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Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 2:35:53 PM

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I am hoping to get some opinions/outlooks on this subject.

I have heard the term over the years and I am sure it means different things to different people. I was just wondering to each person, what the difference is between a dominant/master and a daddy dominant.

Any input is appreciated, thank you

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 3:12:41 PM

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To me a daddy / girl relationship is not that different from a dom / sub one.

For me it's not about age play, or about replacing my father, or feeding his desire to be with a child or me wanting to become a child again.

To me a daddy simply has the ability and desire to make me feel like his girl ,cherished girl that is like no other. It allows me so much freedom to be me without fear of reprisal or judgment. Although I am held accountable it is in such a manner that is not harmful to my mental or physical well being. The environment although controlled is relaxed and peaceful. A daddy will understand that some days I simply need to curl up next to him and feel his hand on my skin and he be totally content with that. While other days he will feed my masochistic desires.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 4:08:58 PM

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Thank you, I like that outlook on it.

I always thought that was what it was, at least from my viewpoint. Someone and I were talking the other day and he told me that there have been a lot of studies done, and those that prefer that dynamic actually had bad relationships with their fathers..etc...

I see it more how you do. I love feeling protected, cared for, and cherished. I like cuddling and resting my head on his lap as he plays with my hair. I like knowing he is there if I am scared, or need his strength to lift me up. I also like that we have the flip side of that where he can unleash his sadistic desires, knowing all the time that even though I hurt, I am loved.

That is how I see it anyway.

Thanks again.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 6:35:57 PM

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I'm a Daddy Dom. It's about cherishing who you play with and being very protective. I don't allow swearing or vulgarity as I'm a Victorian Daddy.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 7:29:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly

I am hoping to get some opinions/outlooks on this subject.

I have heard the term over the years and I am sure it means different things to different people. I was just wondering to each person, what the difference is between a dominant/master and a daddy dominant.

Any input is appreciated, thank you

Flutterby

With a Master, the man is in charge. With a daddy, the "little princess" really is.

Ok, I'll admit I'm being sarcastic, but really... i have seen more than a few examples of the contrast above in my time. Daddy thing isn't for me.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 7:39:55 PM

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With a Master, the man is in charge. With a daddy, the "little princess" really is.

Ok, I'll admit I'm being sarcastic, but really... i have seen more than a few examples of the contrast above in my time. Daddy thing isn't for me.

Ahhh man, I thought the difference was that Daddy's use belts while Masters use whips. I'm so disenchanted right now.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 8:03:28 PM

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sleazybutterfly,

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Someone and I were talking the other day and he told me that there have been a lot of studies done, and those that prefer that dynamic actually had bad relationships with their fathers..etc...

I don't think that's always the case. There are a lot of ways this can be done and for some it is founded on emotional needs, physical, sexual, or a combination of all three. For what it's worth my dominant partners have a lot in common with my father. I was pretty oblivious to it for a long time in all honesty. There are few exceptions to the study's findings.:)

Although the other comments were made in jest the spoiled brat or pampered princess is a reality of this as well. It is one of the reasons I haven't been able to engage that part of myself for quite some time. My little girl enjoys being indulged and she's pretty unruly as well. It wasn't until I responded to your question that the reason for her behavior became evident. The tight controls of slavery place heavy restrictions on my behavior, mindset, and everything in between. It's the one area that I can get footloose and blow off some steam.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 8:13:04 PM

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quote:

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Someone and I were talking the other day and he told me that there have been a lot of studies done, and those that prefer that dynamic actually had bad relationships with their fathers..etc...

Ask her by whom and ask to provide references.
I've never heard of such a thing.

I've had a terrible relationship with my father, and I have an intense dislike for the Daddy-Dom dynamic to such an extend that I am not interested in any man who identifies himself as a Daddy-Dom

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 8:40:07 PM

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A daddy dominant is a father figure to the submissive ...

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 9:08:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: whipmaker7
With a Master, the man is in charge. With a daddy, the "little princess" really is.

hmmmm. i was with a Daddy Dom that left handprint bruises on my butt, i don't call that being in charge. lol

Really, the Daddy/girl thing feels very secure and warm fuzzy, yet you know that He's in charge and you'll get punished if you're bad, but He'll kiss the tears away after. It can be all warm cuddlies or you can be a very "naughty nasty" girl.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 5/31/2010 10:58:35 PM

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Also remember many doms are also daddies and many daddies are NOT doms. And many doms are mommies also :) And there are uncles, brothers, and other familial type connections we form by CHOICE which represent the same bonds and expectations that biological family roles engender, just without the DNA.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 6/1/2010 6:36:00 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Ishtarr

quote:

ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly

Someone and I were talking the other day and he told me that there have been a lot of studies done, and those that prefer that dynamic actually had bad relationships with their fathers..etc...

