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SweetEscravo -> Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 4:52:58 PM)

In past years, I have been finding myself becoming obsessed with female body.  There is just such a beautiful and sensual grace about it that the male body lacks.  I would never want to be exclusively dating or with a woman because I enjoy too many things about males, but there is just something so much more sexual to me about the female body.  For some time I have been wanting to experience being with another girl, just to see what it is like, but I haven't been able to.  This worries me somewhat though because I'm almost afraid I'll end up gay, even though part of me knows that won't ever happen.  Am I making sense here at all?

There is just something so wonderful about the female body that it gets me crazy just thinking about it.  I have recently decided I am bi sexual, but my obsession with women is starting to get almost obsessive. 

I talked to my dom about all this many times, and he wants me to experiment with a girl, as long as it is someone he approves, and that he can set all the rules ect for it.  The problem is also finding someone who would do this. 



SirPrize -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 4:57:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetEscravo

In past years, I have been finding myself becoming obsessed with female body.  There is just such a beautiful and sensual grace about it that the male body lacks.  I would never want to be exclusively dating or with a woman because I enjoy too many things about males, but there is just something so much more sexual to me about the female body.  For some time I have been wanting to experience being with another girl, just to see what it is like, but I haven't been able to.  This worries me somewhat though because I'm almost afraid I'll end up gay, even though part of me knows that won't ever happen.  Am I making sense here at all?

There is just something so wonderful about the female body that it gets me crazy just thinking about it.  I have recently decided I am bi sexual, but my obsession with women is starting to get almost obsessive. 

I talked to my dom about all this many times, and he wants me to experiment with a girl, as long as it is someone he approves, and that he can set all the rules ect for it.  The problem is also finding someone who would do this. 

You think YOU are obsessed with the female body?  Try being me. :)



MstrssPassion -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:05:25 PM)

I'll tell you this much... giving up cock is not giving up much at all. [sm=lol.gif]

My partner is M2F transsexual. I had never even entertained the idea of having any intimate exchanges with a woman prior to our relationship. We entered our relationship knowing that if I decided to have a male partner full time or from time to time it was acceptable. I really thought there would be a time that this would happen & to date I have had no desire.

If you feel strongly about this desire then you should explore it... 

I noticed in your profile that you are quite young & mention that you are engaged. If you are going to explore this do so before you make a commitment of marriage. If you find out that you are in fact gay rather than bisexual it would be better to do so before marriage.

Best wishes & best of luck

(it's not so bad on the rainbow side of the fence [;)] )



NeedToUseYou -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:13:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

I'll tell you this much... giving up cock is not giving up much at all. [sm=lol.gif]




To the OP just used reply to get the quote thing.

If you find yourself saying things like the quote as a woman then you're gay. If you end up liking both, bi-sexual. If you end up just liking sausage after you try tuna well you're straight.  LOL



amaidiamond -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:15:45 PM)

Nothing wrong with being straight, gay or bi imo, personally I'm bi but then again, I'm a greedy sub :D



Chaingang -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:23:54 PM)

When I was your age I was experimental also. It ain't no big thang...



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:37:10 PM)

Human sexuality is a very complex thing that defies tight labels. I would suggest you try putting aside the lables for a bit and just concentrate on finding out what your fantasies are.

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I noticed in your profile that you are quite young & mention that you are engaged. If you are going to explore this do so before you make a commitment of marriage. If you find out that you are in fact gay rather than bisexual it would be better to do so before marriage.

MstrssPassion


This is a very wise suggestion. Try not to let fear stop you from facing this aspect of your sexuality. These things don't seem to just go away if we ignore them, and the longer we put it off the harder they become to deal with, generally.

It's really not an awful thing to be bisexual, or gay, or even just a straight woman who likes to worship the female body once in a while. It's really just one more exciting layer to your personality. With luck and patience you can come to embrace it, with joy.

Cin



MstrssPassion -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:37:32 PM)

I knew that would get a rise out of a few


(no pun intended)



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:41:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

I knew that would get a rise out of a few
(no pun intended)


LOL I thought that was your motive...especially with so many dedicated cock-worshippers around on this site.

Cin <~ is not naming names



MstrssPassion -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:46:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful

Human sexuality is a very complex thing that defies tight labels. I would suggest you try putting aside the lables for a bit and just concentrate on finding out what your fantasies are.

quote:

I noticed in your profile that you are quite young & mention that you are engaged. If you are going to explore this do so before you make a commitment of marriage. If you find out that you are in fact gay rather than bisexual it would be better to do so before marriage.

