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pleading2Bfound -> Humbled (4/25/2010 2:37:43 PM)
*Greetings to all,* *How do you feel when you are humbled? Is humbleness something you naturally feel each day, or does the feeling have to be orchestrated within you by a Dominant?* *Wishing you well,* *~lost~*

AquaticSub -> RE: Humbled (4/25/2010 3:08:12 PM)
~Fast Reply~ At the risk of sounding trite... I feel humbled. Valyraen doesn't believe in keeping me in a constant state of humbleness. I have enough problems with low-esteem that he doesn't want to add to it accidently.

littlewonder -> RE: Humbled (4/25/2010 4:08:01 PM)
Life humbles me everyday. God reminds me every single moment that my life could be worse or that I've gone through worse.

leadership527 -> RE: Humbled (4/25/2010 5:00:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pleading2Bfound *How do you feel when you are humbled? Is humbleness something you naturally feel each day, or does the feeling have to be orchestrated within you by a Dominant?* "Humility" is not a big topic of discussion for Carol and I. Each of us is, every day, deeply grateful that we have the other as a partner in life. But we don't find much need to focus on humility.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Humbled (4/25/2010 5:05:55 PM)
ahhhh, the Goreans not giving you what you had hoped for? Humbled - it's interesting what Aquatic said. For me (yes, for me) humility comes from many sources. There is a deep well of self esteem that supports that humility. It is in knowing that I am striving to be worthy. Generally speaking that means being the very best I can be every day. I once saw a student in the Finance Office. I happened to know he had very little money, struggled to pay his bill. He pulled out his wallet and emptied it right there to pay for the class that I taught. I don't think I've ever been so humbled in my life... and motivated to be the absolute best teacher in the entire world. Because he was trusting me, counting on me with his every last dime, I had to do my very best. Best, sunshine

stella41b -> RE: Humbled (4/25/2010 6:06:49 PM)
I've been street homeless in knee deep snow and temperatures as low as minus 25 degrees. Times are much better. But I will never forget the people I left behind and the people who helped me get where I am today. This taught me both humility and compassion.

AllLockedUp -> RE: Humbled (4/25/2010 6:43:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder Life humbles me everyday. God reminds me every single moment that my life could be worse or that I've gone through worse. DITTO!!!!!

myotherself -> RE: Humbled (4/26/2010 12:26:29 AM)
Interesting question...and one I've had to think about. I would say that if I don't feel the humility all on my own, without prompting, then it's not the real deal. I work with teens with many problems, and every day I see at least one of them achieving something special that requires a great deal of effort and commitment from them. That humbles me. I see my parents, both of whom have serious health issues and very little money, and they still remain cheerful and positive and are still as much in love as they were when they married over 50 years ago. That humbles me. Sadly I have never met a Dom who could inspire humility in me. Maybe that's because I'm not the type of sub who needs that kind of dynamic, or maybe it's just because I haven't met the right man. I can't answer that one right now [:)]

eyesopened -> RE: Humbled (4/26/2010 3:23:04 AM)
I agree with what has been said so far. Humility is to me spiritual flexibility. Just because I stand tall (self-esteem) does not prevent me from bending low (humility). It is the willingness and ability to bend that strengthens the ability to stand. Humility is something you find when you finally shift your focus away from yourself and onto others. I think the reason it's difficult to say how it feels is because humility isn't so much a feeling as a state of being.

lally2 -> RE: Humbled (4/26/2010 6:45:44 AM)
im not in the least bit humble - im grateful and im aware of my unimportance in the great scheme of things but im just not humble. what i have to offer i value and i hope that the people around me realise that what i give and what they give me isnt out of humbleness but out of a genuine desire to give and receive back. i dont believe that i have anything especially special to give to anyone and if what i give isnt needed or wanted or asked for then ill step back (humility) but if what i give is wanted, needed and asked for then there is no humblesness involved at all, if anything its a gratitude that im being given that opportunity to share what i have. makes me sound like the Big I Am, but im not in the least bit. i actually grew up with a person who was horribly humble and allowed herself to be pushed and shoved around, ingratiating herself upon all and sundry to be seen to be this sweet, unnassuming person she actually wasnt at all. whose that Dickensian character who was always so humble - but in the end wasnt humble atall. kept saying 'I am youre most humble and obedient servant' and he was actually a devious, self serving toady. humility is something else (in my book anyway) -

Kana -> RE: Humbled (4/26/2010 7:49:04 AM)
In his best Teutonic accent, "Vot is thees humble you speak of zo easily. I hav never heard zuch a vord?"

UniqueRaven -> RE: Humbled (4/26/2010 7:58:10 AM)
There are a handful of emotions that i've tossed out as useless. One of them is guilt. Another is regret. And a third is humility. Humility implies judgment. You are judging yourself as "less" or "more" compared to others on this planet - or to a state of mind conferred by your deity of choice. However as an emotion it serves no one - not yourself, or others. i am much less concerned with how i feel about myself and much more concerned with how i treat others i come across in this life of mine. My goal is always to serve others (especially my Owner, of course) and to be compassionate, and kind. As a matter of fact, whenever i find myself in a time of conflict i ask myself "what is the kindest thing i could do right now?" - and then i do that. But concerning myself with feeling humble? It isn't necessary. Life is so much more about what we do, and how we accept and treat others, than about how we judge ourselves. Being open, present, happy, kind, joyful, and thrilled in this life in general are much more useful skills and feelings than any sense of "humility."

elleX -> RE: Humbled (4/26/2010 8:08:04 AM)
I am thankfull that i live in a home where humbly is not welcome,,, cuz i struggled with guilt all my life and humbly is close to it i was taught there is other way to be remind me who i am ...

DesFIP -> RE: Humbled (4/26/2010 9:42:10 AM)
Humility is a lot difference than humiliation. I'm not sure exactly what the op is asking. Like Aqua, I have enough low self esteem issues that he would never deliberately add to that. Gratitude for what we have in life is something that everyone could benefit from.

leadership527 -> RE: Humbled (4/26/2010 10:39:37 AM)
I had the same question Des. That's why I phrased my answer as I did. It sounded to me like the OP was discussing some sort of "humility" that attached to the notion of "slave". It sounded like something that went along with the whole "in her place" thing -- a concept we don't really understand. The broader context you pointed out... "gratitude" is something that we both share in spades. I am routinely floored that a woman such as Carol would see me in the way she does. As cool as I think I am, I do not in any way think I actually measure up to her view of me... and that is a humbling experience.

DesFIP -> RE: Humbled (4/27/2010 4:51:27 AM)
Jeff, I'm glad I wasn't the only one who read the op as trying for humiliation. To feel they are lesser and of no value. Which isn't true, because if what he needed was someone of no value that would mean he wasn't worth much himself. It's because he is of great worth that he wants someone equally so. But no, deferring to him does not mean I am worthless nor would I be with a man who really thought that. Because that isn't consensual power exchange, that's abuse.

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