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Daddysmira -> My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 1:49:58 PM)

I'm rather new to this and Daddy and I keep in touch on craigslist daily.  I recently clicked on His handle and the following post popped up.  I don't want to piss Him off by asking about this but how would some of you either deal with it or ignore it? 

"Are there many relationships where the guy is gay but in a relationship with a straight woman? Besides hiding the desire to be gay, how else would you deal with it? Come clean and risk losing her?"
 
I don't know if He's referencing Himself or someone else.  And I really don't want to screw up the relationship we have.  Any thoughts would be appreciated.




BitaTruble -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 1:57:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Daddysmira

I'm rather new to this and Daddy and I keep in touch on craigslist daily.  I recently clicked on His handle and the following post popped up.  I don't want to piss Him off by asking about this but how would some of you either deal with it or ignore it? 

"Are there many relationships where the guy is gay but in a relationship with a straight woman? Besides hiding the desire to be gay, how else would you deal with it? Come clean and risk losing her?"
 
I don't know if He's referencing Himself or someone else.  And I really don't want to screw up the relationship we have.  Any thoughts would be appreciated.




I don't think you have a lot of options here. Communication is imperative in any healthy relationship. I wouldn't make any assumptions, but I would certainly bring it to his attention and go from there. You have the right to know where you stand.

Celeste



ShiftedJewel -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 1:57:46 PM)

Ask him about it. You never know, he may have posted it with an underlying thought that you would see it. Lets be honest here... if he is referring to himself, wouldn't it be best to be out in the open with it.. particularly with you? How happy do you think either of you can be with this hanging over your heads? Communication.. open and honest. That's the best advice I can give you.



Wildfleurs -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 1:57:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysmira

I'm rather new to this and Daddy and I keep in touch on craigslist daily.  I recently clicked on His handle and the following post popped up.  I don't want to piss Him off by asking about this but how would some of you either deal with it or ignore it? 

"Are there many relationships where the guy is gay but in a relationship with a straight woman? Besides hiding the desire to be gay, how else would you deal with it? Come clean and risk losing her?"
 
I don't know if He's referencing Himself or someone else.  And I really don't want to screw up the relationship we have.  Any thoughts would be appreciated.




I'd definitely just ask him.  Tell him you saw his post on Craigs list and ask him who he was talking about.  I would try to make the question as non-threatening/accusatory as possible.

C~



BEOURPET -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 1:58:30 PM)

If it were me, I would definately discuss it with Him and explore any feeling either of Us may have about it.  I tend to believe that communication can solve most issues

Sir J's Lady Patrice



MasterFireMaam -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 1:59:26 PM)

Don't be sneeky...just ask him. If finding out he's gay won't be a problem, tell him that upfront. Once you ask, LISTEN. Don't interrupt, if you can do that (it's hard sometimes) and let him tell you how he feels.

Fire




truesub4u -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 2:02:07 PM)

All I know.. is if it were me... I would just simply ask... are you bi?.... then let the conversation begin when he answers... LOL



LittleKitten1986 -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 2:06:24 PM)


Daddysmira
Honestly, if you have suspicion you should try and talk to him about it, but in a manner as to where you’re not coming off as improper. Maybe something like.
"Daddy'
i clicked on Your handle. While doing this i saw a post that said the following... (Insert the post).... i was simply curious as to if this was pertaining to You, or someone You know. "
Also in there, let him know how you would feel if he replied that it was meant towards him. you should never be scared to speak to your Dom mira, that's what part of the relationship is, is a basis of communication as well as trust. i hope this has helped you. i do feel you should be honest and ask.



brsugar -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 2:08:44 PM)

I would just ask him.  Then discuss the matter.  Then go from there.  Communication is very important in every relationship.
Keeping it kinky
brsugar[sm=crop.gif]



Daddysmira -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 2:12:57 PM)

I sent Him an email.  I'm waiting to hear His response.  I should I say I'm braced for it?



LittleKitten1986 -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 2:23:46 PM)

always be braced for it... but always have an open mind as well mira



Tikkiee -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 2:27:24 PM)

I agree. I would ask him about it.



KatyLied -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 2:29:36 PM)

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but always have an open mind as well mira


I think that's some good advice.  Also, take a few minutes and consider that if it's true, and he's been walking around with this secret, he's probably been torn about it.



champagnewishes -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 2:46:27 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysmira
  And I really don't want to screw up the relationship we have. 


I think you did the right thing by asking him straight out without playing games or assuming things that you are not sure of.  A relationship is based on being open and honest...



CanadianGuy -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 2:53:46 PM)

You did  the right thing by asking.  Good luck and let us know how it goes.



catize -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 3:44:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysmira
  And I really don't want to screw up the relationship we have.  Any thoughts would be appreciated.



As DG has told me, if a question is going to be a deal breaker, better to ask it sooner than later.



Daddysmira -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 4:18:31 PM)

He got back to me about 15 minutes later.  Asked me if I thought he was and I said no.  He said he was joking around on the craigslist and trying to get a rise out of people.  I told him if he was I would still be fine with him being my Dom and I would not respect him any less than I do now. 



Chaingang -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 5:40:44 PM)

Did I miss the part where where all the red flags sprang up and were waved around, wildly flapping and making those cracking noises?

From the outside of it, I don't believe his reply. And a pretty lady like yourself shouldn't waste time with a person who is that conflicted unless you think you really have something to gain from it. If you are long distance, I'd bail on him now. There is most definitely an odor to his story.

Amusing anecdote: I have a friend that was leading a sad and desperate life and who did not come out even to himself until he was around 35. For years we (i.e. my friends and I) thought he was straight and simply wasn't finding anyone to his liking. In a way we thought he was sort of asexual and antisocial. This went on for 7-10 years. Then he finally came out to himself and to everyone else and we were all so relieved and happy for him because you could at last see a dancing sparkle in his eye. Everyone deserves that happiness.

Question: Given that sad tale of romantic woe, what oppressive part of the world do imagine my friend was living all those years stuck in the closet?

Answer: San Francisco!



NeedToUseYou -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 5:50:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysmira

He got back to me about 15 minutes later.  Asked me if I thought he was and I said no.  He said he was joking around on the craigslist and trying to get a rise out of people.  I told him if he was I would still be fine with him being my Dom and I would not respect him any less than I do now. 


Doh!!!! One less sub on the market. hehe just kidding, sorta.



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: My Daddy posted this. What should I do? (4/6/2006 5:51:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Chaingang

From the outside of it, I don't believe his reply.


Yes, I have to agree, that reply sounds weak and hollow. I guess it might be true but I'd definitely not consider the subject closed.

If he is gay/bi and he's been hiding it, he may be so used to hiding it, that even when he wants to let the truth out, his defence mechanisms may not let that happen right away. If it were me, I'd keep my eyes and ears open and not let this drop until I was satisfied that I had the truth.

Good luck, this must be a bit nerve-wracking for you. {{{hug}}}

Cin



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