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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/17/2006 6:24:21 PM   
MistressLorelei


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I can consider the source called lokisgodhi, and strangely feel relief that you don't understand or agree with anything I have said. 

Sure, you are entitled to waste space here at Collar Me and attempt to maliciously insult anyone who isn't you.... but all I see is a cry for help (or of stupidity, or both).  

quote:



If someone desires to allow his spouse to interact with others than he's not being cuckolded. He's in a negotiated non-conventional relationship. Cuckolding is defined as non-consensual. Words have definitions for a reason. That's why we have dictionaries.So idiots like you don't get make them up yourself. Duh!


According to Webster's... "cuckold" is defined as:

Main Entry: cuck·old
: a man whose wife is unfaithful

AND unfaithful is defined as:

: not faithful: a : not adhering to vows, allegiance, or duty : 

I see no mention of non-consensual  in this reputable source, though it won't surprise Me if you will assume that YOUR dictionary is the the only one that is accurate. 
quote:



So by your logic If I think I'm svelte and in shape then I am? If a catholic priest thinks it's okay for him to sodomize eight year olds it's acceptable to do so? Put down the crack pipe honey!


you are kidding, right?  Thinking that finding oneself beautiful is remotely similar to another who sodomizes minors...   Need I say more.... unless you can show Me a prison filled with Women who were found guilty for making false beauty claims.

quote:


And how many people do you know who legally hold slaves in real life? I love it when I get people so mad that they start saying stupid fallacies just to disagree with me. Oh the power of being a lokisgodhi!


I will reiterate the word 'consensual' here as it seems you haven't grasped the concept quite yet,  Nah, I don't need stupid fallacies to disagree with you, I have stupid quotes of yours to refer to like this one:
quote:

Oh the power of being a lokisgodhi!



quote:

I saved his life so now I'm responsible for him. Real men don't cut and run from their friends when they become inconvenient. Noblesse oblige. You wouldn't understand, not that suprises me.


The way I see it, real men don't publicly criticize their friend's choice in Female companionship.

quote:

I don't top from the bottom because there are no tops nor bottoms in a DD relationship.   If you have to pay someone it's not domestic discipline. In order to be domestic discipline there has to be a relationship. Duh! Are you really this stupid! 


First, I don't see how handing a script to your future Dominant Female (poor thing) will be consistent with a DD relationship. Sounds more like you are looking for a Free Pro Domme relationship.  And...  No, I am not stupid, but you needn't look far for he who is.  You can attempt to argue every point, even if you aren't winning.   I see no need to further fuel your desire to spar with anyone who won't join you on the ignorant side of the fence.  Perhaps an anger-management class or two would benefit you.   

quote:

  First rule of writing is to write for your audiences' ability to understand. ;-


Or is it to understand what you are saying before writing about it? 

Say what you will... but I suspect most who read it will be considering the source.... Duh! 

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/17/2006 6:44:59 PM   
lokisgodhi


Posts: 69
Status: offline 		twicehappy wrote:



in response to my post: 'I've noticed a lot ads say "female only" and/or "no cyber" in the text yet in the looking for section says the exact opposite.

"Exactly what does this answer have to do with your original statement that provoked my response?"

Which original statement?



"Hmm, you must only be speaking with poly people who are as embittered as you apparently are. I know lots of poly families and have rarely heard this complaint from the bottom/sub/slave."

Or they don't trust you to keep their secret pain.



in response to my post: I don't think you should have to compromise your principles in order keep someone

"Master and Mistress are both my owners/partners. Never would i choose one over the other. Go read my profile, i am bi sexual, in order to fill my physical and emotional desires i require two partners or a hermaphrodite with a split male/female personality also. Anyone who says you cannot have your cake and eat it too has never had dinner at our house."

So your point would be what?



in response to my post: Most of the dominant men I know have a sense of obligation towards their subs and code of conduct that they follow.

"So do most of the Dommes i know. It almost sounds here like you are blatantly stating "all men good" "all women bad" "

As for all men being good and women bad. Of course not.



in response to my post: I think you have that ass backwards.


"Which part are you referring too? There is nothing in my statement that can be ass backwards."

The part where you say: "While I’m sure there is a small minority this statement may fit, it can also be said about some people in any part of life, vanilla or BDSM."

It's a large part not a minority.



In response to my post: What does being hard working, creative and intelligent have to do with success?

