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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/7/2006 8:02:40 PM

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My very first play friend (when we were both about 10 or 11 years old) started it all off when she said: "Let's play a game. From now on, you belong to me."

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/7/2006 8:13:28 PM

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I gradually grew into it as I finished sexually maturing in my early and mid twenties. Unfortunately by then I was already married to a completely unsexual (and non kinky obviously) woman. I thought I knew what I want, but I definitely didn't.

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/7/2006 8:48:01 PM

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/7/2006 8:52:47 PM

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/7/2006 8:56:31 PM

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I was completely infatuated at the age of 14 with my best friends brother Dan who was almost 17. When I slept over her house she would go to sleep first and I would sneak into her brother's room, where we would "joke" with each other about me giving my soul to him. That grew into a game where we madeup names for one another and spoke in those characters online. He was in college at this point. I would get SO excited when he would come online and tell me about rituals he had planned to finally "take me."

Befor he had gone to college it was all just a joke(I thought) but when he came back I realized he was being serious. I snuck into his room one night and he called me by my other name. He tied me up, and blindfolded me, told me I could only get out if I found the key. He watched me as I awkwardly went around the room hog tied feeling for the key on the floor(lol!). I found it quickly. He sounded proud, untied me, and hugged me. I knew I had found something special then.

That was when I knew I would have a very interesting sex life

But I don't define myself as a sub. In this lifestyle I am newly a switch, but in life I am also many other things. Though the lifestyle is a big portion of it.

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/8/2006 3:05:01 AM

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when i was 9 and my sister suggested we play "slave auctions" and after.....spanked me!

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/8/2006 7:27:06 AM

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I was really young when I started displaying dominant tendencies - like 4 or 5 years old. I have vivid memories of tying up my dolls, of Barbie carrying around a makeshift string whip, and of an undying fascination with rope of any variety. I never really connected this to D/s (since I'd never even HEARD about that sort of thing until I discovered the internet) until I was around 17 years old.

Before you ask the obvious question - no, I was never sexually abused in any way. I was never exposed to innapropriate sexual activity or information of any sort while I was growing up. As far as I can tell, this is just the way I was born.

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/8/2006 7:51:19 AM

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I was really young when I started displaying dominant tendencies - like 4 or 5 years old. I have vivid memories of tying up my dolls, of Barbie carrying around a makeshift string whip, and of an undying fascination with rope of any variety. I never really connected this to D/s (since I'd never even HEARD about that sort of thing until I discovered the internet) until I was around 17 years old.

Before you ask the obvious question - no, I was never sexually abused in any way. I was never exposed to innapropriate sexual activity or information of any sort while I was growing up. As far as I can tell, this is just the way I was born.

Lady Wolfdreams

LOL, I tortured my Barbie doll, dreaming that all those awful things would be done to me!

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/8/2006 10:03:39 AM

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When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You?

Always, Ant

It became a defining moment the first time I went to a play party. Aside from my own imagination and a few bondage games I played with my husband, I didn't think the fantasies I harbored could ever be made flesh. And then I saw Knight play alandra and was mesmorised. It was real, that level of intensity, the energy that flowed between them, even the screams *ss* My eyes and ears were suddenly very open. And darn, He looks good in leather (giggle)

(now trying to describe that to Rob who was out of town working was another adventure all together*g*

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/8/2006 10:27:58 AM

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this girl was born into a household that was run by her Dom Step-Father and her slave mother. this girl's grandmother and Father were in the life also.
she has a Dom Brother, and Sister and a sub sister. this isnt so much a lifestyle choice as the way she was raised. she did move away from it in her early 20's but, vanilla = unflavored to her and this girl LIKES flavor.
this girl was trained and raised to be a pleasure slave.

