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crazyml -> RE: I want my Master to be proud, not disappointed (4/26/2010 11:05:35 AM)

Ello!

Some brilliant responses already, so I wont add much except to say - But from my very own personal perspective - If I were your dom, the two things you could do immediately that would make me proud of you would be

1) Stop being disobedient. If your disobedience arises out of something that needs to be discussed (perhaps a hard limit for example) then do your dom the favour of talking about it.
2) Take your punishment without complaint, by doing so you're accepting responsibility






MasterFireMaam -> RE: I want my Master to be proud, not disappointed (4/26/2010 11:29:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kuppykake

I have been very disobedient towards Him recently...


Working to correct this, rather than looking for "extra credit" might be your best strategy.

Master Fire




Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: I want my Master to be proud, not disappointed (4/26/2010 12:25:47 PM)

That
s a rather risky proposal, what if her doms monogamous? Of course she'd know better than to take your advice if he was, but not all doms like to share, nor do all doms find the idea of another girl hot.

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ORIGINAL: reynardfox

Find another submissive to join in as a treat.




lucylucy -> RE: I want my Master to be proud, not disappointed (4/26/2010 10:10:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven
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ORIGINAL: lucylucy
No, he hasn't told me that he likes that I've noticed these things (which is why I said I think it makes him feel good that I've noticed these things). It doesn't matter to me if he actually notices these things, as long as he's happy and feels well taken care of--and he has told me that. When he's happy, I'm happy.


That's good, and i understand and know you well enough to know that you don't expect some sort of recognition.  [;)] 

There are subs though that do - and struggle when he doesn't see and praise her for "everything they do for him."  Typically that's why i stay away from the "observe and serve" sorts of advice - i see much better (and often more fun for him) results for him to be engaged with telling his s-type his desires vs. her just doing it.  My two cents.

Yes, I see what you're saying. The "observe and serve" thing can veer to much into "be a mind-reader" territory, and that's not so good, in my opinion. Observing and serving shouldn't take the place of healthy communication, and too often assumptions can be made based on observations without conversations.

Also, needing recognition can be problematic for some, especially, I suspect, early in a relationship. I needed much more positive reinforcement that what I was doing was pleasing at the beginning of my relationship. Now, a little more than a year in, I am more secure in my relationship and know my Master better.

Kind of getting off track here. Sorry--I don't mean to hijack.




SailingBum -> RE: I want my Master to be proud, not disappointed (4/26/2010 11:52:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kuppykake

I was wondering what are some little things I could do to make my Master happy and proud that I'm His?  I mean stuff that He doesn't  have to ask me to do.  I have been very disobedient towards Him recently, and I'm not trying to get out of any punishments or anything, I just want to really show Him that I am trying to be a better slave.  I just don't want to do something that He won't like cause then I'll be in more trouble.  This is my first post, so if I broke some kind on posting rule, kindly let me know.


Uh do as your fucking told the first time and you wont ever find yourself having to play catch up.  I have zero tolerance for a bitch that can't follow direction.

BadOne




GreedyTop -> RE: I want my Master to be proud, not disappointed (4/27/2010 12:09:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: lucylucy

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven
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ORIGINAL: lucylucy
Someone on these boards--I wish I remembered who--advised me to simply pay attention to my Master and notice his likes and dislikes, etc. and do what he likes without having to be told. For example, he's never told me which brands of things he likes, but I've noticed and now I only buy those brands for him. He likes a bottle of water on his nightstand at night, so I make sure there's always one there before I come to bed. When I served brown rice once, he pushed it all to the side of the plate and didn't eat it, so now I never serve brown rice. Little things like that. We haven't discussed these things, but I think it makes him feel good that I've noticed these things.


i'm curious - has he told you that he likes that you've noticed these things?

i think often we as women do these sorts of things and men don't notice the subtle changes (like no brown rice) simply because they're happy.  If they're content and nothing is "wrong" often they overlook all the little things we do.  Which is fine, unless the woman involved is expecting him to notice, and to be recognized for it, and he doesn't, and chaos ensues.

i'm just curious here, thinking about this.  [:)]

No, he hasn't told me that he likes that I've noticed these things (which is why I said I think it makes him feel good that I've noticed these things). It doesn't matter to me if he actually notices these things, as long as he's happy and feels well taken care of--and he has told me that. When he's happy, I'm happy.


Mine does this as well. For a variety of reasons I don't always comment but I do notice and it makes me feel special...and ya know what, feeling like that gives me the warm fuzzies.



so.. when you are happy, you lounge on the stairs with your head poked between the newels?




Kana -> RE: I want my Master to be proud, not disappointed (4/27/2010 12:11:19 AM)

Darling, I am always trying to get my head between the...ahem..."newels."




GreedyTop -> RE: I want my Master to be proud, not disappointed (4/27/2010 12:14:09 AM)

slut ;)

OP.. I agree with what has already been said.. QUIT disobeying.  If you cant do that then it is, perhaps, time to find someone who fits you better.




dragon200070 -> RE: I want my Master to be proud, not disappointed (4/27/2010 1:22:36 PM)

You can be especially obedient, call him sir in public, hold his arm as you walk. Always smile at him if it's appropriate.

Jeff




kuppykake -> RE: I want my Master to be proud, not disappointed (4/27/2010 1:29:52 PM)

wow I didn't expect so many replies, thanks you everyone.  Eyesopened, your reply has opened my eyes, ha.  I think my disobedience has rooted from selfishness.  It is wrong of me to always think about myself.  I think too much.  I need to merge my mind with his, and think about what he would want at any particular time.  I am just in the beginning of this journey, and I know I have much to get used to and much to learn.  I'm going to try to focus more on his needs instead of mine, and I guess it wouldn't hurt to talk to him about this.  I am going to do so later this evening!




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