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thatkinkyfriend -> In search of an online Domme (5/3/2010 11:39:36 AM)

Hi there. I'm an in shape, openly bi, intelligent, and openly submissive guy looking for an online domme who is not looking for tributes. I have a webcam, yahoo, msn, and skype...so whichever you prefer is fine. I'm very open minded, and willing to trust you. Please message me if you are at all interested. You wont need to dedicate all kinds of time to me, just a little bit here and there. Thank you in advance for your time.

Note...I am ONLY looking for a woman. I am bi, but not interested in a dominant male, no exceptions. Thank you.

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blueeyedbbwsub -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/3/2010 11:47:09 AM)

Welcome to the boards. Good luck in your search.



thatkinkyfriend -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/3/2010 11:52:40 AM)

Thank you :)



pegbundy -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/3/2010 12:04:10 PM)

Such a cutie! (secretly wishing I were a domme)

Welcome new guy!



thatkinkyfriend -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/3/2010 12:12:14 PM)

Haha...you're not the only one!

Finding a domme that's not only around more than 1 day a week, but also that isn't really a guy posing as a woman is proving to be exceedingly difficult!



thishereboi -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/3/2010 2:40:13 PM)

What are you offering a prospective domme? 



thatkinkyfriend -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/3/2010 2:48:11 PM)

Honestly, I wouldn't even know how to respond to that lol. I'm..."new"

Since I've never had a domme before, I guess you could say I'm hoping to be broken in, so to speak.



CarrieO -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/3/2010 3:09:39 PM)

Adorable....now, let's try some reality.[:)]

Read these threads please...

http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3057130  Ask a Mistress FAQ

http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=1726118  BDSM book list (Try to avoid reading the fiction stuff and focus on the reality...sounds like you've had more than your share of fiction.)

Oh, and thishereboi is right by asking about what you have to offer a perspective domme.  Believe it or not...few women get off on "breaking in" a man online.  Especially one who isn't able to say why she should do the breaking for nothing (read-money) in return. 

Welcome and good luck.

edited to add.....after a quick look at your profile, I would also suggest you have a look at this thread;  http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=1717756    



DarkSteven -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/3/2010 5:34:06 PM)

Hey, fella, you take the Domme, and I'll just check out the Ben & Jerry's!  [:)]

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thishereboi -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/3/2010 8:20:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: thatkinkyfriend

Honestly, I wouldn't even know how to respond to that lol. I'm..."new"

Since I've never had a domme before, I guess you could say I'm hoping to be broken in, so to speak.



Well, it might be a good idea to come up with some ideas. It is doubtful that you will find someone willing to spend any amount of time training you online while getting nothing in return. Personally, I can't think of anything you could do for me online that would be worth the time, but maybe you will find someone who will.



choccywoc -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/4/2010 3:27:54 AM)

Welcome, i see you worship Ben & Jerry, great ice-cream in the sky, etc. I really enjoy double-jersey, yet it's a problem, i've had to ban myself from eating the stuff, of course this as nothing to do with that which you seek, so try to enjoy your time here. 



sirsholly -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/4/2010 3:35:43 AM)

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thatkinkyfriend -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/4/2010 9:49:24 AM)

Well...at least you guys like Ben & Jerry's :)



wandersalone -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/5/2010 2:14:40 AM)

hi new person

I have to confess that any time I see someone looking for online only I wonder if they are in a long term relationship and haven't told their partner that they are kinky and want a bit on the side... but that is just my suspicious nature [:)]

What exactly will a Domme get out of domming you online?  I don't really understand how they will get any enjoyment but I am unsure how online D/s works so that might be my own lack of knowledge.

enjoy your time here.  there are loads of very cool people  [:)]

oh.ps. your one and only journal entry from earlier this year may be off-putting to prospective Dommes, people don't really seem to like those who name and shame



thatkinkyfriend -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/5/2010 1:05:06 PM)

Well...thanks for the heads up again. heh

Perhaps you could provide me with some ideas, as opposed to just saying what I'm doing is never going to work...?



laurell3 -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/5/2010 1:12:13 PM)

Here's some advice, be honest always and ignore the people that tell you to be anything other than what you are...good luck in your search.



BoiJen -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/5/2010 1:15:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: wandersalone
people don't really seem to like those who name and shame



Not only that, it's against the terms of use.

OP, no one is saying it's never going to work...they're asking you how you expect it to work and what you're gonna do for the Domme of your dreams. They're only adding that, from the experiences of their own and others as it's been relayed here, you're not likely to find what you want but what will help is by starting off with what *you* can *do* for the Domme.

You can't seem to answer that question. In fact, they only thing you seem to lead anyone to know is that you want a woman who will tickle your pickle through online interaction without indicating "what's in it for her". Personally, as an owned s-type, that sounds mighty demanding and much more along the lines and expectations of what a top would be looking for from a bottom...you being the top.

Start by answering the question of "What will you be able to do for the Domme?" and hell, who knows, maybe they know someone who fits your bill, maybe.

So I'll await eagerly to see the answer.

boi



thatkinkyfriend -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/5/2010 1:25:16 PM)

Alright well how about this...what are some common things that a domme would look for in return? Seriously here, I'm 100% clueless as to what the expectations would be.

And...thanks for helping :)



CarrieO -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/5/2010 1:26:34 PM)

nm.



BoiJen -> RE: In search of an online Domme (5/5/2010 1:27:53 PM)

That's a good start. However, there is a disheartening answer: something physical. They're helping you get your jollies off and are likely going to be looking for something like tribute in one way, shape, or form.

Doing this thing in the real world, it looks like doing the dishes and taking out the cat litter. You're gonna need to find some cyber equivalent.

I can't be more specific because I'm not the Domme you're petitioning...in fact, I'm not a Domme at all.

boi



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