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lally2 -> RE: Which do you find more painful? (5/17/2010 5:47:26 AM)
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in childbirth, and ive only done it once, i had to focus away from the pain by concentrating on one small dot on the wall, not take my eyes off that dot or i would have probably lost the plot and i just rode the process, and allowed my body to do what it had to do. it was agony but so long as i didnt focus on the agony i held it together.
a severe hiding usually results in me focusing on the pain because thats usually what im supposed to be doing. i deal with each strike and move on to the next, my focus is on dealing with the pain and allowing my body to respond to it freely.
so, birth was a contained pain, focused away from it and into the birth of my baby, time, space, the world in general faded out, a beating is focused on the pain and is therefore more acute and of the moment.
the big difference is that you cant stop the birth process, you cant shout 'red' - but with a beating, you can, or youre D can tell if youre really struggling and ease up, or stop. if anything it was the - in it for the absolute duration, no matter how bad it got, even if my baby tore me open from top to bottom (and actually he did), i had no choice, he had to come out. in there was exhaustion, helplesness and at one point his heart beat stopped - it was the hardest, toughest thing i have ever gone through.
pain is something you forget pretty quickly - you can remember how bad it was, but the actual physical sensation of pain is quickly forgotten. i remember my worst beatings with a sort of detachment but the birth of my son is a memory of annihiliating desparation frankly. but then i was told afterwards that i should have had a c-section and i was close to being wisked off to theatre.
but then some mothers pop em out like peas and barely break out in a sweat - so everyone is different
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