"From most perspectives i would say everything. I know of no one who credits their success with being lazy, dim witted or destructive."

From mine I'd say success is most likely based on how you know or whom you're related to.



In response to my post: Well that's your decision. I'm sure as a female if tomorrow if you decided not be service oriented you'd still have little trouble finding a partner to interact with.

As a male I'm entitled to have the same option.

"What you say is true, i probably could. But they would not be the quality of partner i desire. As to you having the same option i would say male or female we are only entitled to the option we earn for ourselves."




in response to my post: Can't think for yourself?

"I think for myself very well thank you. But why repeat what has already been so eloquently stated? Also as a slave i respect my owners well enough to make my posts succinctly without overstepping my bounds. When a comment of this nature is required as an answer i defer to them."

Well you aren't a slave to me, I don't believe in slavery. If I wanted another persons opinion I would be asking them. I don't need to read a stepford slave response.

in response to my post: So if you decide that you don't want to have sex with your dominant they can overrule your decision?

"Absolutely! Most dominants and subs/slaves would agree with me on this one. I am owned by them i submit to them whatever their desires or decisions. Exactly how are you defining being a submissive."




"It would take two; the prodomme you are stating has no moral fiber and the sub male who also committed the act. So how is it that the prodomme is lacking morals yet the sub male is not just as lacking in them.

I wasn't referring to prodommes. If one oaths to another person and has not made a non-coercive agreement to gain permission to do so then one is expected not engage in sexual relations [which includes BDSM for the terminally obtuse] with anyone else. There is no two people involved. The third person who is not bound to the cuckolding may not even know that their 'partner'is involved or doesn't have permission if they do. If they do then the would indeed be without morals.

A couple of years ago I had to turn down a really hot lady who answered my ad because she was married. But if I don't respect anothers commitment I can't expect the same in return.


in response to my post: But the stay at home wife isn't asking to be given or claiming a deferential power position.

"But then her husband is not asking her to spank his naughty ass either."

Since when does engaging in BDSM abrogate one from the obligations of honor?


in response to my post: So? All that proves is that some people are desperate enough to knuckle under to blackmail.

"Who is blackmailing whom? Both are only stating their own personal requirements. So you want them to do to you what you want and also love and commit to you but you are unwilling to do something to spoil them? Kind of one sided aren't you."

A spoiled domme is like spoiled milk, unpalatable. Why would you seek to destroy someone you cherish?


in response to my post: As to if they're whores or not is dependent of the district attorney at your locality.

"According to selfsame district attorney your sexual practices from your profile would see you guilty of numerous sex crimes."

Nope. NYC is civilized.



"As to the rest of your of your answers to my post i have come to the conclusion that for some reason you are an extremely bitter human being. It is simply not worth my time to do battle with one capable of so much venom towards another human being."


"One further note here though, my Master, ScooterTrash is one of the most intelligent, trustworthy, caring Doms i have ever had the privilege of meeting or serving ."

Conjecture. No basis in fact.



"Numerous are those here on Collarme and elsewhere who seek his counsel and virtuosity both as a Dom and a friend."

And your point would be what? Many here on Collarme and elsewhere who seek my counsel and virtuosity both as a member of the BDSM community and a friend."



"It would have behooved you to befriend him thereby profiting from his sage counsel, perhaps acquiring thereby enough insight into this lifestyle to enable you to succeed in your chosen endeavor."

I've been into this lifestyle sixteen years. As I mentioned in previous posts as an elected and appointed leader in my community. I got there because people profit from my sage counsel and insight in the lifestyle.


"Instead you have alienated him in the process alienating the majority of the female Dommes who call him friend. You need not bother to reply to this post as i too, as others have already,am blocking you. The sanctimonious self serving drivel you spout in your nonsensical drama queen fashion is inconsequential to one such as i. "

Just because you're a suspected victim of Stockholm syndrome it doesn't mean I have to be. Hey Squeaky, forgive me for aliening Charlie. Helter Skelter lives!

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/17/2006 8:14:25 PM   
lokisgodhi


Posts: 69
Status: offline 		BitaTruble wrote:

"I take issue when men claim to read profiles, the vast majority most assuredly don't otherwise I wouldn't be getting 10 emails from men every day asking me to serve them."

Asking you to serve them in what position or role?


"Sweeping generalizations to follow."

Whose generalizations? Based on what criteria? On what position?


