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miek05 -> Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/7/2006 1:39:18 AM)
Hi Beautiful Mistresses, i got a problem. i am painfully shy and quiet. it is very dificult for me to approach any woman let alone a Beautiful Mistress and convey to her what my interests are. One of the worse parts about this is that i am an athlete, and i carry a lot of muscle, Believe it or not, it did not give me the self confidence i thought it would. Any way, does any one have any suggestions to meet Ladies who happen to be Mistresses? i would appreciate any help any one has. Thank You, miek

LadyMorgynn -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/7/2006 5:02:12 AM)
First off, write a little bit more about yourself and your interest (since you don't have much experience) in this lifestyle. When approaching Domme's here, read their full profile first. If they want a sissy slut, and you are no WAY going to put on women's panties, that's a clear mis-match. Then write a nice email (doesn't have to be long) telling Her why you have chosen to write to Her, particularly.... what about Her profile interested you enough to write. In a real-life setting, such as at a dungeon or munch, introduce yourself first to the Dungeon Master, or whomever is in charge, and let that person introduce you around. Don't expect to play right away, but take your time, talk to people and let them get to know you, and I'm sure someone will take interest in you, but give it time :)

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/7/2006 6:52:09 AM)
I've been on countless dates with sub males who have been of the "quiet/shy" type who would not step out of their box and actually <gasp> talk to me, which of course was the point of me meeting them in the first place - to get to know one another a bit. I decline second dates when this happens, and they're always surprised by that. Here's the point - you are going to have to step outside of your comfort zone if you expect to make a connection with someone. This will take some practice, but if you play the shy wallflower all the time, you'll BE the shy, lonely wallflower. A Domme is NOT going to walk up to you on the street, club you over the head, and drag you off to her lair. You're going to have to make the effort to open up and put yourself out there. You have to MAKE this happen.

MochaMistress -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/7/2006 6:57:01 AM)
If you are speaking of meeting a Domme online. You could start out by sending a polite introduction email stating a little about yourself, your interests and a photo.

TeeGO -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/7/2006 7:05:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood A Domme is NOT going to walk up to you on the street, club you over the head, and drag you off to her lair. Now that is a fantasy...wow!! I can see it now, walking around in a daze today thinking about this only to get hit by a car and waking up in a hospital instead of a Domme's lair. To the OP. I can relate. I'm somewhat like that myself, but more so only in meeting new people. (Only took me three months to actually write a profile here and put up pic.) There is NO other answer other than pulling the ability out of yourself and taking some risks. Nothing is accomplished by sitting back and doing nothing. Remember the aging Jack Palance, in a commercial after his reclaimed fame in the Billy Crystal movies, "Confidence is very sexy, don't you think?" I know some think confidence makes the Dom. But it's also true for the sub. It's the kink and the way one is wired that makes one a Dom or a sub not confidence. Confidence make one successful while lack of the same brings failure. And that's the bottom line. Or bottom's line. Edited to add: I'm underneath the MochaMistress. Oh yea! Oh yea![sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif]

GoddessAlexia -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/7/2006 7:36:26 AM)
You need to take a first step, no one will do that for you, remeber you have only one life.

thetammyjo -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a (4/7/2006 7:41:37 AM)
Sadly you have to work on being less shy. You say you are an athlete -- solo or team? If its team, then you know how to interact with probably male athletes. Perhaps you should try particpating in some co-ed events; maybe that would help you feel more comfortable around women. The other way to work on it is to force yourself to go to things like munches and workshops, lectures and conventions. I'm sure some of these are within a few hours of you but you'll need to find them. You go and you are totally quiet. Big deal. Each time you make yourself go you will learn something and hopefully get more comfortable. Clearly if you are an athlete you can discipline yourself physically and mentally. Consider learning to be less shy another thing to discipline yourself and work on. It will not be easy but you'll grow so much as you try to work on it.

