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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/6/2006 8:20:25 PM

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Congratulations Raven

I am gald to see things working out for you

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/6/2006 9:12:49 PM

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Just the thought that she is mine makes it impossible not to grin from ear to ear so no matter how busy I am she isn't far from my thoughts and I'm sure she will get a few texts and maybe a call or two even when I am upto my neck in unpacking.

I am just soooo happy to be reading this. I must have missed the announcements but I didn't realize how well things had gone.

I hope everything continues to go so wonderfully for you two. You deserve the best, and she's a lucky girl!!

Congratulations!!

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/6/2006 9:22:27 PM

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Something I've memorized . . . .

"When you come to the edge of all the light you have, and must take a step into the darkness of the unknown, believe that one of two things will happen to you: either there will be something solid for you to stand on, or you will be taught how to fly." --Einstein

Seems weird but it helps. ~smiles~

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This gets misquoted and mis-credited so often online...although it is a wonderful quote.

When you come to the edge of all the light you know and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. --Patrick Overton

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/7/2006 8:11:39 AM

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Congrads to you Raven! She is a very lucky girl.
In those first days for me, I found my journal writing was very helpful. Especially because once he read it he was aware of my honest fears, my sub needs, and my thoughts of Him. With that he could respond or react with consideration of my honest thoughts. When he did react or respond w/consideration of my journal, I became reaffirmed and reassured of his intentions which is only and always for my best interests. This lessened my fears and strengthened my need for Him.
Congrads to you again! I look forward to future posts by you and your girl now that you will be together!

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/7/2006 2:25:09 PM

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Ok please please people slow down just a little - This is part of what scares me - There were no announcements as such, We are getting on very well and things are heading that way but have not yet, I am just out of a long term relationship, only a couple of months ago and having a difficult time as it is the anniversery of my mothers death on tuesday, at the moment whilst things are going well and yes, it is almost 100% certain to happen, I want to wait till my head is clear, so no - no announcements missed as none have happened, have met a lovely man who I really like but i am trying to take things slowly, the last month has had many up and downs and before anything becomes *official* I need to be ready in myself.

Besides, if everyone throws in congratulations before it happens, what is a girl meant to use for an excuse for a party :D

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/7/2006 5:17:54 PM

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Ok please please people slow down just a little - This is part of what scares me -

I'm sorry if you felt pressured by our good wishes. I think we are all just happy because Raven is well-liked around here, and most of us have been hoping things would go well for him.

You are wise to go slow, to feel your way as you need to. I don't know Raven personally but from his posts I get the idea that he will not allow you to become rushed or pressured in any way.

And, just remember, you can throw a party any darn time you please...Just remember to send out the invites in time for everybody to book airfare. (just teasing...)

Take care, and I hope things go well for you.

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/7/2006 5:40:03 PM

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Ok please please people slow down just a little - This is part of what scares me - There were no announcements as such, the last month has had many up and downs and before anything becomes *official* I need to be ready in myself.

Besides, if everyone throws in congratulations before it happens, what is a girl meant to use for an excuse for a party :D

i so know how you feel,

i feel that way too, or at least i did before i 'became' in my last Dom's 'offical' subs. until then W/we were a couple, friends, lovers, and played... but once W/we crossed into like me actually being His... well i needed time to prepare. i mean i was like so 100% sure i was ready, and 24/7 was so close i felt as if i was dreaming about it all the time, like if i was awake or like asleep. But like actually like making it so scared me to death. i knew He wanted me, and i knew He owned me, and He knew it too. But what i relised is i was like totally afraid that if once we like actually like 'became' 24/7 that He would suddenly relise i like wasn't good enough, i was submissive enough... or that cause i like wanted to like take a bubble bath each morning that He would nolonger love me, or want to own me... that i would nolonger even come close to deserving Him.

my fears were wrong though, and although we're nolonger together, it's not because i wasn't good enough to like be his. and those nine months, as painful as loosing Him was, were without any doubt the single best nine months of my life.

i lost him because of a central nevous system disease i've like had since birth. Like right before i like turned 23 it started getting really bad... and well i was in a lot of pain (and not the good kind like at all), i was scared, i could see how much pain seeing me go through this was... especially when He could do nothing for me. He was my rock, my Dom, my world... and as scared as i was with my disease getting worse. i do believe he was even more broken hearted cause of like not being able to protect me from my own disease. He watched me go from mostly like complete normal, to using a cane, not like being able to walk at all somedays, like not being able to control like how my head turns, and watching me have muscles spasms attacks that take over my whole body. He stood by me, loved me, protected me, and was stronger than i would ever imagined anyone being, but his soul and eyes told of his sorrow. i couldn't let him watch as i just like cept getting worse. i loved Him to much, to stay and feel how much He hurt for me... and to know how much He needed to help, and how much i wanted him to save me. So i had to ask to be released... and though it was the most evil pain this life has like put me through. i do like know i did what was right... not like what either wanted... but what was needed.