"harem/stable et al = I'm capable of making a commitment to many partners. I do not need to feed my ego with multiple partners for this is not about ego. It's about ability."

Facts in not in evidence. Even the sexist islamic men limit the number of partners a man can have on the grounds that he can't fairly address the needs of more than a certain number.


"It's all about me = It's all about me because I am your primary focus. I make all decisions. You submit to those or you find yourself a bottom who doesn't mind that you are a Top in disguise."

I'd imagine that a bottom wouldn't mind a top in disguise.


"Service oriented = do what you do because it comes from your heart, not because you're going to get your fetishes met by some fantasy which floats around in your brain seeking escape."

It only truly comes from your heart if it's freely given and the idea of the giver to present it.

"Female supremacy[ist] = There is a reason it's called Mother Earth. By nature comes my ability to nurture."

There's a reason it's called father sun. Because earth dies when he's not there.

"BBW = bbw is the confidence to see that beauty comes from within, showing up in attitude and elegant grace. I am a BBW and there is no one on Earth capable of belittling my beauty nor weakening my ego. If there are any who cannot see what is before them, their eyes remain blindfolded to reality. I pity them."

True beauty needs no slogans. Real anarchism doesn't have a logo. If you feel the need to use BBW [or BHM] you aren't one because otherwise it would never occur to you that you needed to.



"Into cuckolding. = means I'm getting sex with others of my chosing. If you're not into cucking, contact someone else because it is part of My dynamic."

That's great. How does your single person's opinion compare my aggregate of several hundred peoples opinion?


"I'm into financial servitude/I want to be spoiled, take me shopping/I'm a prodomme = I expect you to defray the costs of toys, clothing which turns YOU on, my time etc. which are going to be used on you. How easy to say you give all your power. Money is power, so you either give it up or you don't. If you want to retain the control, you don't want a Domme, you want a service Top. Learn the difference. "

I've got my own toys. I'd prefer that only they be used on me. By using your logic how much should I change to rent to the dominant?


"Men are stupid when they think they are being scammed when they are not."

When women say things like this we expect to feel piss on our legs and to be told that it's only rain.


"I can't speak for all FemDoms but what I want from a submissive man is someone who wants to be with me because he likes[loves] me, or at least most of me, enjoys my company and wants to be important in my life."

Perfectly acceptable because I doubt you'll find a man who expects or asks to be financially compensated for romantically loving a woman.


"He submits to me because he believes that he needs structure in his life, never outgrows needing corporal punishment and enjoys being with one who administers it."

If a man believes he needs structure in his life, has never outgrown needing corporal punishment I'd rather doubt that he'd enjoy being with one who administers it.

"And we engage in a positive way that makes us feel good about ourselves, good about our relationship. I can always trust him and not feel like I'm being victimized or abused for his fetishes. To him I am not just a fleshy flogging machine."


You might have actually been able to put forth a credible argument if you have gotten off your lazy ass and written your own guide instead of just changing the genders in mine. Duh dumbass!

It's damned near impossible to victimize a female in an authority position by acceding to her authority . If it were about flogging, a machine would have been made. The men who object to paying, in goods or services or cash are ALWAYS the ones for which the relationship and the motivation for the flogging is more important than the actual flogging. If it weren't that way it would be more expedient to pay. Hell, they could submit to a dominant gay man if it were just about the sensation.

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/17/2006 8:39:24 PM   
Youresomine


Posts: 47
Joined: 8/11/2005
Status: offline 		Being "naturally dom" , "passionate and fun loving" and having a very giving spirit myself, I can understand why women like myself give up the search. It can be akin to getting burnt out. You can feel like you're hitting brick walls over and over. However, after struggling with this myself in the past I finally learned a good coping mechanism. Afterall, that is how we move ahead without sacrificing our emotional abilities or becoming jaded. I think it is in a Domme's (or sub's, or anyone's for that matter) best interest to pay attention to functional boundaries. I see far too much of people jumping in too quickly, particularly online, and giving of themselves before they know enough of to whom they are giving. In a D/s relationship there is supposedly a lot of giving and trusting exchanged between both parties. Time and time again I hear of broken hearts and spirits all because someone was duped.  People need to enter with eyes wide open. That is not being jaded, just practical and wise. Why would you give of parts of yourself that make you vulnerable to someone who has not thoroughly demonstrated they deserve this? I enter into all conversations, meetings and discussions with someone, not with skepticism, but with the acknowledgement that this person does not yet care enough about me to feel protective over me...why would I give him that honor then? Would you leave your purse sitting alone in front of a stranger you just met in Grand Central station? Why would you expose your heart and soul to possible theives? I've learned that the best way to be able to really care for another is to really care for yourself and acknowledge that this is a gift to be given to only those that you have established that with it they will truly take care. Take your time. I have not yet found the one I seek, but I believe of course it can happen and will in time. I'm in no hurry.

