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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/26/2010 10:13:40 AM   
ChampagneMojito


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Status: offline 		I think we'd all have our hang ups, but for me the most amazing thing would be how my Owner has embraced all of mine and how drastically less important these perceptions have become for me.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/26/2010 1:48:13 PM   
elleX


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Status: offline 		I also have part of me that i dont like ,,,
and he use it in diffferent  way,, ( here i am getting into my intimacy  and dont want to enter too deep into it )
but at the end , He just make me feel better about myself,,, but  he also have to add discipline with some habbits that i have ..
well , sorry,, i dont think i helped in anyway this time


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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/26/2010 2:22:52 PM   
HisLadyAlways67


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Status: offline 		My Dominant has specifically expressed that anything that he appreciates and enjoys, is something that i should enjoy too. I've always thought my long, bony, fingers were unattractive, but with Him, now i appreciate them. He sets how i see myself, and a true Dominant makes it that way, so that he can give you the room and support to be confident and happy with your looks.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/26/2010 3:19:49 PM   
AquaticSub


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I truly do not believe Valyraen can set my body image because that's in my head. He can tell me that he finds me attractive and I believe him and trust him that he does. I know he does. I also know that people find all sorts of things attractive and just because he finds me attractive doesn't mean I'm the body type that I think is attractive for women. His attraction to me boosts my body confidence and makes me happier with my body but I still don't like my stomach and I still don't find it attractive. He knows my standards for my personal frame and I'm simply not there yet. I don't know if I'll ever get back there. It doesn't cause me major issues, I just select clothing that conceals certain areas.

I really don't see this as about trusting him. He thinks I'm smokin' hot. I know this, trust this, I see it every day. That doesn't stop me from being irked by particular parts of my body.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/26/2010 4:00:58 PM   
FetishRose


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Status: offline 		Thank you, everyone, for your lovely replies.  It has certainly been interesting and educational to see how different people view their body image, and I find I can relate to most, in some way or another.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/26/2010 5:39:21 PM   
hejira92


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From: Palm Beach County, Fl
Status: offline 		I lost a hunk of breast last year. I now have a scar and misshapen breast. I know it can't be seen in clothes, but I was very conscious of it naked. Sir loves my breasts. Once I was healed, I still didn't want Him to look at or play with it. He quickly nixed that idea and gave me a strong talking to. His girl, His breast. He loves me, He loves all of me, scars and all. I was, in no way, allowed to control what He could and couldn't do to and with my body. He put me in my place.

Once in a while I still mourn the shape, but He owns me and He won't put up with any nonsense. And while He really can't totally control my body image (that's an internal thing) He can work to change it for the better and choose how I present myself to the world.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/26/2010 9:44:20 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		for O/our dynamic if there was such a issue W/we would discuss it and i would do as my Mistress comands. so far there has been no body self image problem issues. for you a discussion on it with your Dominant may help to alay your self doubts about any body issues

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/27/2010 4:46:19 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		He just forbid me to criticize myself. If he finds it attractive then me saying it isn't is saying he's either lying or too stupid to know what he's thinking. Neither of which are acceptable to him. Oh, and being required to say thank you after a compliment helps also.

He can't change my thinking immediately but by removing the option of running myself down, my self esteem is higher. It makes sense, if you practice healthy body image habits you will get a healthier body image. If instead you practice putting yourself down several times daily, you will make your body image worse.


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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/27/2010 6:11:43 AM   
VirginPotty


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From: Virginville
Status: offline 		He once told me that the more I talk negatively about this body that he owns the more it speaks badly about him & his choice. I stopped after that but like hejira, the thought  is still there on occasion.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/27/2010 6:27:00 AM   
jbcurious


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Status: offline 		I'm single but would like my future Dom to want me to be the best that I could be...I need to be in better shape to have the level of confidence I used to have... I have lost over 40 lbs and I'm tired of the struggle of doing it alone...this is an area that I would love a future Dom to guide and encourage me in, both for his pleasure and my ability to be more open and comfortable in lovely, sexy bits and pieces.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/27/2010 6:46:21 AM   
loverly