Ask her by whom and ask to provide references.
I've never heard of such a thing.

I've had a terrible relationship with my father, and I have an intense dislike for the Daddy-Dom dynamic to such an extend that I am not interested in any man who identifies himself as a Daddy-Dom

It is unfortunate that you did have such a terrible relationship with your father but from your next statement you reveal two things:

One is that from your experience you likely hold a prejudice toward older men...very likely seeing your father in them even when it likely isn't true and one that in your mind...dose not allow these men to be themselves.

And second because a daddydom is not your father and is instead at least partially a figure of discipline mixed with care for his happy little girl, you must have been 'meeting' the wrong men.

For me and many others I've run into...a daddy and his little girl do in fact create a special bond and that can and has produced love affairs like no other.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 6/1/2010 6:44:31 AM

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I am a Daddy Dom...I swear and I drink. I force them to have all of the hair on their body completely lasered off and then I give them a slight frontal lobotomy to impede on their speaking and learning abilities. They are so cute when they can't say the alphabet.

Unfortunately DCFS has removed them all from my care. It is now illegal for me to date a woman under 75 years old.

I am a Victorian Daddy Dom as well.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 6/1/2010 6:45:57 AM

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It's cute how many little girls still have their baby fat.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 6/1/2010 6:50:55 AM

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Here's an Article that might be actually helpful to you.
http://vanilla-not.com/basics/daddydom.html

Here's a website on the topic itself.. (i've not fully checked this out).
http://witchyhour.net/

Hope this helps you some.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 6/1/2010 6:55:29 AM

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i think "Daddy" is one of those terms can vary depending upon the individual interpretation as well.

When owned, i tend to have some little girl aspects to me - i can be silly, and girly. And having an Owner who has that playfully strict protective streak in him is quite fun for me.

But that's where it ends - any relation to true ageplay does nothing for me, and i couldn't serve an Owner who needed that from me.

i have talked with many self-identified "Daddy" Doms during my current unowned transition time, and there are many who do engage in age play - everything from dressing their sub up in girly outfits and diapers to wanting her to color, drink from a bottle, play with dolls, and so on - and often those men are also some of the most sadistic i've ever met. Not sure what's going on there, but it doesn't work for me.

Bottom line if i had to give a generality, i would say that it is D/s with a nurturing, sometimes playful, sometimes indulgent overtone, that often engages in roleplay, ageplay, and a punishment dynamic.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 6/1/2010 9:10:45 AM

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quote:

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I'm a Daddy Dom. It's about cherishing who you play with and being very protective. I don't allow swearing or vulgarity as I'm a Victorian Daddy.

Fuck. I'd be grounded all the time.

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 6/1/2010 9:13:44 AM

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It's cute how many little girls still have their baby fat.

*snort*

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 6/1/2010 10:03:43 AM

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One is that from your experience you likely hold a prejudice toward older men...very likely seeing your father in them even when it likely isn't true and one that in your mind...dose not allow these men to be themselves.

And second because a daddydom is not your father and is instead at least partially a figure of discipline mixed with care for his happy little girl, you must have been 'meeting' the wrong men.

For me and many others I've run into...a daddy and his little girl do in fact create a special bond and that can and has produced love affairs like no other.

Euhm dude, your "analysis" and assumptions suck.

A prejudice towards older men?
My former Master is 43, nearly 20 years older then myself.
My current dating pool ranges from 25 (my own age group) to 55 (which is I THINK... older men).

Further, I've always fallen for men who are very strong authoritarian figures. Very strong men, in control of their lives, who were very responsible and accountable in everything they did.
Most certainly not the "wrong" men.

I don't like the daddy-dom dynamic because it's an incredible sexual turn-off for me.
Seeing that I'm a very sexual creature, and sex and sexuality is extremely important for me, I don't see a point in being with a guy that creeps me out and that turns me off.

Calling me a little girl in the bedroom, or having me call a guy daddy is just about the BEST guaranty that I will not want to have sex with that person.

I am a sexually mature woman not a girl, and I expect a man who can handle a woman as a sexual creature.
I will not be treated as if I'm still a little girl, because the simple fact is that I'm not still a little girl.

If you're going to pseudo analyze my statements like that, I might as well do the same to yours and claim that you are not mature and confident enough to handle a real woman in the bedroom, and that you therefore have a tendency to go for infantile or immature women, because they are easier to handle...

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RE: Daddy verses other types of dominants - 6/1/2010 4:30:17 PM

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The easiest way to tell a Daddy Dom from a Master - just check what they have written on the inside of their underwear.

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