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How does a Dominant Woman use grooming as a method of c... - 4/9/2006 9:18:54 AM

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As a Dominant Woman, how important is it that your submissive be well-groomed? Do you enjoy setting strict rules of appearance that must be obeyed? Do you select clothing, hairstyle, cologne? Do you use grooming as a method of control?

As a personal contribution, a Dominant Woman told to keep all of my nails in perfect condition. It was up to me to go often enough for a manicure and pedicure. Nothing outrageous - just buff on the fingernails, and clear polish on the toenails. She could inspect them at any time - and if they were not up to her standards - watch out. Some nice memories of being asked to present my hands for her view in public...both hands up in a submissive posture, head a little bowed...

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RE: How does a Dominant Woman use grooming as a method ... - 4/9/2006 9:27:07 AM

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Yes, yes, yes! Taking pride in how you look, regardless of body type, gender or age, is so important! Boys who show up looking like they haven't changed hair styles since their mom was cutting it for them must go straight to the salon. My pet now goes to the person who does my hair and it is SO much better! I have a bit of a fetish for freshly cut hair, really. I always notice when someone has just had their's cut (even a trim) and just love it. As for nails and such, also very important. I put a decent amount of time and effort into my appearance, and I expect no less from the submissives that play with and represent me.
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RE: How does a Dominant Woman use grooming as a method ... - 4/9/2006 9:31:48 AM

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Very. I tell those wanting to be My slave that they can expect to have to come to me with about $400 for a wardrobe. When he arrives, I will completely (and ruthlessly) go through every piece of clothing he owns. Then we will set out on a series of shopping trips to the department stores (likely with my daughter in tow, Li'l Miss High Fashion <snort>) and he will be required to try on many kinds of clothing as we discuss his appearance and determine what style and colors suit him, according to what pleases us. We'll dress him up, dress him down, roll up sleeves or button the cuffs, add sweaters or vests or jackets, pick shoes, ties, cufflinks as necessary. At some point we'll hit the men's fragrance counter and pick something that I feel suits him (and someday, if he pleases me greatly, I may make him his own personal fragrance). Then shoes, socks, underwear. If he jogs or works out regularly, we'll pick those clothes as well.

Then to the salon for a hair style consultation and for an initial manicure; as you said, clean, buffed nails are very nice, and appropriate. He'll wear his hair as I choose, length as I choose.

Every day, My slave will wear clothes of My choice, in the way I decide he should wear it. I'm very fond of the sweater over shirt look, with the sleeves pushed up to show off strong forearms... but only certain guys can carry that off to admiration, and I'm hoping My slave, when I find him, will be one of those :)

At no time will My slave choose his own clothing, accessories or cologne. And I may decide at any particular moment that I want to see him in something else, and send him to change.... just because I can ;)

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As a Dominant Woman, how important is it that your submissive be well-groomed? Do you enjoy setting strict rules of appearance that must be obeyed? Do you select clothing, hairstyle, cologne? Do you use grooming as a method of control?

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RE: How does a Dominant Woman use grooming as a method ... - 4/9/2006 9:56:38 AM

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Absolutely! I’m not into facial hair so he best be clean shaved and smelling good. Grooming is VERY important. No shaggy hair, clean nails, nicely dressed. THE WORKS!
I get a lot of flack because I am so demanding and VERY serious when it comes to training. Its not unusual for me to choose a diet, way to dress, act, etc.

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RE: How does a Dominant Woman use grooming as a method ... - 4/9/2006 10:48:54 AM

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It focuses the mind to have to go for a mani/pedicure.

It focuses the mind to shave your genitals.

It gives the boy a confidence and enthusiasm in his day to day that I enjoy

I like a focused mind, I like routines, I like commitment, I like confidence and I am a big fan of smooth clean skin. I think that it makes an all around better submissive

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RE: How does a Dominant Woman use grooming as a method ... - 4/9/2006 2:25:51 PM

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I make my preferences known and I'll give orders from time to time such "time to get a hair cut" or "cut your nails".

Fox often thinks of my preferences when he buys new clothing.

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RE: How does a Dominant Woman use grooming as a method ... - 4/9/2006 4:01:30 PM

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I agree with all the Ladies here up to this point. What is it they say?? "You never get a second chance to make a first impression"?? So true. I think that being well groomed shows pride in who you are and respect for Who you are meeting. While it doesn't have to be an expensive wardrobe, clean clothes in good repair, good hygiene, smelling "good", trimmed nails, soft hands all make a positive impession on me. While I don't think that money to buy an expensive wardrobe or go for weekly manicures, etc. makes a good submissive, I do think that if you are making the best effort within your means is what is most important. It's that submissive spirit that I'm looking for.
I think the added "anxiety" (not the right word) of possibly being asked at any time to present yourself for inspection would keep the submissive in top condition for their Mistress.

This question was posed to the Dominant Women in the forum, but I'm wondering what the submissive males think of all this. Are you up for the "challenge"??

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RE: How does a Dominant Woman use grooming as a method ... - 4/9/2006 7:04:16 PM

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I agree with all the Ladies here up to this point. What is it they say?? "You never get a second chance to make a first impression"?? So true. I think that being well groomed shows pride in who you are and respect for Who you are meeting. While it doesn't have to be an expensive wardrobe, clean clothes in good repair, good hygiene, smelling "good", trimmed nails, soft hands all make a positive impession on me. While I don't think that money to buy an expensive wardrobe or go for weekly manicures, etc. makes a good submissive, I do think that if you are making the best effort within your means is what is most important. It's that submissive spirit that I'm looking for.
I think the added "anxiety" (not the right word) of possibly being asked at any time to present yourself for inspection would keep the submissive in top condition for their Mistress.

This question was posed to the Dominant Women in the forum, but I'm wondering what the submissive males think of all this. Are you up for the "challenge"??

This was part of what I tried to get us to talk about on the thread about how submissives dress but I note it received few responses.

I'm remembering a Jack Rinella piece just two weeks ago that looked at the differences between clothing and the sexes and the effort they put into it in the het scene.

Wouldn't anyone want to work to make a good first impression?

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RE: How does a Dominant Woman use grooming as a method ... - 4/9/2006 8:58:33 PM

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I agree with all that's been said. I choose wardrobe especially for important functions. It is his responsibility to stay properly groomed at all times. This means hair, nails and any necessary "man-scaping". Last boy learned the hard way that cutting corners and not going to the nice manscaper, that feels bad about causing him pain, for waxing was a REALLY bad idea and did not get him out of having it done. Home wax kit can be a really fun time...for the Domme.