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delicatelydirty -> RE: Slave and Submissive (5/22/2010 6:42:05 PM)
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This was a journal entry I wrote on this topic (from another site)
I have been talking to people and reading a few profiles and threads lately that got me thinking about this. What is slavery, what does in mean to be a slave, what is the differences between slavery and submission. The answers to any of these are purely subjective because every one will have different experiences which lead them to different definitions. So these ramblings are purely my own thoughts on the subject
In my profile I identify as a slave because to me I strive to be just that... a slave... my desire is to give all of my self to my Master . To me a slave is someone who has given up their choices within the power exchange, certainly they may offer an opinion but it is ultimately in the Masters hands what occurs.
So then people argue "oh but you always have a choice" yes of course you always have a choice but if you choose to be a slave you choose to give up that power and in my opinion the moment you decide to take the power of choice back, is when you lose the Master/slave dynamic. It may be temporary, it may be permanent and it can be caused by so many different things. Choice is also what I believe differentiates between a submissive and a slave, a submissive still has the choice to say whether they want something or not.
What I refer to here is not just what occurs in a scene or a play session, even a submissive may exhibit slave like tendencies there. I am talking about life in general, about TPE, knowing that my Master is in charge, that he is the head of the household, he is in charge of my body, my mind , my life, his say goes.... That seemingly on a whim my best laid plans may go out the window because he has a "better idea" and as a slave it is not my place to argue, pout or sulk.
Now let me elaborate further, I think many submissive/ slaves enter into a TPE too quickly, I know I have been guilty of doing just that, and I learned my lesson. To give myself over as a slave I need to know that my Masters ideals and beliefs match my own and to learn that and to gain a good understanding of each other takes time. I need to know that he loves me and that he is the type of man that respects and cares for his property. What do I mean by this, well an example is that once I belong completely to my Master then every part of myself is his for his use as and when he chooses, however I would need to know that he has the common sense, compassion and understanding to realise that I may be a slave but I am a human being first and with that comes things like illness, fatigue, anger , sadness , all these things can have a bearing on how well if at all I am able to perform my duties as a slave at a particular point in time. A Master who truly understand and respects his property will understand this and will make decisions based on knowing what his slave is capable of at the time.
The final thought I will note here about slaves is the misconception that slaves must be mindless drones who live only to serve their Master, who have no thoughts of their own betterment because their life is lived purely to serve "him". Each to their own I guess, although to me that type of relationship just doesn't seem healthy. For me although I wish to be my Masters slave I also wish to continue to better myself, to continue to be a strong capable independent woman and no I don't believe that conflicts with being a slave because I am slave only to him, to the rest of the world I am a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a worker, a student and in all those things I strive for improvement. So in the end the more fulfilled and happy I am as a person, the more fulfilled and happy I will be as a slave and it also works in reverse, when the slave girl in me is nurtured and loved then then that happiness just radiates from within in everything I do.
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