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Status: offline 		When i speak about me... i don't " run myself down" but i am honest about being a short fat redhead.. i mean.. i don't want someone to show up and say .. oh.. your a short fat redhead not an older hottie! lol i AM beautiful and a good person inside and out how ever. I know from experience that i function and work well with encouragement and patience and help in this area! it is just when i am unloved and unwanted that i don't feel so much worth it. This is not a cry out for sympathy or anything of the sort.. i LIKE me and my life is OK .. just i am honest in saying .. yes i DO need help with this portion of my life. So that is part of being with me.. Its not about eating that is the problem.. i eat healthy .. but it IS about not sweating and being bored..and no one to do these things with .... i do tend to eat for comfort and being alone for over 3 yrs there is a lack of comforting happening.. and Guidence.
...and when i think about it.. if Who ever doesnt like me for me .. now.. then why would i want them later when i am slimmer?? i don't know.... maybe i shouldnt even worry about it at all.... it doesnt seem much worth it at this point! lol
and in the end.. i KNOW i am a good slave.. a good girl.. fat or skinny.. Happiness and lvoe changes us ... for the better most times. so i remember that and just live my life as best as i can .... and hope that at some point.. SomeOne will see past the superficial and see me.... ( ok so the Jassica girl wouldn't hang with me but thats ok too.. shes so shallow! i fdeel so sorry for her little butt! lol )

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/27/2010 7:06:16 AM   
bestheadyet


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Status: offline 		all i know its so nice to see i am not in this boat all alone......grab an oar and row with me !!!
Master is helping me with my metamorphosis. He is pleased with the work i am doing ........im not trying JUST to gain favor......He wants me to find a path back to loving myself so i can in turn have a heart that is full and can share with Him.
i know what society says normal is and i know i am not it but like jbcurious....i was the one just sough after for a @#$% not for love.
i am hoping to continue to change.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/27/2010 7:25:24 AM   
bdsmnewbie10


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Status: offline 		Beauty is in eye of beholder....Master accepts me as I am...actually has made me feel better about myself

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/27/2010 9:06:27 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Master loves my body just the way it is. I don't, i want to drop some weight that would make me happy. Since Master loves my body i am doing it for me and my health. Master want his sub to be happy so he is supporting me in my weight loss goals. He says i an beautiful and i believes he see me as such. In his eyes i feel beautiful As long as he see me as beautiful i don't care what others think. I also want to drop the weight cause ther are some really cute outfits to buy (my goal)

Matt's ttleone

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/27/2010 7:07:00 PM   
forsaken555


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Status: offline 		Well, I got small boobs, that I can't change or do anything about without getting fake ones. And getting fake ones is not an option.

And I don't like my weight. I'm 62kg but I'd like to be 45kg. Working on it.

My master likes my bum and thinks I'm just nice in weight. I'm happy he likes some things of me, but I think his just unique in that thinking. Makes me happy he finds me attractive, but it still doesn't make me feel attractive, I mean, my own standards comes first.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/28/2010 2:55:30 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		He doesn't seem to mind my body in fact he tells me he loves it. I have had lap band surgery and am losing weight. I am learning that it doesn't matter what the little flaws that I perceive are. If he didn't enjoy my body I don't think he would enjoy torturing and touching me so much. Life is too short to worry about things like that.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/28/2010 8:55:51 PM   
ForeverOwned


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Status: offline 		i have always had a negative body image,  and even after all these years i still get shy,but somehow when he looks at me with desire or love in his eyes i feel perfect all over.

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/29/2010 5:55:45 PM   
crazydriver


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Status: offline 		As it for me for body image i have destroyed my back and my legs so working out is no go .
The process of being a former soldier and athelte is sort of very frustrating an aft 911 being just off the pit has put me in sort of lock down these may years later .Go to work and come home with minimal interaction, so at this point I would like to reverse this .Its not about self esteem it about what will happen if sometimes. Want now to get the hell out and do again but out of shape w/ low toleraces .If i am rambling sorry or off topic
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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/29/2010 5:57:36 PM   
crazydriver


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Status: offline 		Also on can suck it up just so much Ha Ha

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RE: For the owned subs...a body image question - 4/30/2010 8:30:30 PM   
Daddysmuffin


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Status: offline 		When I was in my 20's I was what was called a 'knock out"
When I was in my 30's I was what was called a 'brick house'
When I was in my 40's I was what was called a 'cougar'

Now that I'm in my 50's I'm what is referred to as 'an invisible woman'

I'm still supposed to believe that I'm beautiful and desireable etc He even tells me so..... but still, it's difficult for me to accept. Up until last year I always loved my body, now, watching the things that gravity can do...let me just say it's not easy.

Enjoy your body while you can. Even your feet and your stomach.

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