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porcelaine -> RE: Begging (5/15/2010 2:19:07 AM)
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daughterofdark,
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I apparently don't do it right, I suppose. Or at least not to His standards.
Did you ask for clarification or was any feedback provided on the areas he found unsatisfying?
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How do you improve upon a skill like begging?
My inefficiency at begging was largely due to a misplaced belief that I was above the act and there was little reason for me to express myself in that manner. I usually tried to get around it. If you harbor any notion along those lines or believe that doing it makes you look foolish, weak, and what have you, you're going to have issues. That doesn't mean that some of this isn't natural, but the context of the act shouldn't be forgotten. You're doing it to please him.
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Is it something that should just come natrually when a scene has gone to far? Is it just that He might want to feel the power I've given Him over me?
It could be all of the above, but before you figure it out you have to ask yourself if you're sincerely feeling those things? I mean, if you're being physically intimate, has anything taken place that might inspire you to plead? In my opinion it should feel natural, but in the beginning it may not. If you start attempting to insert the words just for the sake of doing so it could come off horribly staged.
This is the area I was usually asked to beg and I was pretty pitiful in all honesty. I didn't like asking for something, I just wanted it to happen. The ego tells you some really odd things if you allow it talk too much. I clearly don't have that problem, but what rid me of those ideas was the necessity to beg for other reasons. You see, in some respects, begging comes off well when you have something worth begging for. I'm not talking about the person, but some element you really yearn to have that he holds in his grasp. If you apply the same concept to your situation, it will start to make sense.
If you crave him in the physical sense and that yearning takes precedence, articulating it won't be a challenge for long. Nor do you worry about being overly eloquent or getting the words right. You simply say what you feel - unedited- and raw on occasion. I think illustrations such as these are generally considered heartfelt and appreciated by the dominant. The other part of it is recognizing where your stumbling block rests. Some people have difficulty because they want it to sound perfect. Unless he's given specific instructions which pinpoint that ideal, I wouldn't linger on it too much.
It can be practiced and you might find that altering your stance and introducing other elements helps. Maybe you're dressed a certain way, perhaps you're kneeling. See how each change resonates within you. You may discover that certain alterations heighten the senses and make you feel more vulnerable than others. Don't ignore them.
I can tell you what works for me but it isn't glamorous. I'm pretty logical. I'm a slave and because of that begging isn't a right, but a privilege he's afforded that allows me to be heard. It is a clear demonstration that I have the stage and he's all ears. So I put my best foot forward and make certain I offer something worth paying attention to. I taste the words and allow the meaning to flow through me. Between each uttered syllable I'm cognizant of one fact - I'm serving him.
Best of luck.
~porcelaine
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