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/17/2006 9:26:56 PM   
lokisgodhi


Posts: 69
Status: offline 		Lorelei wrote:

According to Webster's... "cuckold" is defined as:

Main Entry: cuck·old
: a man whose wife is unfaithful

AND unfaithful is defined as:

: not faithful: a : not adhering to vows, allegiance, or duty :

"I see no mention of non-consensual in this reputable source,"

Good, you've grasped [FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!] my point. If one's partner has allowed them to have relations then you're NOT unfaithful when you do it because you have permission then you're not being cuckolded.


you wrote in response to my post: So by your logic If I think I'm svelte and in shape then I am? If a catholic priest thinks it's okay for him to sodomize eight year olds it's acceptable to do so? Put down the crack pipe honey!


"you are kidding, right? Thinking that finding oneself beautiful is remotely similar to another who sodomizes minors... Need I say more.... unless you can show Me a prison filled with Women who were found guilty for making false beauty claims."

We can only hope that someday we as a society will someday enforce truth in advertising statues to individuals as well as businesses.


in response to my post: And how many people do you know who legally hold slaves in real life? I love it when I get people so mad that they start saying stupid fallacies just to disagree with me. Oh the power of being a lokisgodhi!

"I will reiterate the word 'consensual' here as it seems you haven't grasped the concept quite yet,"

Despite BDSM fantasy, slavery is defined as involuntary servitude. So what haven't I grasped? The fact that you continue confusing bogus BDSM fantasies with actual definitions?

"Nah, I don't need stupid fallacies to disagree with you, I have stupid quotes of yours to refer to like this one:"

quote: Oh the power of being a lokisgodhi!


Okay, I'll play. Tell me why it's stupid?


you wrote in response to my post: I saved his life so now I'm responsible for him. Real men don't cut and run from their friends when they become inconvenient. Noblesse oblige. You wouldn't understand, not that suprises me.


"The way I see it, real men don't publicly criticize their friend's choice in Female companionship."

Well she wasn't his choice in female companionship. He was dumping her. Secondly, I didn't mention his name so I'm criticizing anything. Thirdly, my friend wants me to publicize his plight to order to spare our brothers from such treatment. In the words of my Jewish friends, NEVER AGAIN!


you wrote in response to my post: I don't top from the bottom because there are no tops nor bottoms in a DD relationship. If you have to pay someone it's not domestic discipline. In order to be domestic discipline there has to be a relationship.


"First, I don't see how handing a script to your future Dominant Female (poor thing) will be consistent with a DD relationship."

When have I handed anyone a script? Prove that I've ever handed anyone a script.


"Sounds more like you are looking for a Free Pro Domme relationship."

Sounds like you know little about DD.


"And... No, I am not stupid,"

Facts not in evidence.



"but you needn't look far for he who is. You can attempt to argue every point, even if you aren't winning."

Damned straight. You're doing fair to middling at it.


"I see no need to further fuel your desire to spar with anyone who won't join you on the ignorant side of the fence."

Or you could just apologize to me for attacking me personally because you didn't like my post.


"Perhaps an anger-management class or two would benefit you."

Perhaps you might benefit reading Voltaire's "Treatise on Toleration."

Then you can type "I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it"? a thousand times [without using the cut/paste function] and post it to the forum.


"Or is it to understand what you are saying before writing about it?"

I was saying that far too many dommes behave badly and I was in favor of not putting up with it? I think made that clear.


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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/17/2006 10:51:33 PM   
SweetDommes


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Joined: 10/5/2004
Status: offline 		*reminds all of the "don't feed the trolls" sign*

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/17/2006 11:01:36 PM   
subtlesubie


Posts: 138
Joined: 1/5/2006
Status: offline 		Another long boring pointless idiot thread. 


It should be a source of infinite shame to all of you that the kids at the Bungie forum have greater sophistication.

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/17/2006 11:04:26 PM   
BitaTruble


Posts: 9779
Joined: 1/12/2006
From: Texas
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quote:



Asking you to serve them in what position or role?


