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24/7 Ttransition - 5/27/2010 6:10:04 PM

lurch999

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i have questions about making the transition to 24/7. Ma'am and i are working on taking things to the next level, where she has a lot more control (i have to ask permission for everything). i live close by but we don't live together. i would have to ask permission to basically spend money on anything and my personal time would be more tightly controlled. i was just wondering if anyone who has made this transition has anything to share from their experiences.

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RE: 24/7 Ttransition - 5/27/2010 6:30:48 PM

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You guys are setting yourselves up for a fair bit of work, especially given you don't live together. Not only will you have to remember to ask for everything, she's going to need to be available to you a great deal of the time in order to respond to your questions. Make sure you think about the days where you'll have an accident and need to spend money and she's lost her cell phone.

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RE: 24/7 Ttransition - 5/27/2010 6:45:51 PM

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i agree with LuckyAlbatross. 24/7 works much better when you live together. In my experience, when you live together, the opportunities for D/s are many, and they come naturally and frequently.

But when you don't live together, it takes work to make it feel like it is 24/7. After all, the mere title "24/7" makes it sound like it is a round-the-clock thing. But if you don't live together, it is really not continuous. So you have to work EXTREMELY hard to give the impression that it is 24/7.

IMO, live-in situations are incredibly enjoyable. On the other hand, trying to maintain a 24/7 D/s relationship when you don't live together requires so much work that i often found myself focusing on how hard it was, rather than just enjoying it.

Constantly calling and texting to get approval for small things gets old quickly. But that's just my opinion.

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RE: 24/7 Ttransition - 5/27/2010 6:49:10 PM

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Transitioning toward a 24/7relationship does make a difference. And there are particulars to your relationship that are yours alone. When I opened myself up to a 24/7 relationship, I maintained a job outside of my Mistress's home for two out of three years. My clothes were limited to three work shirts, pants & socks. The only other clothing I was allowed to wear (primarily outdoors) was 1 pair of shorts, a pair of khaki long pants, 1 pullover shirt , 1 front-button shirt and 1 jacket.

I mention this because every other thing I owned in the world was sold and the proceedings were gifted to my Mistress. This act, more than any other, cemented my position as being hers. Perhaps a step toward "the next level" is divesting yourself of possessions until you own nothing.

Also be aware that if your Ma'am should pass away, as mine did, that you will have nothing more than a few clothes to begin reestablishing yourself in the outside world. I was able to do it, although it was not an easy transition to find somewhere to live, a vehicle to drive, etc.

This is, of course, just one thing to consider among dozens. I wish you well.

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RE: 24/7 Ttransition - 5/27/2010 10:23:36 PM

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Take it slow and ease into everything. Don't expect everything to be perfect from day one. Do alot of talking, and make sure that she is someone you would enjoy living with if suddenly the D/s part of your relationship was put on hold for a long period of time; for whatever reason.

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RE: 24/7 Ttransition - 5/28/2010 4:25:06 AM

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You need to set up rules to cover any and every contingency when she isn't reachable. And there will be such times, trust me.

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RE: 24/7 Ttransition - 5/28/2010 4:40:31 PM

lurch999

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Yeah that is true i decided, incorrectly, that i could break a rule because She didn't pick up when i called last week.

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RE: 24/7 Ttransition - 5/29/2010 8:15:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lurch999
(i have to ask permission for everything).

Realize that there is a difference between having to "ask permission for everthing" versus not being allowed to do anything without their approval.

I have blanket approval to do a lot of things, so that I don't have to bog him down with asking for them. I think he would start getting really annoyed if I asked before doing anything....

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RE: 24/7 Ttransition - 5/29/2010 11:29:20 AM

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So sit down with Her and set up rules for when you cant get ahold of Her. This one's Sir expects her to make an educated decision based on what she thinks her Sir would say, when she can't get ahold of him to ask Him herself.

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