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RE: i goofed up - 5/20/2010 4:22:42 AM

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How far away are you from a weight watchers meeting? Because they have those even in my small town.
And a gym with a personal trainer who can customize an exercise routine for you considering your health issues, which we all have even if it's just an ankle that tends to sprain easily.
And didn't the doctor offer any help quitting smoking? Because for about 20% of smokers it's easier to quit heroin than nicotine.

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RE: i goofed up - 5/20/2010 5:01:20 AM

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for what its worth i think giving up the food in conjunction with the fags is a good idea. it might seem like alot to take on in one go, but giving up cigs can really wack the weight on because the tendency is to hit the fridge as a replacement to the ciggies.

someone i know gave up the smokes after 40 years or more of smoking. she walked and walked, nothing really exhausting or fast, just stteady walking. she replaced the fags for exercise basically.

as for diet. just fill youre cupboards with low fat, low sugar stuff. another tip that really does work is to cut out all carbs with meat. if you want or need an energy meal then have pasta or potatoes but with only vegetarian food. never combine starch with meat.

exercise increases youre metabolic rate, so you digest youre food far more effectively. replace fags for exercise and id look into reducing youre wheat content too. just check the labels for fat content, anything over 3% is too high. cooking from fresh means you avoid all of the hidden fat, sugar, salt and wheat thats put into conveninience foods.

good luck

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RE: i goofed up - 5/20/2010 5:55:25 AM

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i think they do......ill look into that
im pretty well versed at the gym....this aint my first rodeo. lol
and as far as the smoking.....i read 'the easy way to quit smoking' by allen carr.made me realize my cig was no different than a shot of smak.jus sayin'

its a very logical book with some humor thrown in
doc put me on the legal stuff for weight loss....i needed the pickmeup

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RE: i goofed up - 5/20/2010 5:59:31 AM

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after 28 yrs on the fags i have put them down using logic...and allen carr's book

everytime im stressing i stop to inhale the fresh air deeeeeeply

and it shows in my workout....im stronger each time i go and i can breathe
lol
i am on a prewritten diet plan.....just have to use it. i had my first full day on it yesterday
and dropped 3 pounds

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RE: i goofed up - 5/20/2010 10:33:53 AM

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You dropped 3lbs since yesterday?

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RE: i goofed up - 5/20/2010 10:38:37 AM

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YES i would be devastated if He were not with me...but this was a desired goal be4 He came along.

It may have been YOUR desired goal but is HE happy with your body & is just encouraging your goal set for yourself or is HE as unhappy w/your body as you appear to be & is encouraging you for himself?

It's important to know if he's going to fly off the handle because you cheat once in awhile because he wants to turn you into something to suit his fancy or is he upset because you're not happy?

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RE: i goofed up - 5/20/2010 12:49:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bestheadyet

after 28 yrs on the fags i have put them down using logic...and allen carr's book

everytime im stressing i stop to inhale the fresh air deeeeeeply

and it shows in my workout....im stronger each time i go and i can breathe
lol
i am on a prewritten diet plan.....just have to use it. i had my first full day on it yesterday
and dropped 3 pounds

yeah!!!

- youll prolly drop quite quickly to start with, though i have to say this - you dont want to drop too fast - you need to really level out to about 2 to 3lbs a week, not a day - but you go girl - sounds like youre past youre goof up.

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RE: i goofed up - 5/20/2010 1:15:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: bestheadyet

perspective alone,not to mention my self esteem....and the better i feel of course is a benefit to Master.....YES i would be devastated if He were not with me...but this was a desired goal be4 He came along.

Desired as in you were making changes or desired as in "Yeah, I desire to win the lottery but never play"? I'm getting the feeling you wanted it in the same way I want to own a Corvette someday. Yeah it'd be great but I'm not doing anything about it.

You are taking good, positive steps but if eating ONE bite of cake and then getting the cake out of your house is SUCH a big deal, you both need to get grounded. You will mess up. You'll lose ten pounds, gain two during a rough week, and then lose 15.

You both have to able to forgive and forget those little mess-ups and give yourself a completely clean slate. When you treat them like major incidents, it makes this even harder than it needs to be.

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RE: i goofed up - 5/20/2010 5:25:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: bestheadyet

and as far as the smoking.....i read 'the easy way to quit smoking' by allen carr.made me realize my cig was no different than a shot of smak.jus sayin'

Years ago I helped a friend while she went on a 6 week Methadone treatment for heroin. She stayed clean after, but she couldn't stop smoking. It's worse than unfortunately.

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RE: i goofed up - 5/20/2010 5:37:05 PM

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so sorry ...hope your friend feels better

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RE: i goofed up - 5/21/2010 4:49:10 PM

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Last time I spoke to her, she was still clean. But still smoking. Which shows you graphically how difficult stopping smoking can be.
And is he aware that some women gain up to 8 pounds in the week before their period? So if he's going to judge by what size you are, you could be unfairly punished every month.

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RE: i goofed up - 5/21/2010 5:12:08 PM

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the smoking keeps crossing my mind.....but i keep remembering why im taking on these endeavors.

i wasnt satisfied as i was
i chose to do something different in order to have a shot at a good life.

Master has been a great encourager...and we have good communication ....which was fine tuned even more this week:)

this is a great exercise in obedience and my submission.

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RE: i goofed up - 5/21/2010 5:46:49 PM

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He is a 'do it' or 'don't do it' kind of guy. Never had an addiction to anything. Whereas I'm beginning my second week of no smoking...newbie at exercise classes x 1 month.........and now the diet...... i am biting off a lot right now.....plus Master and i are new. ty for your input.......

Fast reply and sincere advice here:

Work on your relationship with him before trying to use the relationship to work on yourself.

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RE: i goofed up - 5/21/2010 6:25:27 PM

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bestheadyet,

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what does a newbie do when she has screwed up and displeased her Master. ??? i am a sub with slave mentality and intent.

It depends on the mistake. Are we talking a one time thing or a repetitive act you refuse to cease? I'd think the latter would bring in different consequences. Understanding why the mistake occurred is important. Was it blatant disobedience or shoddy directives that led to an error? I think you get where I'm going.

On the one hand you have to realize you'll mess up and accept that. However, you can't use that line as a copout either. It really defeats the purpose of surrendering to a will outside of your own. Most of all, what are you getting out of it? There's a reason you're making this decision instead of one he'd greet favorably.

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RE: i goofed up - 5/21/2010 6:45:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Elisabella

quote:

He is a 'do it' or 'don't do it' kind of guy. Never had an addiction to anything. Whereas I'm beginning my second week of no smoking...newbie at exercise classes x 1 month.........and now the diet...... i am biting off a lot right now.....plus Master and i are new. ty for your input.......

Fast reply and sincere advice here:

Work on your relationship with him before trying to use the relationship to work on yourself.

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RE: i goofed up - 5/25/2010 12:07:50 AM

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just wanted you all to know how much i valued the advice and opinions i received here. on a very happy note.....for my first goal of 10 pound loss.....i got to celebrate a 'me' day with Master,which included training,lots of counsel and affection.

happy dance

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RE: i goofed up - 5/25/2010 12:08:57 AM

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congrats!

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RE: i goofed up - 5/25/2010 12:26:36 AM

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That's awesome!!! Congratulations! Just remember that the closer you get to your ideal weight the slower it will come off... this is a good thing giving your body time to adjust to the changes...don't let it discourage you!

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RE: i goofed up - 5/25/2010 5:54:46 AM

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Congrats besthead!

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