Slave and/or submissive depending on their level of education and ability to communicate clearly and despite my rather informative profile which states, quite clearly, that I am collared and married. Also, despite my rather extensive journals which state quite clearly that I have been collared for 10 years.


quote:

Whose generalizations? Based on what criteria? On what position?


Mine, my perceptions, FemDom.


quote:

Facts in not in evidence. Even the sexist islamic men limit the number of partners a man can have on the grounds that he can't fairly address the needs of more than a certain number.


Joseph Smith



quote:

I'd imagine that a bottom wouldn't mind a top in disguise.


Exactly


quote:

It only truly comes from your heart if it's freely given and the idea of the giver to present it.


Exactly.

quote:

There's a reason it's called father sun. Because earth dies when he's not there.


Never heard the term father sun. I've heard of Father Time. Got a link?

quote:

True beauty needs no slogans. Real anarchism doesn't have a logo. If you feel the need to use BBW [or BHM] you aren't one because otherwise it would never occur to you that you needed to.


I am one so you're wrong.





quote:

That's great. How does your single person's opinion compare my aggregate of several hundred peoples opinion?


Who said it's my single person's opinion? You think you're the only one who's spoken to hundreds of submissive males and FemDoms over the last 25 years? You think you're the only one who has chaired, lectured, written, formed groups, attended functions, demo'd? Think again. Janus & APEX are very large groups. TES is not the be all end all.



quote:

I've got my own toys. I'd prefer that only they be used on me. By using your logic how much should I change to rent to the dominant?


I'm assuming you meant charge, not change and if so, fair market value. How much are you worth and who's stopping you from charging? More importantly, who the hell is 'making' you pay?


quote:

When women say things like this we expect to feel piss on our legs and to be told that it's only rain.


Specious.


quote:

Perfectly acceptable because I doubt you'll find a man who expects or asks to be financially compensated for romantically loving a woman.


Ever hear the term gigolo?

Now, this is interesting. You give them enough rope, they always hang themselves. I love it.

I wrote this...

quote:

"He submits to me because he believes that he needs structure in his life, never outgrows needing corporal punishment and enjoys being with one who administers it."


in response to what you wrote.. which was this..

quote:

She dominates me because she believes that men need structure in their life, never outgrow needing corporal punishment and enjoys being the one who administers it.


Then you write this.. which is directly contradicts your first statement.

quote:

If a man believes he needs structure in his life, has never outgrown needing corporal punishment I'd rather doubt that he'd enjoy being with one who administers it.


No need to go on, my dear.. because that is game, set and match. You have put forth two diametrically opposing views, which indicates a lack of veracity on your part. Such inability to tell the truth means that your words cannot be taken with any degree of credence.

I'm done. You're through. Good night.

Celeste

_____________________________

"Oh, so it's just like
Rock, paper, scissors."

He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."


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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/18/2006 7:16:45 AM   
lokisgodhi


Posts: 69
Status: offline 		BitaTruble wrote:


you wrote in response to my post: Facts in not in evidence. Even the sexist islamic men limit the number of partners a man can have on the grounds that he can't fairly address the needs of more than a certain number.

"Joseph Smith"

Thank you for proving my point. The fact that, Mormons were no able to fairly address the needs of multiple wives is well documented. So what's your point?


you wrote in response my post regarding financial servitude to: It only truly comes from your heart if it's freely given and the idea of the giver to present it.

"Exactly."

I'm again gratified that you're supporting my contention. The condition where a top is asking for for financial domination as a top negates the possibility that it's free given and that it's the idea of the giver to offer it. It's a form of extortion.


Exactly.


you wrote in response to my post: There's a reason it's called father sun. Because earth dies when he's not there.

"Never heard the term father sun. I've heard of Father Time. Got a link?"


It's common in non-Abrahamic religions that the earth is seen as female and the sun or sky as male.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sky_Father
http://fathersky.com/
http://www.ewebtribe.com/StarSpiderDancing/fathersun/
http://www.the7thfire.com/dream_catchers/father_sun_dream_catchers.htm
http://www.theosophy-nw.org/theosnw/science/sc-jvm2.htm

you wrote in response to my post: True beauty needs no slogans. Real anarchism doesn't have a logo. If you feel the need to use BBW [or BHM] you aren't one because otherwise it would never occur to you that you needed to.

