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HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 1:46:12 PM   
bdsmnewbie10


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Status: offline 		Master had given me the job of finding a pet for us, a submisssive female. I have never done this and don't even know how to start.
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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 1:53:42 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Find someone who can be YOUR friend, in case you guys dont decide that you want to fuck.

Cunts are way harder to deal with then men, (ever had three cunts under your roof?  I have.....never again without whips, chairs and acid barrels in the basement) so that is why men usually send the girls out to find someone they like, then worry about the whether they like the girl.

Thats all I am gonna tell you. Rest you should be able to deal with, finding a friend, and possible bosom buddy. 



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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 1:54:43 PM   
lally2


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Status: offline 		im guessing you put something in youre profile about who youre looking for, the sort of people you and your Master are, the dynamic you have and how this 'pet' will be fitting in with all of that.

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 1:59:46 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Do a search local to you for "women seeking MF couples".

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 2:04:12 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		You are in training with a master and he already wants to double up? Is this an online relationship and training? If you are in training, wouldn't your master train you to do what he wants you to do? I mean, even give you a hint of how to do what you don't know how to do?

Sounds like online games to me and in that case... he can just instruct you to basically do what he did to find you. Online submissive's are pretty easy to find. Just make sure to promise training and a collar really fast and they should appear very quickly.

If it isn't an online training and all that... still, your dominant shouldn't leave you floundering and should have some suggestions. Oh dominant powers that be know everything. How mean to not share the wealth with you!


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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 2:11:17 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		First, go the the Polyamory boards and do a search for "finding a third" or "unicorn hunting" and read as much as you can. 
Next, you get a realistic idea of how likely you are to find a woman who wants to join an established couple.  (Here's a hint: it's somewhere between slim and none.)
Then you tell your master to shove it up his bum.

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 2:12:31 PM   
bdsmnewbie10


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Status: offline 		Lockit, have been with Master 6 months, and very much now his likes/dislikes and satisfy his pleasures very well..no this not an online thing...He has just offered that He/I could add a playmate for both of us to the dynamic. Sorry if I gave you wrong impression

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 3:03:14 PM   
January


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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 3:16:35 PM   
bdsmnewbie10


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Status: offline 		We were/are in the swinging lifestyle and our respective spouses enjoy a vanilla swing lifestyle.

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 4:01:43 PM   
afkarr


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Status: offline 		For starters, this is an inappropriate "job" to give to a sub, as in effect it is making the sub responsible for a third parties behavior/ willingness to play. You can't produce a pet on demand. Secondly, it needs to be undertaken as a joint venture, as any third will need to be compatible with both people. A relationship with any potential third is something that needs to be nurtured with a great deal of care after determining there is a potential match. Not many subs want to feel like they're just being used by a Dom without any return affection; thirds have the double jeporady of being the second sub and therefore need extra care and feeding.

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 4:10:13 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Find a number for an escort service and tell him to hire one. Otherwise expect to wait ten years to find someone you are both compatible with.

Ordering you to find a third immediately is absurd. It's like announcing you want to get married and expect the next man you meet to agree. Most people date for years before they find someone compatible. A third has to be compatible with each of you separately and with your relationship dynamic and you both need to be compatible with her.

What are you offering her except the chance for him to fuck her? She could go down to the nearest bar and find that.

Honestly, the sheer fact that he's ordering you to do this and that your own relationship is so new, a matter of months and years if not decades shows that he hasn't a clue and should lose him a lot of your respect. The fact that it hasn't is because you are a newbie and the fact that he focused on someone with no knowledge doesn't say anything positive about him.


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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 4:20:29 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		Agrees with Des, hire an escort.

You and your master are both married to others, enjoy swinging and are still not satisified, you then want to persuade another to get on a train already heading at the sleepers!!!!

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 5:29:55 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Bluntly, OP, there aren't many women looking for MF couples, and I can't imagine many wanting to be part of an MF couple that's a secondary relationship.  She'd have to settle for sloppy thirds.

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 5:51:31 PM   
afkarr


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Status: offline 		Truthfully, I'm not sure why anyone who is called "master", or even a Dom; or for that matter a friend with kinky benefits would feel the need to issue such an order. Seems to me in a real relationship, built on mutual understanding, consideration, and trust, he could either mentio
n that he would be open to such a thing, and the sub would take the hint and show a bit of initiative; or they could both sit down and discuss it like grown ups. If the primary relationship isn't stable enough that it can handle honest communication without dramatic theatrics; it's probably won't bear the addition of other parties well.

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 5:58:18 PM   
WyldHrt


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Status: offline 		Whoo! Tall order. OP- couples search for years to find a third. A bisexual sub female willing to join an established couple is called a "unicorn" for very good reason. The fact that, in this case, she would be a fifth will only make it harder.
As others have said, it sounds like your master has no clue what is involved here.


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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 6:13:33 PM   
whipmaker7


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bdsmnewbie10

Master had given me the job of finding a pet for us, a submisssive female. I have never done this and don't even know how to start.


Shouldn't he be leading the operation? What's with masters these days, sheesh. Lazy, lazy lazy.

i agree with DesFIP... get an escort. It will be quicker. If he's actually serious about including another human being into the relationship, I'd say he needs to take a more managerial role. A set of some simple directives would help and a basic 'marketing' plan.

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 6:30:04 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Not to mention he's telling you to do it because all the women he's approached have turned him down.

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 9:33:18 PM   
DomMeinCT


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Bluntly, OP, there aren't many women looking for MF couples, and I can't imagine many wanting to be part of an MF couple that's a secondary relationship.  She'd have to settle for sloppy thirds.


You mean sloppy fifths.

OP: Why would a woman want to join you both, given the complexity? You're going to have to sell this one very well to find her.

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/2/2010 9:47:21 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		There is nothing better than trolling for a woman with another woman....But it actually seems counterproductive. she might choose someone even grosser than herself....This will not stand!!!!

I think it is my responsibility to form the layers of my poly family. This way I know there is already a connection and I can make the other parties accept my decision.

It's backwards to send a sub out in the big bad world and expect sound results. Have you seen the shit that they post out here? Those fuckers are crazy!!!

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RE: HOW DO I DO THIS - 5/3/2010 1:41:01 AM   
ResidentSadist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bdsmnewbie10
Master had given me the job of finding a pet for us, a submisssive female. I have never done this and don't even know how to start.


If you don't know how to or do not have experience “picking up” girls, then your Master is going to have a long long wait on his hands. I suggest you tell him it would be quicker and more effective to buy a wonderfully submissive bride from one of the many nations that has so much human surplus, they are selling brides.

On the lighter side, Pet Smart is having a sale. / Slaves in Texas are $850 / Slaves in Nigeria are free (air fair)


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