tigreetsa
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Joined: 4/30/2010
From: SW London
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Okay, I'll bite.
PHOTO.
Please don't take offense but if you were to become a regular poster here you would might end up being given the nickname of Humpty Dumpty on account of your photo.
This has got nothing to do with your looks, it's just that the photo is unfortunately taken in unfortunate surroundings and the lighting doesn't help. How about trying a photograph taken in daylight or a different setting? The facial expression is fine, clothing, everything is cool, but it's not the best photo for a primary picture.
PROFILE
You're a male submissive looking for a dominant female. Okay. No issue with that. But there's literally hundreds of thousands of submissive males seeking dominant women, and many of them are so so so focussed on being submissive and pleasing the dominant lady. This is the main topic of their profile. It makes you look self-absorbed and focussed on submission as the core element of your relationship. It suggests that if such a woman writes you a message, you're inclined to try to look for a way to develop that part of the relationship with her.
The thing is whenever you write anything you have to consider your audience. Now if you check out the boards and threads on profiles and problems with profiles you will find that these topics are very rarely started or contributed by dominant women complaining about submissive males. When it comes to messages yes, start a thread on the problems submissive males present in correpondence and the dominant ladies will post to it in droves. Therefore you can safely assume that there's not going to be hordes of dominant ladies browsing your profile.
This means that you will have to make first contact, or find some way of making yourself known, either through posting here or getting out into the community to meet people and network. If you do this your profile becomes a useful tool for referring interesting ladies back to, and also it can be a useful point of reference for her to refer back to when you message her. The smart guys here have a detailed profile about them and devote their correspondence to making contact and finding out more about her and what she thinks and wants.
People tend to respond when you show a genuine interest in them and you get them to talk or write about themselves. Having a filled out profile is useful for her to refer back to - as she will if you send her a half-decent message which shows that you've read her profile and are showing genuine interest. It puts you way ahead of the horndogs, chancers, jivers, idiots and nutters, not to mention the One Kink Wonders.
So she comes to the profile and what does she see? She sees a profile where the main subject is about you wanting to learn how to submit to her and please her. That requires her teaching you and to do that she needs to want to get to know you and form some sort of relationship with you. That's Step 3 in a 3 Step process. You need really to be concentrating on Step 1.
Step 1 is about you - who are you? What makes you different from everyone else on this site? What do you bring to the relationship? What can you offer her - no, not money, but what makes people want to be with you? What do people appreciate about you? What interests do you have? Do you have any special skills or talents that you can share with her for her benefit? Do you cook? Do housework? Gardening? Computers?
You see you got Male Submissive in the top right hand corner, so she figures that you are interested in submitting to her so you leave that side of things up to her (she'll ask you if she is really that interested and when that time comes you will be able to discuss it then). Therefore I'd focus more on you putting you - the individual - into the profile.
And hopefully in a way which doesn't require all the King's horses and all the King's men to put you together again.
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'There are many here among us who feel that life is but a joke
But you and I we've been through that
And that is not our fate
So let us not talk falsely now, the hour is getting late.'
All Along The Watchtower (Bob Dylan)
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