"I am one so you're wrong."

Kind of hard to tell from your over-enlarged pixels from your photo. I so I'll neither reject or accept this supposition.


you wrote in response to my post: That's great. How does your single person's opinion compare my aggregate of several hundred peoples opinion?

"Who said it's my single person's opinion? You think you're the only one who's spoken to hundreds of submissive males and FemDoms over the last 25 years? You think you're the only one who has chaired, lectured, written, formed groups, attended functions, demo'd? Think again. Janus & APEX are very large groups. TES is not the be all end all."

So?, present your resume.


you wrote in response to my post: I've got my own toys. I'd prefer that only they be used on me. By using your logic how much should I change to rent to the dominant?

"I'm assuming you meant charge, not change and if so, fair market value."

Yep, should have been chaRge. D'oh!


"How much are you worth and who's stopping you from charging?"

If I were to charge it would hypocritical since I don't believe anyone should charge for engaging it any sexual relationship, including BDSM.


"More importantly, who the hell is 'making' you pay?""

No one.


you wrote in response to my post: Perfectly acceptable because I doubt you'll find a man who expects or asks to be financially compensated for romantically loving a woman.

"Ever hear the term gigolo?"

Yep. But a gigolo isn't romantically in love he's doing a job purely for the financial remuneration. No money = no relationship. There's nothing remotely romantic about his view towards the woman. Try reading for comprehension.


You wrote is response to my post:

"He submits to me because he believes that he needs structure in his life, never outgrows needing corporal punishment and enjoys being with one who administers it."


in response to what you wrote.. which was this..


quote:

"He submits to me because he believes that he needs structure in his life, never outgrows needing corporal punishment and enjoys being with one who administers it."


Then you write this.. which is directly contradicts your first statement.

"If a man believes he needs structure in his life, has never outgrown needing corporal punishment I'd rather doubt that he'd enjoy being with one who administers it."


Who cares if it contradicts my first statement, which it doesn't, men generally get very little out of trying to administer corporal punishment to themselves. Rather, the post merely points out your continuity errors brought on by you just changing the gender pronouns in my original post. Do try and pay attention.

"No need to go on, my dear.. because that is game, set and match. You have put forth two diametrically opposing views, which indicates a lack of veracity on your part. Such inability to tell the truth means that your words cannot be taken with any degree of credence. "

Nope. I just pointed out *YOUR* continuity error. What it indicates is your piss poor proof reading skills. I can only answer what you actually wrote, not what you *thought* you wrote.


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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/18/2006 9:01:52 AM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline 		someone stick a pin in this windbag and see how far he flys.........

I actually got a giggle at the visual....similar to the balloon shooting all around the room but this squeaking angry little troll in place of the balloon.......I am cracking myself up here

Damn its good to be feeling well again!!!

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/18/2006 10:17:15 AM   
FLsubmalecd


Posts: 143
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

This week I have been talking to two Mistresses who have  just about given up on their search for a slave/submissive..Since neither one knows the other ,I did find that they had similar  reasons why they felt disappointed that they did not have better results..
They both felt let down by the quality of subs they meet.Yes they did get stood up at times .They found  the subs to be in a sense doming from the bottom with what they wanted  and not what the superiors were interested in.  Yes they were contacted  by men outside the country wanting to move here with their help. They ended up with more responses to their profile from people who never read their interest before contacting them.than those who did  read their profiles completely. The strongest reason  for their leaving , for lack of a better word. ..is the "emptyness" they felt.  You see , form my view, they were all givers .They were naturally doms , but with hearts that cared. They were all passionate and fun loving .They simply were giving so much out that they were receiving anything  in return ..
I was just woundering how many others here have come and gone ...and maybe have come back again to find the subs/slaves that you wanted? How many also do we know have just given up and why?  Thank you


I have one thing to say about that...WRITE ME PLEASE LADIES! lol
I know I am not the same as what seems like the majority of players and "do me" subs. Frankly, they turn me off as much as it does most True Dommes. My pleasure is derived from two things....LOVE and submission to the one Lady that loves and wants me as much as I need and want Her. 

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/19/2006 12:45:33 PM   
ShivaTS


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Status: offline 		This thread has really changed from beginning to end.

