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LadyAngelika -> RE: Running Scared. (5/24/2010 11:52:16 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Without quoting everyone......
Actually, I've found that the local munch or events where a lot of people know Me are the best resource. Very specifically because there are a good number of people around who wouldn't want anything to happen to Me. This has included everything from club managers calling Me before the club opened and someone was looking for Me. People noticing someone has been following Me around the club and wanting to make sure I was ok. Club staff coming to Me to ask if I was being made uncomfortable and/or if another club patron was harassing Me. People watching over Me, escorting Me to My car, and I can't tell you how many other examples of friends that I have known for years ensuring I was safe if they were even a tiny bit suspicious.
All I can say to those who don't believe that honest friendships can be built because people are interested in going to public events is that it's got to be disappointing to have such little faith in people who like social atmospheres.
LP, you and I have had these debates before and I usually revert to you when it comes to talking about munches as it's your thing. You also know that munches squick me and though I won't go around these boards trashing them whenever they are mentioned (what would be the point) I simply offer another perspective. Munches don't do it for me. I'm not a lifestyler and am not interested in meeting a lifestyler to be in a relationship with. Nothing against lifestylers, but it's just not who I am.
I've been pretty fortunate to have been graced with excellent instincts both in this realm as in business negotiations. The only time I ever had any kind of issues with someone, it was with someone I had known for 2 years (on and off playpartner many years back) who decided he wanted to flip the tables on me and didn't like when I said no, and being who I am, I took control of the situation and resolved it.
I personally can't see any added security that a munch could give me that I could not provide myself.
You might remember a thread I started back in January entitled Domina Intuition. I will post a part here as I find it applies:
When I was little, my mom used to use the term l'intuition féminine (in English, woman's intuition) to describe how her instincts worked. I find that this intuition also comes from my dominant and leader side.
In his book "The Gift of Fear", Gavin de Becker explodes the myth that most violent acts are random and unpredictable and shows that they usually have discernible motives and are preceded by clear warning signs. He writes about pre-incident indicators (PINs) that can determine if someone poses a danger to us. I think sometimes as Dominant women, we can put ourselves in vulnerable positions. I know I have. So are some pro-dommes as discussed in this thread on how to protect yourself against high risk clients.
- LA
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