i'm like so sorry about that like lil cry feast... i just had to let it out, and for some reason this thread has like totally triggerred it. i hope it doesn't make anyone uncomfortable, or like upset.

i just like meant to say i have an idea of what your afraid of amaidiamond because like once i was too... and never for even one moment, now or then, have i regretted like over coming my fear... facing it... and going foward.

although like moving forward now seems like totally impossible.

Take care & best wishes,
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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/8/2006 12:21:10 AM

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Hopefully you are feeling a little calmer after our chat last night sweetie.

As I said, we are both working toward you being mine compleatly though we know there is time and work to be done before that point. From the perspective of 'Old Guard' once both people had made the commitment to seriously work toward that then it was a 'consideration' situation. That is what people are reacting to and feeling happy in regards to, nothing more and no pressure, simply reacting to the situation as is.

Yes, I fully know the things that have happened in your past, that you see yourself as having so much baggage, but as I've said a number of times in private and say here in public, you are worth the work involved in helping you over those problems. There is no rush, we have all the time in the world, I'm not planning going anywhere. Deep breaths, look at what IS, not what is feared.

Am just about to dismantle the computer to get it over to the new flat, so won't be around on line for a few days till my broadband is sorted at the new place, but you know how to get hold of me if you need me and I'll be seeing you VERY soon

To everyone else, many thanks for the congratulations and I'll see you lovely folks probably in several days time at the other side of this move.

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/8/2006 12:24:31 AM

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And, just remember, you can throw a party any darn time you please...Just remember to send out the invites in time for everybody to book airfare. (just teasing...)

Quite so petal..... I'm a Dom, party time is anytime *I* say it is.... who needs any more reason than that

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/8/2006 2:45:36 AM

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Ok please please people slow down just a little - This is part of what scares me -

I'm sorry if you felt pressured by our good wishes. I think we are all just happy because Raven is well-liked around here, and most of us have been hoping things would go well for him.

You are wise to go slow, to feel your way as you need to. I don't know Raven personally but from his posts I get the idea that he will not allow you to become rushed or pressured in any way.

And, just remember, you can throw a party any darn time you please...Just remember to send out the invites in time for everybody to book airfare. (just teasing...)

Take care, and I hope things go well for you.

Cin

Thank you very much, am feeling 100 times better this morning and off to see Him in a couple of hours (taking emergency supplys of white wine and massages after a day speant moving ;) I can see why He is well liked, grins, don't see any way He could not be. It was not so much the well wishes it was more me panicing a little becasue of the monsters in my head, I honestly hope I didn't cause any offense as was not my intention, just me being a bit of a flake.

Thank you so much for your kind words

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/8/2006 2:50:48 AM

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Ok please please people slow down just a little - This is part of what scares me - There were no announcements as such, the last month has had many up and downs and before anything becomes *official* I need to be ready in myself.

Besides, if everyone throws in congratulations before it happens, what is a girl meant to use for an excuse for a party :D

i so know how you feel,

i feel that way too, or at least i did before i 'became' in my last Dom's 'offical' subs. until then W/we were a couple, friends, lovers, and played... but once W/we crossed into like me actually being His... well i needed time to prepare. i mean i was like so 100% sure i was ready, and 24/7 was so close i felt as if i was dreaming about it all the time, like if i was awake or like asleep. But like actually like making it so scared me to death. i knew He wanted me, and i knew He owned me, and He knew it too. But what i relised is i was like totally afraid that if once we like actually like 'became' 24/7 that He would suddenly relise i like wasn't good enough, i was submissive enough... or that cause i like wanted to like take a bubble bath each morning that He would nolonger love me, or want to own me... that i would nolonger even come close to deserving Him.

my fears were wrong though, and although we're nolonger together, it's not because i wasn't good enough to like be his. and those nine months, as painful as loosing Him was, were without any doubt the single best nine months of my life.

