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Finding a mistress - 5/24/2010 10:03:11 PM

UndeadSub

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Well i am currently trying to find a mistress at the moment. I am not that great yet seeing i'm still pretty much new to all of this but so far from ideas being through around i'm not exactly sure of my limits. I am 22 years of age.

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RE: Finding a mistress - 5/24/2010 11:25:30 PM

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If your post is an introduction it should be posted in the correct forum.

Are you asking advice to help you find a Mistress? I suggest you make use of the search feature at the top right hand corner of the page. This subject has been discussed many times.

In the mean time, here is a link to a very well written piece on the do's and don'ts of writing to a Mistress.

http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3057123

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RE: Finding a mistress - 5/24/2010 11:29:14 PM

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Well, I'd want to read a little more about you and get a feeling for your personality. What one thing would you really be interested in doing? What would someone get out of doing it with you? Are you willing to do some service and develop a relationship with someone, or do you really just want to hook up with people and scene?

That's the kind of thing we dommes look at when we look at a profile.

FTR, you're in Texas, and I'm in the midwest, so geography rules you out for me. You may encounter some of that on here, and it's nothing personal, it's just that long distance relationships can be more work than a person may want to put in.

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RE: Finding a mistress - 5/24/2010 11:34:04 PM

MsLadySue

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I checked your profile and it's pretty much blank. It would help you to write about yourself telling people about your interests, hobbies etc. I, for one, dislike having to start asking all kinds of questions to find out something about a submissive. Do you have any experience at all? What talents (not oral or sexual) do you have to offer a Mistress that would make it worth her while to consider you? It's not the list you have under likes, etc. that matters. We are interested in you as a person first.

I'm curious is that is a recent picture on your profile. Not being mean here but you look about 16 and that's going to cause a lot of Mistresses to pass it by quickly.

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RE: Finding a mistress - 5/25/2010 4:49:59 AM

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Ok, your profile says "I've filled out all the necessary information". Far from it dude. Write a few paragraphs. Write about who you are, what your doing with your life, what your interested in outside of the lifestyle, and what you want in a mistress.

Also, invest in a digital camera (only like $40-$50), get a friend to help you take some good pictures.

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RE: Finding a mistress - 5/25/2010 7:24:05 AM

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Hi undeadsub and welcome to the lifestyle. Perhaps you can find some local groups in your area and attend some of their functions? Go very carefully and don't rush into anything. Give yourself time to learn and develop your own style, likes and dislikes. Have fun!

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RE: Finding a mistress - 5/27/2010 5:30:50 PM

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I strongly suggest you check out youngsubgeoff's profile. It is a great example of good information that gives you a nice feeling of the person.

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RE: Finding a mistress - 5/28/2010 10:13:15 PM

slavekal

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There are a lot of ways. A good one, but not the only one, is to have a good profile on collarme. Answer profiles. Go to fetish events. There are many ways.

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RE: Finding a mistress - 5/30/2010 6:39:23 AM

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good luck on your search

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RE: Finding a mistress - 5/30/2010 7:26:54 AM

bighappygoth39

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As I've said in another thread, decide exactly what you want. Make sure you have plenty of detail on your profile, and when sending messages, make them honest and interesting, make sure you've read the person's profile too and maybe comment on it or ask them about something they mention in it, and the most important thing is to be very patient. It could take a long time before you find the right person, so patience is definitely needed, I found that out myself, but I can assure you, it's all worth waiting for in the end. Good luck.

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RE: Finding a mistress - 5/30/2010 7:28:02 AM

CarrieO

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Well, it looks like the OP hasn't done much to change his profile or photo (which still reminds me of a scared kid being driven to school) even though he was given some useful advice.