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/8/2006 10:14:19 PM

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For me it happened very early in school.. it all started with female domination over males or female superiority over males.. i loved sports and in my early days i must have preconceived thoughts that women to be weaker then guys.. we used to have lots of girls vs guys sports matches like in any other school and there used to be a few very strong girls in our class..they were very fierce matches and at certain age we guys were losing more of them ..i could not take these defeats and felt real bad after losing to the weaker sex..the girls used to tease and humilate us guys after those matches and i can still remember after one of such defeats i wept and could not take it.. but very surprisingly along with my humiliation i had a great sexual high .. i must have been very confused at that age that why that was happening to me..one of the girls became my girl friend later.. as she was stronger then me in our one to one encounters she generally had the upper hand and slowly and surely i started liking it because it always had a very nice sexual effect on me and this was the way i think i graduated into female domintion and bdsm later.. but i still think none of these episodes make us dom or sub but rather we mut be having some latent traits which come in open during an episode in our lives..i have never read in any site on the net if someone else too had sports as a defining moment of bdsm though there must be lots who like these gender fights..

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/9/2006 1:13:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyWolfdreams

Before you ask the obvious question - no, I was never sexually abused in any way. I was never exposed to innapropriate sexual activity or information of any sort while I was growing up. As far as I can tell, this is just the way I was born.

Lady Wolfdreams

Ditto. I'm convinced that there's a genetic factor involved, at least for some of us.

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/9/2006 5:40:52 AM

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i have always been different from my family in thoughts an actions. i never knew why until i was about fifteen or sixteen. This is when i learned the word submissive. i began exploring around until i found a man who was a professional Dominant and has a group called Dark Carnival, through talks with him. i learned why i had felt the way i did. And, truly it did make sense. Once i knew who i was i began doing anything to further my knowledge. i had a falling out with my Domme and that is when i met the Lady who gave me my first experience about a month and a half after i met Her. Now She is my Protector. so i have to say my defining point was the night i had my frist experience through my Protector at the party, thats when everything became much clearer to me, and i knew who i was, where i was meant to be as well as where i wished to be. Now i am the happiest kitten alive.

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/9/2006 6:05:25 AM

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2 defining moments.
1) The day the Lady across the street from me rolled the window down on her car and gave me a tongue lashing for something I didnt do. The look in her eyes, the passion, pierced my body and soul like a sharpened steak knife.. The more she chewed me out and those eyebrows furrowed, the harder and harder my d--k got. I was 19 years old . She was in her Mid 30s. All i wanted to do was worship Her
2) The day at a pool party given by my first Domme, asking to use the restroom , she directed me to her private bathroom and as i walked thru her bedroom to get there, her closet was open and i saw numerous clothing items only a Domme could appreciate. She came in behind me and noticed my curiousity. She picked up on it and gave me a tour of a lifetime of her inventory of toys, paddles, clothings, strapons, whips, etc etc. Within the week, i was on my knees kissing her ass and feet. I was in my early 20s burdening the last name of a wellknown Memphis crime family and she was a well respected State Senator in Tennessee. A powerful Woman of epic proportions. I never felt completeness the way She gave me as i served Her. She passed away of cancer last year.

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RE: When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You? - 4/9/2006 6:17:41 AM

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2 defining moments.
1) The day the Lady across the street from me rolled the window down on her car and gave me a tongue lashing for something I didnt do. The look in her eyes, the passion, pierced my body and soul like a sharpened steak knife.. The more she chewed me out and those eyebrows furrowed, the harder and harder my d--k got. I was 19 years old . She was in her Mid 30s. All i wanted to do was worship Her
2) The day at a pool party given by my first Domme, asking to use the restroom , she directed me to her private bathroom and as i walked thru her bedroom to get there, her closet was open and i saw numerous clothing items only a Domme could appreciate. She came in behind me and noticed my curiousity. She picked up on it and gave me a tour of a lifetime of her inventory of toys, paddles, clothings, strapons, whips, etc etc. Within the week, i was on my knees kissing her ass and feet. I was in my early 20s burdening the last name of a wellknown Memphis crime family and she was a well respected State Senator in Tennessee. A powerful Woman of epic proportions. I never felt completeness the way She gave me as i served Her. She passed away of cancer last year.

i am so sorry to hear She passed away. She sounds like a strong and bright woman. But, remember She will always be in your heart, and through you, through you showing your training She will live on.

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