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The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 7:07:47 AM   
Phoenix73Sir


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Status: offline 		So. assuming you are single/unowned.  What is the single thing that attracts you to somone you hardly know.. enough for you to initiate contact?

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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 7:09:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Their profile being well written, and expressing that they seek what I also mostly seek. Them being somewhat local even if we do not have the same interests for possible friendship. On the very very rare occasion something with in their profile picture like a huge mound of books or a motorcycle that looks amazing.

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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 7:11:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm talking about before you even get to the profile... that initial thing that grabs your interest.

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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 7:12:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Their profile being well written, and expressing that they seek what I also mostly seek. Them being somewhat local even if we do not have the same interests for possible friendship. On the very very rare occasion something with in their profile picture like a huge mound of books or a motorcycle that looks amazing.



dito (though not the local part of it), on top of that someone who values his face as being more important then his cock in his pic...as quite frankly anyone who prefers to picture his cock is not someone I consider being worthy to even get involved with...as I aim not to date dickheads...



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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 7:14:41 AM   
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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 7:15:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir
I'm talking about before you even get to the profile... that initial thing that grabs your interest.


Well...before I get to the profile all I have is the list of names, I find those in pink/purple/red more appealing.

Although strangely this isn't my favourite colour...

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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 7:49:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		The profile name for starters... If it´s something along the line of Big Bad Master Dom... then chances are I´m going to pass over and not look at the profile.  The other, shallow bitch that I am, is am I attracted to their picture.  If so then I peruse their profile and if I see some areas we connect on then I contact.

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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 8:53:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir

So. assuming you are single/unowned.  What is the single thing that attracts you to somone you hardly know.. enough for you to initiate contact?


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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 9:08:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir

I'm talking about before you even get to the profile... that initial thing that grabs your interest.


Uhh... since all we've got before the profile is the picture and username... the picture and username.

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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 9:18:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir
So. assuming you are single/unowned.  What is the single thing that attracts you to someone you hardly know.. enough for you to initiate contact?

quote:

ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir
I'm talking about before you even get to the profile... that initial thing that grabs your interest.

i haven't often actively searched but, if i did, i'd never initiate contact without having read the profile first. But if i had to, i'd say His picture. Not that i'm shallow, but a picture can tell you gender (in most cases lol), approximate age, sometimes ethnicity and style of dressing, etc, besides just whether He's attractive to me or not. Depending on what might be in the picture besides Him, it can tell a little about His interests too. I definitely prefer face shots, or clothed pictures. If all i see is genitals, it's an instant turn-off. If there's not a picture, an interesting username is good too. But either way, i always read the profile first. Then, when i get to the profile, it needs to let me know that He has some of the same vanilla interests i do and that He's looking for the same thing, i.e. an eventual relationship rather than just sex or play.

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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 9:37:39 AM   
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I look for location and age first...if there's no location listed, I pass on by. If they seem the right sort of age and the right sort of location, I'll peruse a profile.

I love profiles that go beyond the kink and show me a glimpse of the man he is. If there is endless talk of 'fakes' and 'wannabes' in their profile or journal, I immediately cross them off my list. I don't want some disillusioned misery for a partner - I want someone who is positive, happy with life and not over-burdened with cynicism and rejection.



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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 10:20:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		i almost never (really never) initiate contact myself - it feels "weird" to me.

Sooooo, when someone writes me, the initial things that i check prior to reading the message or profile are photo, height, weight, age, and location (duh).  A handsome photo, close to my age, taller than me, and not in Australia (Canada or UK are all right) are the initial things.

After that, a thoughtful, properly spelled message, and an intensely intelligent and expressive profile are what will get my interest.  i don't look for him to say anything in particular, rather i just want to see him being his true, authentic self in whatever he says and chooses to share with me, and the CollarMe world at large.

i don't expect perfection, just for him to be passionately authentic and grounded in his position as a potential Owner.

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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 11:11:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir

I'm talking about before you even get to the profile... that initial thing that grabs your interest.


um I guess if you are talking about this side then it would be what they say, how they type, can they spell and string together a few coherent thoughts, the id....

or are you talking about real life in which it would be looks initially if I haven't spoken to them

There isn't any single thing that remains the same each time though if that is what you are looking for, well not in my case anyway


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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 11:47:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		the way he gives his opinion on a forum,  that its important... that tells me how he thinks...

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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 11:56:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		If i am scrolling down the list of names their nickname is usually the first thing to get me to click and then usually their picture -- if its a pic of a girl or some silly pic or non-person pic i usually don't look farther because if i am looking at their profile and it says they have a pic -- i expect to see a picture of them, Next is their height, and then i read their profile. Its usually what is written in the profile that has me sending an initial post because my profille is hidden. Sometimes i just add them to my favorites and don't contact them.

All in all, MY mood lol really is what will decide if i am interested in a profile. One day i may add someone to my favorites list and the next day i will look at it and delete it lol.

I just saw that you mean before you get to the profile so you mean on the message board? you mean on here what prompts me to look at a profile --- well most of the guys on here don't because okay i am just going to say it -- they are playful in silly ways like in PORS or they disrupt threads of discussions with silly comments. Nor am i attracted to Men who post regarding doubts or issues they are having in their lives. Nor do i give much time to assholes who are so because of insecurities -- but assholes based on arrogance ehhh maybe. Those guys i usually do give some type of attention too, the former however, are easy to ignore. But now and again someone's post will catch my eye and i will want to know MORE -- so i click on the profile. There are Men i see interacting in PORS who interact in fun but not in silliness -- if this makes sense, and if i like how they come across sometimes i will view their profile.

But rarely have i initiated contacted Men on the message board.

Since my profile hidden, the contacts i usually get are people from the boards, so if i am interested in someone i usually have to initiate because they don't have a profile to go by for me.


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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 1:46:33 PM   
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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 1:47:48 PM   
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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 2:14:21 PM   
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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 6:51:17 PM   
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RE: The Lynx Effect... - 4/25/2010 7:00:07 PM   
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