i lost him because of a central nevous system disease i've like had since birth. Like right before i like turned 23 it started getting really bad... and well i was in a lot of pain (and not the good kind like at all), i was scared, i could see how much pain seeing me go through this was... especially when He could do nothing for me. He was my rock, my Dom, my world... and as scared as i was with my disease getting worse. i do believe he was even more broken hearted cause of like not being able to protect me from my own disease. He watched me go from mostly like complete normal, to using a cane, not like being able to walk at all somedays, like not being able to control like how my head turns, and watching me have muscles spasms attacks that take over my whole body. He stood by me, loved me, protected me, and was stronger than i would ever imagined anyone being, but his soul and eyes told of his sorrow. i couldn't let him watch as i just like cept getting worse. i loved Him to much, to stay and feel how much He hurt for me... and to know how much He needed to help, and how much i wanted him to save me. So i had to ask to be released... and though it was the most evil pain this life has like put me through. i do like know i did what was right... not like what either wanted... but what was needed.

i'm like so sorry about that like lil cry feast... i just had to let it out, and for some reason this thread has like totally triggerred it. i hope it doesn't make anyone uncomfortable, or like upset.

i just like meant to say i have an idea of what your afraid of amaidiamond because like once i was too... and never for even one moment, now or then, have i regretted like over coming my fear... facing it... and going foward.

although like moving forward now seems like totally impossible.

Take care & best wishes,
Katie

That must have been such a hard decision to make and no need to apoliguise at all! Thank you for sharing something so deeply personal and somethnig that must have stirred a lot of emotions to help me, and you really did.
I guess whatever the outcome of things you never know unless you try even if thats scary sometimes, and to overcome that and then have to give up the happiness found must be heart breaking, am so sorry to hear you had to go through that.
If you ever need to chat feel free to send me a msg even though I am a total stranger, I'm normally about a few times a day at the moment though away now till sunday. (oh dear, leaving my ex with the house, whatever will i come home too....)

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/8/2006 2:52:10 AM

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Hopefully you are feeling a little calmer after our chat last night sweetie.

As I said, we are both working toward you being mine compleatly though we know there is time and work to be done before that point. From the perspective of 'Old Guard' once both people had made the commitment to seriously work toward that then it was a 'consideration' situation. That is what people are reacting to and feeling happy in regards to, nothing more and no pressure, simply reacting to the situation as is.

Yes, I fully know the things that have happened in your past, that you see yourself as having so much baggage, but as I've said a number of times in private and say here in public, you are worth the work involved in helping you over those problems. There is no rush, we have all the time in the world, I'm not planning going anywhere. Deep breaths, look at what IS, not what is feared.

Am just about to dismantle the computer to get it over to the new flat, so won't be around on line for a few days till my broadband is sorted at the new place, but you know how to get hold of me if you need me and I'll be seeing you VERY soon

To everyone else, many thanks for the congratulations and I'll see you lovely folks probably in several days time at the other side of this move.

Much better now thank you! and looknig forward to approx oooooh 5 hours time, will see you before you read this so won't type much here.

*Grin*

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/8/2006 7:30:59 AM

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I'll just send my best wishes to you both.

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/8/2006 1:11:26 PM

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Trepidation at a large lifestyle change, regardless of knowing what is on the other side, is daunting.

I'm 30 years old and preparing to be a freshman in college. My friends have kids not much younger than these little snot gremlins that I have complained about endlessly for over a decade. I know I can handle the intellectual challenge of the school work, but can I handle the overwhelming sense of freedom and irresponsibility that comes with most, but not all, of these other freshmen? They have a vigor about them that simply drives me up the wall and makes me feel somewhat old, even at my relatively young age.

A lifestyle change is a lifestyle change, regardless of what connotation it's put forth in. As long as she knows you are there and won't let her fall, or fall for very long at least, things shouldn't be horrendous. But that's just my opinion, so don't give it too much weight since I don't know either of you from a hole in the ground. LOL

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/8/2006 1:27:31 PM

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Awww this made me feel all mushy. Congrats on your future and may you both find the fulfillment and happiness you seek.

Today is one month, one week since my Sir came for me and brought me to the home he made for us. I remember how incredibly nervous and excited I was. I didn't have doubts or fears, but I did have lots of "What ifs?" My Sir made sure to call me as often as he could. Which in those last couple of days wasn't as much because he was traveling to get me. I busied my myself by doing lots of packing and breathing. LOL.

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/8/2006 3:02:58 PM

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The soul would have no rainbow had the eye no tear---it is when we allow Another to wipe the tears, that we begin to live again.

The boy and I keep you and Raven in O/our hearts.

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RE: Prepairing to jump and knowing there is no saftynet - 4/8/2006 7:17:53 PM

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warm happy well wishing thoughts to Yyou both. each step taken towards eachother becomes more meaningful than the last... what is that great saying???

"You love her more today than yesterday, but not as much as tomorrow"

heartfelt wishes from
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