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Andalusite -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 5:38:20 PM)

jb, I understand what you mean, and I've also turned down a couple of people who've had a primary interest that I couldn't get into. For the most part though, I'm pretty flexible. I like a lot of things, but I don't *need* all of them in order to be satisfied and content with a person. For example, I'm a switch, so I enjoy both sides of a lot of activities. I've been in two LTRs, one as a Domme for 5 years, and one as a submissive for 3 years, with no play or expression of the other side, and was very fulfilled.



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 5:42:06 PM)

Thanks for the warning Domi. I'll make sure to get lots of sleep and eat properly in order to give myself a better chance of survival.

Say, will Jeffffffffff be joining us? I'm not sure I have the stamina to survive you both



jbcurious -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 5:57:42 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

jb, I understand what you mean, and I've also turned down a couple of people who've had a primary interest that I couldn't get into. For the most part though, I'm pretty flexible. I like a lot of things, but I don't *need* all of them in order to be satisfied and content with a person. For example, I'm a switch, so I enjoy both sides of a lot of activities. I've been in two LTRs, one as a Domme for 5 years, and one as a submissive for 3 years, with no play or expression of the other side, and was very fulfilled.


I'm sure that once I actually meet someone... it will all go smoother then I'm anticipating. As I read through posts, I sometimes feel out of my depth...this is difficult for me... I've always worked to be the "A" student.[8|]



Jeffff -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 6:00:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

Thanks for the warning Domi. I'll make sure to get lots of sleep and eat properly in order to give myself a better chance of survival.

Say, will Jeffffffffff be joining us? I'm not sure I have the stamina to survive you both




Sadly you shall not, but TIm strikes me as the stoic kind of guy who will find a way to carry on.



domiguy -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 6:00:51 PM)

In time he will give us the thanks that we deserve.



Jeffff -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 6:02:05 PM)

It is the way of the Caribou


as an aside....... heartcream needs the cone!



LadyAngelika -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 6:09:29 PM)


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ORIGINAL: domiguy


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: domiguy
I agree with LadyA


I had to read that one at least 10 times and I still don't believe it! ;-)

- LA


Well, it's that I am heading up north soon and I figured if I start priming the pump now I will have your panties in nothing flat upon my arrival.

Did I mention how lovely your thighs look today?


I guess even you are allowed your fantasies, Domiguy! Little do you know about my bait & switch technique. ;-)

And please do bring Jefff & make sure he wears a suit... and a tie! ;-)

- LA



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 6:10:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

Thanks for the warning Domi. I'll make sure to get lots of sleep and eat properly in order to give myself a better chance of survival.

Say, will Jeffffffffff be joining us? I'm not sure I have the stamina to survive you both




Sadly you shall not, but TIm strikes me as the stoic kind of guy who will find a way to carry on.


Awww hell......look do me a favor and break the news to him gently, have some gash on hand to distract him, 'k?



Jeffff -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 6:10:53 PM)

You might want to get your affairs in order.



ThoughtfulDom



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 6:12:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

In time he will give us the thanks that we deserve.


I love you too Domi [sm=tongue.gif]



JstAnotherSub -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 6:18:11 PM)

i dont fill the list out because i really dont feel like its anyones business.....there are so many other things i need to know are compatible before we get to the kink....i would feel strange letting a buncha strangers know i like to have a midget take my....

ah shit ya nearly tricked me!



jbcurious -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 6:42:06 PM)

Well I've been converted... I'll worry about actually meeting someone thats compatable in life and deal with the rest of it later.

I've completly overhauled my profile and if anyone cares to give me an opinion it would be welcome...some of you know me...probably on a more personal level then others in RL...[;)]



domiguy -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 7:02:39 PM)

First off, it's just stupid to say that you live in Spain...I mean, who in the fuck lives there? Second, not one mention about fisting or ass play? It just makes you look rather small and petty. Lastly, you mention that you are curious about "Druidism." Almost everyone I know hates the Drews. Remove it.

Tighten up the profile a bit in these areas and you shall be passing out your slit hand over fist.

No need to thank me, it is what I do.



jbcurious -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 7:32:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: domiguy

First off, it's just stupid to say that you live in Spain...I mean, who in the fuck lives there? Second, not one mention about fisting or ass play? It just makes you look rather small and petty. Lastly, you mention that you are curious about "Druidism." Almost everyone I know hates the Drews. Remove it.

Tighten up the profile a bit in these areas and you shall be passing out your slit hand over fist.

No need to thank me, it is what I do.


The guy with the slut puppy kennel...swoon

I was going for small and tight...

I thought that whole Druid thing hinted at my dark side... No??

I'd rather my slit were being fisted...

Thank you for your words of wisdom oh YodaDom...



heartcream -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 7:53:02 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

It is the way of the Caribou


as an aside....... heartcream needs the cone!


I didnt really read this thread so yeah blah blah OP sure oh I agree, no I dont agree, my opinion is this bla blah blah.

I have been in meetings with Ron. He is talking to his people but his people are blowing him so he hasnt really gotten to taking care of it for me yet. He knows I want the cone more than he ever will, it is his way of na na nahing me from afar.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 7:56:04 PM)

Why feel guilty, or bad, over something that doesn't float your boat??? Do you think your prospective partner wants or expects a servant whose kink matches his perfectly? [8|]

Do you want or expect your partner's kink to align perfectly with yours? Should he feel guilty if they don't? [8|]

Do you see how silly that is? [8|]



Enjoy enjoying the things you enjoy!  [:D]


Don't worry about finding a perfect kink match. Just look for a majority match, giving priority to the things that really float your boat.



sweetsub1957 -> RE: "Lives for, loves, likes..." (4/20/2010 9:37:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: jbcurious
What are your thoughts... Do you find that section of a profile usefull... do you fill it out... and how important is kink compatibility to you?

Ummm, yes, i do check that section of a Person's profile. No, i don't use it exclusively to make a decision whether or not to write (back) to Him. Kink compatibility is great, but it's not the be all and end all to be perfectly matched. i don't really know of any couples, kinky or vanilla, who are matched up perfectly in every way. First i look at the essay section, that's the most important part to me, whether or not we match up personality-wise. If that's a no go, the rest doesn't really matter anyway. Plus the essay section gives more of a chance to add context and explain anything that might need explaining.
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Or am I taking to much responsibility in wanting to be able to fulfill all my Dom's needs and maybe he's quite happy to hang up the bridals and leave the the bowls to the pups and gain his pleasure through other activities?

Well, i think we should fulfill each other's needs to the best of our abilities, but to expect to fill every one of their needs, or expect them to fulfill every one of yours, can be a pretty tall order and puts a lot of stress on the relationship. As subs/slaves, we like to please in every way we can, but i would rather find Someone where we can fulfill most of each others needs & have a great match personality-wise.
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In looking over this post... I don't think it would matter if the Dom was willing to "hang up the bridles" ... I would still feel guilty.

i had a counselor tell me "Guilt is a useless emotion in most cases. Sometimes it keeps us on the right path, yes, but a lot of times it's useless in that it makes us miserable when it may very well serve no useful purpose." i thought she was very wise. Why would anyone want to feel guilty because they are not perfect? No one is perfect.

~sweetsub~



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