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PrimalConsonance -> RE: How to take a maintenance spanking? (4/26/2010 3:33:03 AM)
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(NOTE I fast replied, but this is being directed to the OP)
Speaking as a Dom, this sounds a like the same as a punishment-spanking in it's content with "corner time" included. So the difference between this spanking and a punishment-induced spanking is what...you don't have a reason for this receiving this one? Okay..... There should be something to differentiate between the two in my opinion besides the lack of a reason, and it seems a more than a little unnecessary for a maintenance spanking to be specified at "45-minutes broken up by 10-minute sessions with 5-minute intervals", when a good maintenance spanking should be something that you COULD be looking forward to actually; and that your psyche could use as positive reinforcement rather than "now I'm getting one without reason"...
Psychologically, it doesn't make sense. You might as well get a session like for a reason. If this is to be a maintenance spanking, then please do-tell OP, what consists of a punishment spanking when prescribed by your dominant? One hour-thirty duration, at 20-minute sessions and 10-minute corner-time, followed up with 100-push-ups, a 20-km run through the swamp, ending with latrine-duty? Now THAT would show the difference between punishment and a maintenance spanking...
How to handle it mentally? Take satisfaction that he is lovingly giving you this maintenance spanking in an effort to curb your wicked behavior, and this is to help you. He is taking the time and effort to lend his hand to give you something aid you in remembering where you are not only in his life, but where you are in yours. A maintenance spanking should be something of a slight attitude adjustment or even given as a reward (which can be the same thing really if you think about it), and though this may sound contradictory for those into punishment, it delves into what also may include "funishment"... a sort of play-acting version of punishment.
I give spankings not because I'm punishing...I give out spankings because first: I want to spank some nice ass; and secondly my girl likes to get spanked. I don't need a reason, and she knows that if I want to spank, then I want to do more. And more usually it ends up with both of us sweaty (she "glistening", ME sweaty), panting and smiling about the wonderful orgasms that just occurred. She may even get a slap on the ass, and a "woman: where's my dinner?" afterward...which means I'm very happy and pleased with it all as she is about getting her spanking. Of course it may have started out as a maintenance spanking in this instance, but I can and do sometimes want to just give a little spank to set things right if she is in need of one. I don't have to tell her she needs one, sometimes she may express the need or desire to get a spanking...and no: it's not 'topping from below'; it's how I like it.
I enjoy her asking for a spanking at times. This would constitute a maintenance spanking. I had a submissive once, that needed these constantly. Not something that leaded into a session or more, but just a spanking to change her attitude. She welcomed just a few minutes of a good whacking before having to either face something, or before heading out. Her attitude would soften, and she felt better with a stinging behind than heading out as agitated sometimes she gets on a daily basis. She knew that if she didn't get one of these maintenance spankings, she would end up saying or doing things that she would regret later. When tense or feeling that she had to do something that would make her tense later, I knew that a maintenance spanking was in order. I don't like tense or stress, so I would suggest this spanking by pulling her over; pulling her dress up and panties down...bending her over and giving her a good coat of redness before having her put herself back together and heading out. It made things a world of difference better for her, the others that she would encounter, and especially myself. It was needed, and welcomed with relief at times.
But digressing done with, I would say that the best way to face this maintenance spanking, is to look at it if there is a need for this. You wouldn't question it if you wanted it. Personally, I feel that perhaps your dominant aught to review what is needed, wanted, desired, and necessary (and to what degree) prior to delving and delivering as he does at this point. Some sort of plan with somewhat of a fore-thought and vision (sort of like chess: one needs to be thinking 3 or more moves ahead before reaching out to utilize even the pawn in the current move) of what goal he is trying to reach. It could be a simple one, or something to benefit all concerned. Good luck and find your 'happy place'.
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