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RE: living again? - 5/18/2010 1:42:40 AM

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Oh Lord, i hope so.

My Sir is dying, and i am caring for him. and i hate to think that its all over at 52.

.... kiwi, xxx

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RE: living again? - 5/18/2010 1:44:26 AM

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OP, life goes on anyway and as greedy says, its up to you, just take it a day at a time. xx

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RE: living again? - 5/18/2010 11:35:47 AM

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i am 40 yr old female...

Yes, there is life after 40.

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mother of two..

Yes, there is life after children.

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widow of Master..

Yes, there is life after the funeral.

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can i live again?

A resurrection requires your death, not your Master's. From your short description it appears to me that you are quite alive. You are an experienced submissive that had the pleasure of knowing a Master. You are a mother that has a family and your are young enough to start a romance. I just don't see all the death and despair side. I am sorry for your loss but, hike your skirt, fix your attitude and carry on. You got quite a few years left in you. What you make of them is your choice.

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RE: living again? - 5/18/2010 1:22:28 PM

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If it helps...

My mum is in her 40s, always dresses to kill, consistently dates younger attractive men, and has more of a social life than I do. On her birthday we had a nice brunch, then went to her favorite tattoo shop to have a kiss permanently inked on her very un-saggy ass.

I rebel by dressing conservatively and listening to softer music. I can't keep up.

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RE: living again? - 5/18/2010 1:23:02 PM

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WHat's she doing this saturday?

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RE: living again? - 5/18/2010 1:32:03 PM

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I believe she's hosting the 'cougar' convention

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RE: living again? - 5/18/2010 1:50:18 PM

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FUCK...... I am older than she is............. sighssssssssss

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RE: living again? - 5/18/2010 2:14:48 PM

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We make a decision when we choose to love and/or serve someone, we also make a decision when we have children. That decision is we put the needs of those people before our own needs.

As lost as you may feel right now...it is up to you to find the direction and strength to live, if you can't do it for yourself, then do it for your children.

Loss is something we all experience at some point and I'm sorry but I find you're question "will I live again?" to be quite selfish. You may be grief striken, in pain and lost. You are also a grown woman with two children dependent on you.

Take time to get what ever help or therapy you need to help with the grieving process and realize that it will take time before you feel joy or happiness but that time will come.

For now focus on the happiness of your children and eventually you will find your own.

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RE: living again? - 5/18/2010 3:41:16 PM

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Losing a loved spouse is horriffic and if that person is your Master it makes it doubley bad. You have my deepest sympathies. When you are ready, which may be 6 months or 6 years you'll find that thoughts of a new mate/Dom will start to intrude on your thoughts. That's how you'll know that it's time to move on and moving on is not in any way an indication that you loved your husband any less so screw any guilt that pops up.

You have yourself and your children to live for and although I understand how devestated you are, that seems like a lot to live for if you ask me.

Have you thought about theraphy? I found that it's been working wonders for me.

Take care and be well....

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RE: living again? - 5/18/2010 6:47:08 PM

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I believe she's hosting the 'cougar' convention

/Falsifies driver's license/

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RE: living again? - 5/20/2010 10:09:28 AM

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Of course you can! But at this point, I think you'll need a lot of help? Do you have someone (family, friend, counselor) to lean on?

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RE: living again? - 5/20/2010 11:22:12 AM

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I am sorry for your loss. I have, fairly recently walked in your shoes. I lost my husband of many years in August of 2008 and Yes, you can pick up and go on. For me I had to throw myself into figuring out where to go from there, but I'm standing here today because I had kids although grown, grandkids, and other responsibilities. The question is, how are You going to deal with it? Everyone deals with things differently. I took a great deal of comfort in one of my favorite things in life, something he and I did together, which was ride motorcycles. Even today, all this time later, I still start out each ride with one simple request to him as I pull out onto the streets... "Keep me safe".

I have picked up my life and moved forward. It took a lot of effort, but I've done it. I have met some wonderful people along the way, many of them right here. I have, and still do, grieve for the loss on occassion. But, its my way and I know my way certainly isn't the only way. Give yourself time, grieve at your pace, don't let anyone rush you. It seems when the emotions are fresh and raw that you simply can't go on, but Yes, You Can. Best of luck to you.

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