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RE: What Is Your Definition Of A "Brat"? - 6/1/2010 7:32:40 PM

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I think that I might have had some difficulties if my former submissive had come across that way. I admit that making the jump from fantasy (that I knew wasn't realistic) to reality made me a little tentative at first, and I tried to err on the side of caution. His integrity, trust, and encouragement for me to explore and see what actually worked for me made it a very easy transition. He was playful and silly, but not in a way that threatened my control of him in the slightest. My femsub playpartner has a fantastic sense of humour, and occasionally enjoys mild physical resistance play, but I wouldn't consider her to bratty. I haven't really played with anyone in between who really was into swearing or intense non-physical resistance play, or who I would call a SAM or a brat. I do know a lot of people who identify that way, who are with people who enjoy that aspect of them.

When I agreed to be a submissive and a slave in my last two relationships, I really liked that they didn't feel threatened by my power or my silliness or my interest in tussling around. I tried to discuss where the line was, and stay well within what they considered to be respectful and acceptable behaviour. In one egalitarian kinky relationship I was involved with in the past, I threw Legos at the guy once, but we were joking around and being silly, and I didn't hurt him at all. I could understand if someone considered that behaviour to be bratty in general.

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RE: What Is Your Definition Of A "Brat"? - 6/1/2010 9:01:32 PM

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That being said, "brat" is not only indicative of immaturity, it also carries the connotation of someone who is manipulative. A brat deliberately challenges authority, disobeys, and generally acts like an ass with the goal of goading a dominant into a reaction. While there's a lot to be said for a role-playing scene that involves acting bratty, such behavior at other times is essentially subjecting the dominant to the "sub's" kink in a non-consensual fashion.

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I completely agree with Syl. As anyone who knows me in real (or cmail, or from my posts, lol) can attest; I'm feisty, sassy, and a real smartass. That said, I don't do manipulation, or acting out to get what I want from a Dom(me), and it doesn't take more than 'the Look' or a quiet 'enough' to let me know that I've gone a bit too far.

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