MstrssPassion


This is a very wise suggestion. Try not to let fear stop you from facing this aspect of your sexuality. These things don't seem to just go away if we ignore them, and the longer we put it off the harder they become to deal with, generally.

It's really not an awful thing to be bisexual, or gay, or even just a straight woman who likes to worship the female body once in a while. It's really just one more exciting layer to your personality. With luck and patience you can come to embrace it, with joy.

Cin



Very true words here. I want to add one thing that borders crossing certain lines as far as a lifestyle er-umm protocol...

Having your boyfriend, future husband, Master... whatever dictate how you explore your orientation preference is not really the best course or action. This man may be a partner or may be someone you respect as an authority over you in some manner but no one person can control a person's orientation. You really need to figure these things out for yourself. As Vancouver_cinful mentioned... this is not something that will go away. I talk with people all the time about orientation choices/decisions as well as gender identity. Denial of early signs often leaves a person with many feelings of regret later in life... I can't number the times I have heard people say... I wish I had done 'something' years ago.



MstrssPassion -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:48:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful

quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

I knew that would get a rise out of a few
(no pun intended)


LOL I thought that was your motive...especially with so many dedicated cock-worshippers around on this site.

Cin <~ is not naming names


or those that fail to rise to the occasion

(ok... I punned)



Arpig -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:50:14 PM)

I suspect your "obsession" has a lot to do with both the novelty and rarity of it.
as far as being bisexual, I am a firm believer that everybody is, it is just a question of degrees...while i prefer everything about women, I have often been distracted by a fine male ass...and Johnny Depp....mmmmmm him i would do any way he wanted in a minute



KarbonCopy -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:55:49 PM)

Defining human sexuality is the stupidest, most narrow minded thing a person can do.


It is possibly one of the most simple, yet thought provoking subject in the history of . . . thought provoking things.

Gay, Straight, Bi, these are all fairly new concepts in the grand scheme of things, and in my honest opinion are one of the most limiting, harmful concepts of man's very long list of . . . well. . . limiting, harmful concepts.



Arpig -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 5:57:33 PM)

Pretty much how i feel karbon...i had a friend who defined herself as pansexual...if it moved well, she'd fuck it...I think there is a bit of that in all of us



Tikkiee -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 6:00:16 PM)

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as far as being bisexual, I am a firm believer that everybody is, it is just a question of degrees

I don't know about that. There is nothing about other females that I find sexually attractive at all, to any degree.



Arpig -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 6:15:04 PM)

Obviously by my way of seeing things, you have a very, very, VERY small degree of bisexuality...hell like Karbon said, trying to define human sexuality is pretty futile, as everybody finds certain things sexy, and it really doesn't matter what the gender of the person possessing those things is...and so much pain and suffering has been experienced based on what a person finds attractive



scratchingpost -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 6:22:29 PM)

I wish you luck as you explore your other side. It is not uncommon to desire to explore your sexuality. I am happy that your Dominant will help you on that journey. Enjoy yourself do not pressure yourself and experience all that life has to offer.



Arpig -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 6:26:25 PM)

good advice there scratch



fldrkhorse -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/6/2006 6:26:46 PM)

My philosophy about human sexuality is we are all born BIsexual (sexualy attracted to males and females whether we act on the impulse or not). That does not mean we are attracted to ALL males and females. As we grow society conditions us to believe males should be with females and vice versa and we repress the natural urge. There's a local talk radio host that opened the phones for listeners to say what person of the same sex they found attractive. I thought it would be an hour of women admitting thier crush on women. I was floored by the amount of straight and gay men that called in (anonymously). Attractions cross gender, race, age, and economic boundaries. My philosophy, life is short and love is fleeting. Take it wherever and however you find it.



BitaTruble -> RE: Definition of "Gay" (4/7/2006 12:25:35 AM)

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as far as being bisexual, I am a firm believer that everybody is, it is just a question of degrees...


Just out of curiosity, how do you come by such a belief?  Although bisexual myself, I would still argue that I don't think 'everyone' is bisexual to some degree because I know too many who are hardcore het or gay.

This was to Arpig, but I'd welcome an answer from any who feels this way, cuz I don't get it. Universal's are so seldom true especially when they deal with humans and sexuality.

Celeste



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