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RE: The High Price of Life Style Dommes - 4/24/2010 11:00:53 AM

Marini

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Thanks for your well wishes, Marini - I got everything I wanted, and then some.

As a point of clarification to my post, I want to stress that the vast majority of dates I went on were 'Dutch treat,' so it's not as if the guys were claiming their payback for taking me out. Still, meeting so many unsuitable men really makes the suitable ones stand out when you find them.

I have always had vanilla men that will at least pay for a date.
If it comes down to "dutch" treat to go on an initial date {unless he has flown in from out of town}, I think I will PASS.
I have never done this.
I have no need to meet a man that can't afford to pay for a meal, if he is that bad off, he can contact me when he gets back on his feet.
If I am still interested, and he can't afford a meal at an inexpensive restaurant, we can meet for coffee!
I will pay for the coffee, and if he is charming/and makes me happy, I will pay for dinner!

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RE: The High Price of Life Style Dommes - 4/24/2010 11:41:41 AM

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     The price ( I tell those who express an interest in me) for a non-pro domme is much higher. First, you have to appeal to me in some manner, which means you have to have spent your life cultivating charm, intelligence, basic manners, morals of some kind and personal grooming. (Add the cost of your highschool education or higher, any books you've read to help you cultivate intelligence, character, charm or morality, decent clothing and grooming products. Sadly we can't put a price on your mom, who is probably somewhat responsible for how you turned out. I'm sure though, if we could, it would be astronomical.) You have to have been blessed with at least average looks according to my taste and know how to present yourself attractively. (Add the cost of healthy food, a haircut, and whatever you do to stay reasonably fit)
You will have to take me on at least one date, and probably several (calculate cost).    Certain toys of a more personal nature may have to be purchased by you because yours are the only holes they will be entering...unless you care to share with someone ? Do you like the scent of another man's winkie on your CB2000 ? I know of one I can borrow for free....(these can be pricey. calculate cost.) Most elaborate fantasies involving special wardrobe or restraints will also cost something.
    And what about the time invested to keep my attention ? Let us assume that every date takes 2 hours, every play session takes 2 hours, keeping in touch with me regularly to maintain my interest takes a couple of hours total/month. Oh, and as a lifestyle domme, I attend all sorts of lifestyle events. I would expect my submissive to attend them with me (gas money, door money, club membership, etc) If you were earning minimum wage for all that time, there would be a price on it. (I suck at math, but you can calculate it yourself).
Now consider the fact that you may not even get exactly what you want out of me, and will have to contend with my limits and preferences. If you want more than one session, you will have to exert mental and emotional energy to engage in an actual relationship of some kind. There might be expectations of you beyond just being a slut of some variety.
I am reasonably certain that if you did the math, the pro would be the better value.

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RE: The High Price of Life Style Dommes - 4/24/2010 11:51:54 AM

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     The price ( I tell those who express an interest in me) for a non-pro domme is much higher. First, you have to appeal to me in some manner, which means you have to have spent your life cultivating charm, intelligence, basic manners, morals of some kind and personal grooming. (Add the cost of your highschool education or higher, any books you've read to help you cultivate intelligence, character, charm or morality, decent clothing and grooming products. Sadly we can't put a price on your mom, who is probably somewhat responsible for how you turned out. I'm sure though, if we could, it would be astronomical.) You have to have been blessed with at least average looks according to my taste and know how to present yourself attractively. (Add the cost of healthy food, a haircut, and whatever you do to stay reasonably fit)
You will have to take me on at least one date, and probably several (calculate cost).    Certain toys of a more personal nature may have to be purchased by you because yours are the only holes they will be entering...unless you care to share with someone ? Do you like the scent of another man's winkie on your CB2000 ? I know of one I can borrow for free....(these can be pricey. calculate cost.) Most elaborate fantasies involving special wardrobe or restraints will also cost something.
    And what about the time invested to keep my attention ? Let us assume that every date takes 2 hours, every play session takes 2 hours, keeping in touch with me regularly to maintain my interest takes a couple of hours total/month. Oh, and as a lifestyle domme, I attend all sorts of lifestyle events. I would expect my submissive to attend them with me (gas money, door money, club membership, etc) If you were earning minimum wage for all that time, there would be a price on it. (I suck at math, but you can calculate it yourself).
Now consider the fact that you may not even get exactly what you want out of me, and will have to contend with my limits and preferences. If you want more than one session, you will have to exert mental and emotional energy to engage in an actual relationship of some kind. There might be expectations of you beyond just being a slut of some variety.
I am reasonably certain that if you did the math, the pro would be the better value.