LadyMorgynn -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a (4/7/2006 9:00:58 AM)
Here is a shining example of a wonderful profile that I should think almost any Domme would want to respond to: slavesissymaid I don't want a sissy, nor do I want to have my slave chained, but this was such a lovely written profile that I immediately felt a great affection for him. It is fluent, respectful, gratifyingly submissive without groveling, he states his wants very clearly as well as his wish to adore as well as obey.

fergus -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a (4/7/2006 9:06:30 AM)
lol, us extroverted sub types have trouble meeting Dominant women also ;) Don't fret ... just keep trying, and have patience :) fergus

Lashra -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/7/2006 2:05:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood A Domme is NOT going to walk up to you on the street, club you over the head, and drag you off to her lair. You're going to have to make the effort to open up and put yourself out there. You have to MAKE this happen. I'd club fergus and drag him back to my hidden volcano lair [;)] ~Lashra

fergus -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/7/2006 2:25:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lashra quote: ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood A Domme is NOT going to walk up to you on the street, club you over the head, and drag you off to her lair. You're going to have to make the effort to open up and put yourself out there. You have to MAKE this happen. I'd club fergus and drag him back to my hidden volcano lair [;)] ~Lashra Promises, Promises ;) fergus

ShiftedJewel -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/7/2006 2:37:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lashra quote: ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood A Domme is NOT going to walk up to you on the street, club you over the head, and drag you off to her lair. You're going to have to make the effort to open up and put yourself out there. You have to MAKE this happen. I'd club fergus and drag him back to my hidden volcano lair [;)] ~Lashra *Who wouldn't??? lol*

MochaMistress -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/7/2006 8:23:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TeeGO Edited to add: I'm underneath the MochaMistress. Oh yea! Oh yea![sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif] Perfect place to be.[sm=whip.gif]

fergus -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/8/2006 9:13:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel quote: ORIGINAL: Lashra quote: ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood A Domme is NOT going to walk up to you on the street, club you over the head, and drag you off to her lair. You're going to have to make the effort to open up and put yourself out there. You have to MAKE this happen. I'd club fergus and drag him back to my hidden volcano lair [;)] ~Lashra *Who wouldn't??? lol* And yet, here I sit 'unclubed' sigh Some days I feel like the straight man in a dark satircal comedy. fergus

ShiftedJewel -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/8/2006 9:19:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fergus quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel quote: ORIGINAL: Lashra quote: ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood A Domme is NOT going to walk up to you on the street, club you over the head, and drag you off to her lair. You're going to have to make the effort to open up and put yourself out there. You have to MAKE this happen. I'd club fergus and drag him back to my hidden volcano lair [;)] ~Lashra *Who wouldn't??? lol* And yet, here I sit 'unclubed' sigh Some days I feel like the straight man in a dark satircal comedy. fergus *Trust me... I've been looking for a club that wouldn't damage that beautiful mind...*

fergus -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/8/2006 9:31:31 AM)
*"Trust me... I've been looking for a club that wouldn't damage that beautiful mind...* " Thanks! ;) Though you have yet to see the darker recesses ;) fergus

ShiftedJewel -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/8/2006 9:34:37 AM)
quote: Thanks! ;) Though you have yet to see the darker recesses ;) *Isn't that part of what makes it so beautiful?*

fergus -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/8/2006 9:41:41 AM)
*"Isn't that part of what makes it so beautiful?* " I reckon others would be a better judge than myself, so I will happily take your word for it ;) fergus (hope we haven't hi-jacked the thread TOO badly!)

ShiftedJewel -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/8/2006 9:44:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fergus *"Isn't that part of what makes it so beautiful?* " I reckon others would be a better judge than myself, so I will happily take your word for it ;) fergus (hope we haven't hi-jacked the thread TOO badly!) *The thread?? Oh, yeah, the thread!! Sorry, my mind had wander elsewhere... now, you wanna talk darker recesses? lmao*

mons -> RE: Shy Quiet sub/slave has difficulty meeting Dominant Women and even more dificulty maintaining a conv (4/8/2006 5:37:58 PM)
Mieko5 I am a little different I enjoy shy men! I am shy myself and this helps me from being shy! Like many of the ladies here said you need to make a profile if you do not have one! If you have found someone you wish to meet or talk with write a note telling her why you choose her many ladies here and myself I like the ideal of a man writing to me and saying very nice thing but nothing to overboard but make it truthful. Then if this dommes wants you she will guide you shy as you are you maybe worth guiding. I think someone metion a dungeon I think that is too much for someone who is this shy and new! One domme to take you on. Then go from there your shy someone will help you remember profile, then nice letter to the domme who catches your eye. Good luck Mieko5 best wishes mons/jane

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