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how do you's domm women like a man to write to you ? no... - 5/13/2010 10:44:46 AM

slavemicky

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I joined this site 2months ago and still have no luck with finding a domm women.

A lot of them say I'm to young and the others don't reply.

Am I going about it the wrong way, or too desperate ?

Please tell me what to put in my messages. or is my profile that bad ? Because I am thinking of leaving

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 10:46:44 AM

slavemicky

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and if your a domm women, what would you like a guy to write to you in his first message ?

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 10:49:22 AM

LadyHibiscus

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What about a woman saying NO to you makes her less than "real"? Have you tried reading a profile, and only writing IF the person is local to you AND interested in someone like you? Then you could perhaps approach her like a human being, introduce yourself politely, and offer some non kinky information about yourself.

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 10:51:40 AM

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i all ways read there profile. and all ways polite. i never tell them what my kinks are thou.

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 10:56:34 AM

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Just because I turn people down doesn't make Me not real. Age can be a very real reason specifically for doing so.

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 11:08:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemicky

and if your a domm women, what would you like a guy to write to you in his first message ?

I would like him to be intelligent, articulate, well educated and able to spell and punctuate his sentences appropriately. If you fail utterly at that and write in teenage text-speak with many misspellings and no capitalization, you'll be deleted and blocked right off the bat by ladies whose interest is in well spoken gentlemen. I would like him to be sincerely interested in what I have to say in my profile and able to start off an intelligent and interesting discussion of what is in there, after having read it in detail. I would like him not to write all about himself and his fetishes, but to consider what might be a polite and pleasing introduction for me to read, based on what he's seen of me.

Also, your post title suggests you are thinking of us as things or objects that you can get, rather than as human beings who have our own lives, wants, needs, desires, preferences, etc. Bad move. We're people first, doms second. Approach it from that end and you'll get more takers.

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 11:10:23 AM

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I went and read your profile, and it's actually not bad. You seem like a decent young man, and you have a job and a life, which are both pluses. I have never gotten into the UK scene, but I am sure it exists. Look for it, get out, meet other people of all ages and orientations.

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 11:12:05 AM

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This is really helping me guys thanks.

Keep them coming in.

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 11:16:50 AM

DomMeinCT

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Copy and paste your profile text into Word or some other program with spellcheck.

You've also got your own username misspelled at the end of your profile.

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 11:25:47 AM

slavemicky

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English is alot different to usa ,...

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 11:31:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemicky

English is alot different to usa ,...

Not so much...in this case, DommeinCT is correct - the spelling in your profile is not good (yes, I'm British).

And misspelling your own name isn't really too hot either.

I'd also suggest swapping your paragraphs around. Your first paragraph is all about your sexual kinks/wants/needs and then the rest is about 'you'. If you concentrate on the 'you' bit and move the 'kink' bit somewhat further down your profile, that may help.

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RE: how do you's domm women like a man to write to you ... - 5/13/2010 11:34:11 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemicky

I joined this site 2months ago and still have no luck with finding a domm women.

A lot of them say I'm to young and the others don't reply.

Am I going about it the wrong way, or too desperate ?

Please tell me what to put in my messages. or is my profile that bad ? Because I am thinking of leaving

You sound way too whiney and desperate to me ..
Welcome to CM !!

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RE: how do you's domm women like a man to write to you ... - 5/13/2010 11:38:37 AM

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It's probably because of your affiliation with Arsenal. If you just post a pic of yourself in Chelsea Blue you'll have all the attention you can handle. I guarantee it. (This guarantee is meaningless.)

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RE: Are there any real women on here. - 5/13/2010 11:38:47 AM

DomMeinCT

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I don't think US/UK spellings are different for the various typos in your profile that I was suggesting you fix.

But as it stands, you've got for example "spear time" when you mean "spare time".

And your username is listed as "Slavemicky", but you sign it at the end of the profle as "Salvemicky".

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RE: how do you's domm women like a man to write to you ... - 5/13/2010 11:44:56 AM

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salvemicky (yup you got typos) lose the kink shit in your profile that can come out in its own good time..read the ask a mistress FAQ in the ask a mistress forum (excellent placement, huh?) what can you do besides drink beer and hang with mates?

Cuz you know what, girls aint much for that.

What do you have to offer a prospective partner besides your tongue and a little 4 ouncer to stick in where they drop 10 pound babies out of? 'It don't impress me much'.

worry about the money shit later too, handle it on a case by case basis, it is like lesbians (who to a lez are man profiles) who say NO MEN NO MEN NO MEN.

Puts alotta people off.

Then go say hi in the ask a mistress forum, be pleasant ask for tweaks to your profile, (after tweaking yourself according to the FAQ) and maybe make some friends, hey that black lesbian dominatrix with the ass to die for may not be a fit you, but may give you some good and friendly advice, know whadda mean, Vern?

Welcome.

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RE: how do you's domm women like a man to write to you ... - 5/13/2010 11:56:38 AM

slavemicky

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Right i have updated my profile. How do i make myself sound not desperate??

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RE: how do you's domm women like a man to write to you ... - 5/13/2010 12:02:00 PM

mnottertail

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hey, shut the fuck up, seriously kid...........you sound desparate now. go read the fuckin manual as I told you.........

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm

think about it, incorporate it and leave go of this thread, go meet folks, and bide your time.........listening to others is an important fuckin skill (tape that to your eyelids)

you will do fine, take a fuckin pill.

Ron(ne) honorary dominatrix

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RE: how do you's domm women like a man to write to you ... - 5/13/2010 12:04:58 PM

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I could not agree with The Goddess Ron(ne) more!

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RE: how do you's domm women like a man to write to you ... - 5/13/2010 12:27:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

I could not agree with The Goddess Ron(ne) more!

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And the delivery!!

~fans self~

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RE: how do you's domm women like a man to write to you ... - 5/13/2010 12:33:01 PM

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FIRST off, the question you ask as the title of this string is:

how do you's domm women like a man to write to you ? not having much luck

It should be:

How do you domme women like a man to write to you?

Note that I took the the part about "[I'm] not having much luck" off since that sure is desperate all by itself.

2nd: Well, guess what? If you seriously think there's a one-size-fits-all answer to that question, you are sadly mistaken.

If there is such an answer, you should go ask your question in the "ask a slave" forum, y'think?

3rd: Truthfully, you're up against great odds. Anecdotely, about ten-to-one odds of finding a LTR. So, if you want to find a Domme (NOT "Domm woman") interested in you, you must, Must, MUST be well-spoken and be interesting yourself. Otherwise, "they" can and will select from the "ones" ahead of you in the race!!!!

4th: Two months is but a moment in your search for happiness! Whining that you haven't found one yet is desperate. And, by the way, what have YOU done to find one?

5th: Get thee to a munch!

6th: Maybe, just maybe, when they write back "to[o] young," they mean "too immature." Get some experience! Catch 22, ain't it? See #5 AND read non-fiction. What have you read? But, more importantly, get your LIFE to be more mature. <I did not read your profile.>

7th What everyone above me has said.

Regards, Mistress Lance <DAMN-it-all-to-hell! The anteater beat me to that! Seriously, same rules for gay, male subs looking for a male Master / Daddy / Top.>

< Message edited by LanceHughes -- 5/13/2010 12:45:09 PM >

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