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Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 6:06:13 AM

BlkDomCple

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Hello everyone.
We wanted to know if anyone has ever relocated an out of state or long distance sub? Can you share your experiences, or explain issues that arose that you didnt expect?

We are very interested in owning our first slave. After browsing Collarme, it seems the slaves that show the most genuine interest in us and have a genuine want to serve us are from out of state. We arent opposed to relocation in its essence, but after discussion we came up with some interesting talking points that have left us on the fence about this.

Has anyone ever relocated a slave or sub from a decent distance(outside drivig distance) away? Are there any unknown unknowns that we should be looking out for? Would you recommend doing this? We do take this seriously for the safety of all involved parties, and would any input would be greatly appreciated. Also, feel free to send a PM if you need to.

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RE: Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 6:17:27 AM

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I'd suggest at least one trial weekend or so first. Make sure that all parties have a financial stake in the move, so that everyone loses if things don't work out.

I'm assuming that you're aware of the scammers as well.

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RE: Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 6:21:40 AM

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We understand what you mean about financial stake. That is something we talked about, and if there wasnt some comittment from all involved parties we wouldnt be interested. Never heard of scammers though, please enlighten us

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RE: Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 6:29:48 AM

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i'm going to respond here instead of the slave forum since generally starting two threads about the same topic in two different forums means one of them will be pulled. Yours are slightly different so i'm not sure but i'm going to stick with this one.

Slaves are relocated all the time. The method of relocation really depends upon the parties involved - from flying to driving cross country.

i was relocated to my last Master in NY, and will be relocated to my next Owner as well.

i think as Steven said it is important to spend some time together before making the decision, and move slowly - no need to rush. Also, as a slave i have arranged my personal affairs in such a way as to where all i would need to do is some "tidying up" here before i move - i believe it is part of my purpose to make my relocation as simple as possible for my new Owner. If a slave comes with a lot of baggage, you may be in for just the beginning of things.

Two other things to consider: pets and children. If a slave has either or both, it can complicate things. i'm sure you're thinking these sorts of things through, but decide what you will and won't allow in your house before talking with a potential slave.

Good luck to you both!

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RE: Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 6:37:33 AM

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I am about to meet a potential Master in Washington this summer, though I can't talk about experiences yet, as after all there is no guarantee yet that we will work out...however, whilst I was involved with someone else in the states recently someone else approached me with her experiences and I will email her your link. from this thread. I won't give you her nikname to respect her privacy, it will be up to her to contact you or not. Good luck

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RE: Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 7:21:00 AM

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My expierence; briefly: I spoke to this man for a year. Both families were aware we had met on line and I spoke with his mother, father and sister regularly. He and his mother nightly. He showed up at my door penniless and with no real material posessions. (First sign there was something wrong)He basicly poo pooed any job that he could have taken. The work he said he was trained for he apparently had not been trained for. I told him things were not working out and he should call his family and tell them to buy him a ticket back home. That night he took the keys out of my purse, got drunk and wrecked both my suv and new car. I put him out and things got really weird after that. I ended up having to get a lawyer and the local police and FBI ended up being involved.

I'm not saying what you want to do is wrong or will not work. I'm saying you can be very careful but will never know a person until you have observed them closely and that can only be done when they are close to you. If you bring a submissive type to be with you from a distance make sure they can take care of themselves until you all decide if it's right. And by all means do not have them living in your home until you know it's the right thing.

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RE: Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 7:23:11 AM

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RE: Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 8:30:53 AM

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Yes,she turned out to be a useless moocher who didn't mind. Be VERY careful about who you let into your home.

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RE: Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 12:42:45 PM

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Never heard of scammers though, please enlighten us

This is a variant on the Nigerian "I have $25 million in a frozen bank account and if you will be my agent . . ." routine. Scammers will play you, insist that they don't have a bank account, and then will ask you to send them money via Western Union or MoneyGram so that they can buy a ticket. Then some other problem will come up which also requires money to solve, etc.

These "sweetheart" scams are very common. Any sub eager to relocate to somebody they have never met have at least an aroma, if not a stench, about them. If you decide to go this route anyway, cover your backside by all means. Offer to come to them and pick them up in person and see what happens.

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RE: Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 1:21:16 PM

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The other thing to consider is past refferences. I have known several "slaves" in my time who were opportunistic moochers. They would bounce from Dom to Couple to Domme-whoever they could snow into taking in thier sorry parasitic asses. But when the word got out locally-no one would let them move in when the last master or Mistress outed them for thier shit.

But they just looked farther a feild. This sort of indivual often claimes to need to be "rescued from and abusive situation."

They just lie about BEING the abuser.

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RE: Need advice concerning relocation of slaves - 4/28/2010 4:22:59 PM

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We met at a kinky BDSM campout and spent a few days together. Depending on time of year he lived 600 to 1600 miles away from my location. We had fun and laughs together, nothing serious. Over the next few months we emailed, talked on phone a lot, and got to know each other better. He then came to visit with me for a few weeks in his motor home. During that time he met my family and I met the part of his family who lived in my state. I also got to try out motor home living to see if I could do it long term. He then left. We kept in touch daily. A few months later I was able to make arrangements to take a long leave of absence from my job to go spend a couple months with him. If things had not worked out I would have still had a job and a place to live. I flew to his location. We got along even better than we'd hoped. As a result I never went back to work.

I would never have even tried to make a go with him if I had not been able to provide myself with a safe net in case it did not work out. Being able to have the leave of absence and keep my home was a big plus for my peace of mind. If the submissive coming to you does not have that safety net then it's probably your responsibility to make sure she/he has one in case things do not work out as planned. I believe meeting families and having a friendly relationship with the families is also important. For example, when I had surgery this year Gary talked to my family to let them know what was happening. When he had a medical crisis just a month later it was my turn to talk to his family and make sure they were informed about his condition. Finances must also be discussed. The submissive will most likely need to find employment in the new area, unless she/he has some other income. With the economy being as it is, finding a new job may not be very easy. You will be responsible for providing for the submissive until there is a job, including medical expenses that may come up. Are you financially able to provide that? If the submissive is to not work, are you able to provide medical insurance for the long term AND a retirement program of some sort?

Good luck. Relocation CAN work if it's carefully considered. It can also be a disaster for both sides when important issues are not decided in advance.

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