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Mistresses, Your Sub/Slaves in Vanilla? - 4/6/2006 10:17:28 PM

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Mistresses, Your Sub/Slaves in Vanilla?

This is kinda Hard to Explain?

Mistresses, I know that not every one of You
live the Bdsm Lifestyle fulltime.

So When in public with Your Slave/Submissive
and they make a mistake, Be it Mental or Physical
What type of Punishment do You like to give
when they act up?

Is it given right then,
or after You get home?

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RE: Mistresses, Your Sub/Slaves in Vanilla? - 4/7/2006 7:44:08 AM

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Honestly, my slaves and submissive have not "acted up" -- they want to be with me and to make me happy. "Acting up" would not accomplish that.

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RE: Mistresses, Your Sub/Slaves in Vanilla? - 4/7/2006 7:54:31 AM

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What she said.

I'll go a step farther, however. Acting up and making a mistake are not (necessarily) the same thing. If my slave makes an honest mistake, I am not likely to punish him for it, so much as to reinforce what he should have known. As TTJ said, he wants to be with me and to make me happy. Just realizing he has erred, should be punishment enough. I would certainly not punish or chastise him in front of others... that's a hard limit for me. If it was, however, a serious enough error to warrant punishment, the first part, while still in public or any other "vanilla" venue would be withdrawal; I would send him away from my presence and/or cease to speak to or acknowledge him in any way. Further punishment, chastisement or other reinforcement of my rules would wait until we were at home (not just alone... let him sweat it all the way home).

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Honestly, my slaves and submissive have not "acted up" -- they want to be with me and to make me happy. "Acting up" would not accomplish that.

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RE: Mistresses, Your Sub/Slaves in Vanilla? - 4/7/2006 8:23:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

What she said.

I'll go a step farther, however. Acting up and making a mistake are not (necessarily) the same thing. If my slave makes an honest mistake, I am not likely to punish him for it, so much as to reinforce what he should have known. As TTJ said, he wants to be with me and to make me happy. Just realizing he has erred, should be punishment enough. I would certainly not punish or chastise him in front of others... that's a hard limit for me. If it was, however, a serious enough error to warrant punishment, the first part, while still in public or any other "vanilla" venue would be withdrawal; I would send him away from my presence and/or cease to speak to or acknowledge him in any way. Further punishment, chastisement or other reinforcement of my rules would wait until we were at home (not just alone... let him sweat it all the way home).

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo
Honestly, my slaves and submissive have not "acted up" -- they want to be with me and to make me happy. "Acting up" would not accomplish that.

I completely agree.

Errors and mistakes, we all make, yes, even dominant... the horror!

Usually my slaves make themselves feel bad enough about it. I just given them an opportunity to correct the mistake or error.

I find they make even less errors in public because they are hyper aware of being in public and wanting to look good and make me look good even if those around just think we are a vanilla couple.

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RE: Mistresses, Your Sub/Slaves in Vanilla? - 4/7/2006 9:26:15 AM

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he has come to understand "Mistress' eye"--it stops trains, it stops him--and any punishment happens at home in private--however, like someone mentioned, he is so driven to please Me, acting up is really not an issue---its more of an honest mistake.

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RE: Mistresses, Your Sub/Slaves in Vanilla? - 4/7/2006 11:58:44 AM

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mind punishment is always best, the slave suffers the most when he sees me upset.

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RE: Mistresses, Your Sub/Slaves in Vanilla? - 4/7/2006 12:43:11 PM

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I have only dealt with one boy who acted out in public. He didn't last long.
An honest mistake is just that. We all make them. I would not take action in public, especially in front of vanillas. Unfortuately, that is exactly what some boys want.
A raised eyebrow, a definite sense of My displeasure and the appropriate measures upon arrival at home is appropriate for Me. And the measures depend on the boy. If he loves a spanking he won't get one. If he loves attention, he will not get that either. I used to put "r" in a corner. He hated that more than any physical punishment.

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RE: Mistresses, Your Sub/Slaves in Vanilla? - 4/7/2006 5:42:32 PM

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Generally, the subs I choose are not ones who "act up." I prefer the polite, considerate type and specifically state that I am not interested in "SAM's."

However, on occasion, subs have done things in a vanilla setting that were not to My liking. A few times, I have shown My displeasure by putting My arm around a sub's neck, finding a way to slip My hand inside his shirt, then digging into his upper back forcefully with My nails, done very discreetly. To the casual observer, this looks like a gesture of affection, but this is hardly the case! The sub is usually too embarassed to say anything and just suffers in silence. Another things I do is find an area of bare flesh that I can discreetly access, then pinch a fold of skin between My nails and twist. My nails are long and strong, and this does hurt.

More typically, if I don't like a sub's behavior in public, I'll say somethng like, "W/we'll discuss this later." Then at home, I will explain what he did that I did not like, and administer an appropriate punishment.

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