I dont mean to offend, but some domme's I have met have standards they expect in a slave, which is good, but expect it from the beginning.  It took me a long time to meet my Master.  He has been molding me into what he wants in a slave for the last couple of months.  When he takes me out, he has alot of favourable comments about me, saying they wish they had one just like me.  The thing is, I already knew one of them, but was overlooked due to my "newbie" status.  Im just saying if you want someone to please you, you'll need to put in some time to get them where you want them.

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/19/2006 3:30:19 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		I'm curious as to why you picked my post to reply to, Shiva ... since I know you didn't just use the 'fast reply' like I am.

Yes, the thread has changed quite a bit.  Mostly due to one person in particular - it happens.

For the record, I know that you (general 'you' here) have to be patient and willing to train someone to the specifications wanted/needed.  We ended up with two boys with little to no r/t experience with WIIWD, so I can assure you that we did not exclude anyone based on "newbie" status.  Experience levels, for us at least, are not as important as a desire to please - honestly, having someone who hasn't been trained by anyone else is a plus for us, as it means that they will have no 'bad habits' for us to get rid of. 

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/19/2006 4:45:47 PM   
MissHarlet


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Status: offline 		LOL I love it ....... made me smile instead of sitting and shakeing my head ....

Thanks

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/19/2006 5:04:38 PM   
AcademyForSlaves


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Status: offline 		I can really relate to how those Mistresses feel and why they'd want to give up. I've met lots of Mistresses who gave up the scene too because they couldn't find a REAL slave.

That's why I like training a slave for ownership. You can't expect a man to be a natural born slave that knows how to submit and obey and behave. he's got to be trained how to be a good slave right?

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/19/2006 5:16:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

I can really relate to how those Mistresses feel and why they'd want to give up. I've met lots of Mistresses who gave up the scene too because they couldn't find a REAL slave.

That's why I like training a slave for ownership. You can't expect a man to be a natural born slave that knows how to submit and obey and behave. he's got to be trained how to be a good slave right?

Academy Mistress
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But WHERE can a man go to be trained to be a real slave?  Surely there MUST be a place where men can be shown how to be a good submissive and ultimately be suitable for a real femdom for a lifetime of being owned?**


*for a small fee


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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/19/2006 7:36:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

I can really relate to how those Mistresses feel and why they'd want to give up. I've met lots of Mistresses who gave up the scene too because they couldn't find a REAL slave.

That's why I like training a slave for ownership. You can't expect a man to be a natural born slave that knows how to submit and obey and behave. he's got to be trained how to be a good slave right?

Academy Mistress
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http://www.academyforslaves.com


Looks like your marketing plan has expanded to the CMMB.

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/19/2006 9:01:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: cloudboy
quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves
I can really relate to how those Mistresses feel and why they'd want to give up. I've met lots of Mistresses who gave up the scene too because they couldn't find a REAL slave.

That's why I like training a slave for ownership. You can't expect a man to be a natural born slave that knows how to submit and obey and behave. he's got to be trained how to be a good slave right?

Academy Mistress
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http://www.academyforslaves.com

Looks like your marketing plan has expanded to the CMMB.
It's a good plan for people who are all about play, and I guess want to pay someone to teach them that (and there is nothing wrong with that).

I have no idea why a slave would need training from anyone who isn't his owner.   I mean if you're going to be my slave, all you need to do is show up, give up your right to final decisions, and do as I say.  
Incidentally I found a site with great read for those who aspire to be slaves.  
http://www.rlslavery.com/02.php
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< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 4/19/2006 9:05:38 PM >

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/19/2006 9:19:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: cloudboy

Looks like your marketing plan has expanded to the CMMB.


I  wonder if perhaps Lokisgodi is in cahoots with the academy...  and will show up next week after learning how to be  a well-trained slave.  On second thought....Nahhhh.

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/20/2006 10:13:51 AM   
Real0ne


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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig 
Incidentally I found a site with great read for those who aspire to be slaves.  
http://www.rlslavery.com/02.php
M


*If any of the following apply to you, you are just not yet ready for a life of real slavery:      * I have "limits", like any "normal" person should and they must be respected!

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Once a contractual slave: you are complete and total property, and there's no way to change that after the contract has been finalized.     A slave no longer has any claims to natural civil rights or liberties.

If it is found that you have mistreated, abused and misused your slave so badly that they now require prolonged professional treatment (or, worse, are beyond the help of professional care) you will find yourself answering to the Criminal Justice System and the Judicial Branch of the government; and always keep in mind many places still have the death penalty.

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i read the site and its entertaining at best. 


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