Thanks, Voodali! Great read.
Same for me, except I 'go Dutch,' and require more interest time for more hours and per week.
And to add 'the pro would be the better value', but only in the sense of the equation: (# of bottoming orgasms divided by time divided by money).

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RE: The High Price of Life Style Dommes - 4/24/2010 12:23:37 PM

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Oh come now... we are on a sex site! We want it and they know it! We only say no because we want to seem prim and proper with our good girl presentation and yet we really want to be the bad to their bone sexual fulfiller of all sorts of men. Isn't our place in the big bad bdsm world to be service oriented dominant's?

Guys walk into a bar and think they can pick up a woman by the end of the night and they often tend to think the same way about a 'sex' site. In a bar they might buy a drink thinking that gets them close and it's just the price they have to pay to get some silly, needy woman into bed. They will only go the distance so far before it becomes too costly. "You want dinner and a drink? Bitch, you expect too much!" Think about how often someone has written a song about the 2:00 am pick ups and how many talk about going to a bar late at night when the ladies are all plowed already and they don't have to spend a dime. Just be there to catch one when they fall.

Now before I go sounding all bitter, I am not. I think it is funny that men think women are usable and disposable and don't want to invest anything to get so much. Funny because while it might work for them with certain women and while they are younger, when they are older it isn't going to happen too often! Funny in an odd sort of way that women are falling for it.

A cock is just a cock until it functions with a heart and soul. And no cock is functioning around me unless it comes with a man with a heart and soul. If that is too much to ask, then so be it, I can use a vibrator that will out last most men, won't talk back, won't demand anything but batteries and I can shove him in a drawer after I am done with him.

While most the submissive men around here don't know what the hell submission means and want a play toy dominant, there are some very good men I see and darn if I don't wish they could fit my life! I doubt I will find anyone here and am not seeking here. I do better at friggin walmart or shopping somewhere. Just last night, I... oh never mind! Let's just say I had fun and was workin it!

The serious guys have a rough time around here because of the non serious, who are often trying to get a lil without any effort at all. But then, we need to think about this a bit. Are they doing it because they can make it happen or are they delusional? It's like the scammer's. They are here because they get what they want at some point. I don't expect much around here and when I get little from it, I am not surprised. However, being here is wonderful because of the great people that are here and do get it all.

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RE: The High Price of Life Style Dommes - 4/24/2010 2:18:04 PM

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Some of these guys probably don't want any of the vanilla stuff that almost always comes along with lifestyle relationships. They just want to session and go. They need to seek out pros. We all know there are plenty of them around.

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RE: The High Price of Life Style Dommes - 4/24/2010 4:08:37 PM

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I have only had this come up once, from a guy who wanted to pay me via online shopping for cyberdomination.

If a guy offered to pay me, when I was looking, he would have automatically been blocked and dropped as a possibility. Most guys did seem very much open to friendship, but some weren't looking for a relationship, more of a fwb/fuckbuddy/casual playpartner thing. That wasn't what I was looking for, and they were usually easy to screen out with a few questions.

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RE: The High Price of Life Style Dommes - 4/24/2010 5:54:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: Marini

If it comes down to "dutch" treat to go on an initial date {unless he has flown in from out of town}, I think I will PASS.

I don't mind going Dutch when we're starting out, as I make it clear that we are starting out as friends, though with potential. Once that potential is realised, I get rather miffed when they mistake me for a service top.

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RE: The High Price of Life Style Dommes - 4/24/2010 6:28:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lockit
A cock is just a cock until it functions with a heart and soul. And no cock is functioning around me unless it comes with a man with a heart and soul. If that is too much to ask, then so be it, I can use a vibrator that will out last most men, won't talk back, won't demand anything but batteries and I can shove him in a drawer after I am done with him.

OMG. i love it!! lmao

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