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Seeking Interaction with other D/s Dom Males - 5/8/2010 8:33:47 AM

JimE

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Dominant, male professional, married to an indifferent spouse for nearly 30 years. Still participating in an almost 20-year long relationship with a lovely married lady. Distance has separated us recently and in our communications I believe I see the roots and growings of a potential D/s relationship that I wish to nurture. I'm looking to exchange thoughts with like-minded Dominant men to gain insight in the most effective way to bring her further out in this regard, and to assist me in evaluating the communications I've received from her to confirm or deny my interpretation of her words...appreciate all your helpful comments! Jim

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RE: Seeking Interaction with other D/s Dom Males - 5/8/2010 8:55:27 AM

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Welcome Jim, there's plenty on here to help you.

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RE: Seeking Interaction with other D/s Dom Males - 5/8/2010 9:59:38 AM

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Specifically I'd like you all to read this exchange I had with her and give me your observations/interpretation....my interest is in getting your thoughts on whether she exhibits a submissive personality..here is the exchange:

Re: Beautiful thoughts....
From:
Jim
To: Mary
I'm in now...was on the phone...

Jim

On May 7, 2010, at 10:09 AM, Mary wrote:

I tried to call but it did not go to your office line-someone answered so I did not ask for you.

----- Forwarded Message -----
From: "Mary"
To: "Jim"
Sent: Friday, May 7, 2010 10:05:18 AM GMT -05:00 US/Canada Eastern
Subject: Re: Beautiful thoughts....

In all honesty, I wasn't sure how to respond. I'm very nervous about this trip and kind of unsure of myself so I guess not saying anything seems the right thing.

I just read this e-mail so I missed your 9:30 timeframe. Sorry if I disappointed you-I certainly did not mean to hurt you or lose your respect.

You were right-the closer this gets the more scared I am.

If you get this-shoot me an e-mail to let me know if you can chat for a short time.

I am OOTO today from 11-2

----- Original Message -----
From: "Jim"
To: "Mary"
Sent: Friday, May 7, 2010 6:57:39 AM GMT -05:00 US/Canada Eastern
Subject: Re: Beautiful thoughts....

Good morning to you...I hope you slept well and that you get a chance to read my mail with your morning tea!

I want you to always know how much I care for you and respect you but sometimes you disappoint me just a little when I know you read my mail but you don't respond to each one. With several days in between we both know you have the time.

Maybe I might embarrass you slightly but I am not like you husband, Mare...and you need to be just a little different kind of woman when you are with me to keep my admiration of you.

You can call me today at 9:30 if you would like to, I have a very busy day today, but please show me the proper respect and devotion...

From: Jim
To: Mary
Sent: Sat, May 1, 2010 3:08:01 PM
Subject: Beautiful thoughts....

How simple it should have been to say no but the thought was less than a
whisper in my mind. The cravings had grown too strong. The need to know
ingrained so deeply that the thought, the possibility of what was to come,
had my soul aching for submission. To relax, to let go, to simply feel.
Ecstasy. No shame. No guilt. Simply the exchange of pleasure, not through
subjugation but through absolute compliance and trust.

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RE: Seeking Interaction with other D/s Dom Males - 5/8/2010 10:06:00 AM

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A couple things strike me here, the most obvious is that sharing your personal mail with this person is beyond rude, tactless and probably even a TOS violation. The second is there is no such thing as a "submissive personality". I have no idea how long you have known this person, but what I see in this exchange is a whole lot of role-driven dogma and not much communication. Stop thinking in terms of role, if the woman is blowing you off, don't meet her, but also LISTEN to her when she says she is nervous and unsure and don't respond with dogmatic crap, communicate why she doesn't need to be and for the love of god, have some respect yourself if you expect it.

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RE: Seeking Interaction with other D/s Dom Males - 5/8/2010 10:07:00 AM

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Personally it feels a little creepy to me that you are showing private emails to strangers on the net. Does Mary know you are doing this?

My feeling is that rather than asking us whether she is showing submissive tendencies that instead you talk with her about D/s, bring it up slowly with her and see how she reacts. Pass on some links to websites and ask her to read them and let you know her thoughts. If bdsm is a bit too extreme initially show her some taken in hand or head of household sites.

Playing guessing games and asking strangers for their opinions based upon a few lines of text seems illogical to me

I hope you gain some clarity in your relationship. all the best to the both of you

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RE: Seeking Interaction with other D/s Dom Males - 5/8/2010 10:43:31 AM

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This OP makes no sense to me.

You should ask your wife for advice. I think she might have a pointer or two for ya.

Good Luck!

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RE: Seeking Interaction with other D/s Dom Males - 5/8/2010 10:48:34 AM

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Well, I guess a welcome is in order. Although this ain't an introduction. If I were Mare then I'd be mighty upset with you for posting what's obviously supposed to be private.

As to her not responding in time? She may have more on her plate than you give her credit for. Such as, a, a, a, HUSBAND????

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RE: Seeking Interaction with other D/s Dom Males - 5/9/2010 4:07:26 AM

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If I were Mare then I'd be mighty upset with you for posting what's obviously supposed to be private.

As to her not responding in time? She may have more on her plate than you give her credit for. Such as, a, a, a, HUSBAND????

this.....

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RE: Seeking Interaction with other D/s Dom Males - 5/9/2010 4:59:18 AM

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He says she's married in the OP.... Unless this is another person in the mix.

Dude, you all are doing some serious fantasy stuff here.

Good luck.

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