring, submission and subspace (4/19/2010 5:25:54 AM)
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I'd have to echo what the others said so far for subspace and what puts them there. Neck biting is an express ticket for me as
well. It takes kinky sex and/or play to put me there and when I'm in subspace it's hard to think. When asked questions I don't respond coherently and it takes me some time to drag myself down from there into being able to 'hear' what's asked and then answer. If he thinks I'm too far gone and wants me to be more in the moment to try something a bit edgier, he'll ask me questions and wait for me to answer them correctly before proceeding.
In my relationship we don't go about with obvious Dominance and submission, much of our life is lived in vanilla ways. Still it's like many other people describe...it only takes a look, word, gesture on his part to put me into my submissive mode and I become very obedient, I understand your friend's outlook on that point but that isn't subspace to me per se. When he triggers that type of obedience I can't do enough for him and I'm pretty much waiting on his every word. Like I said, this isn't how we generally live with each other but it's there in the background all of the time.
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